Reviews of Match.com

I am Giving match 0 stars. I am a wife who found out her husband(of 20 yrs) has a profile on match.com. The women he is talking to believe he is "newly single","newly separated". Not true. This site should require some kind of proof of marital status. I agree with a previous review ,why should anyone commit or stay committed,when they can look at the menu any time. I know if someone wants to cheat,they will,this and other site just make it too easy.
My advice to anyone looking to meet someone is get yourself out of the house and off the computer. Join groups,take a class ,let friends fix you up. There HAS to be a better way.
Any woman talking to "Geosong58"age 50 Smithtown-Be aware- This is a married man with 4 children.-

I have tried Match.com a couple of times. (free trials as I just can not afford to sink that amount $ into something that isn't going to work) I sent out 23 emails to guys in my area. Like the town I work in so they didn't even have to travel. I got one response and that was a thanks but no thanks. On other sites I am told how pretty I am and what a nice person I am. but I can't even get a guy to look at me twice on Match.com
Glad I didn't pay for the privilege of being ignored.

This will shock you, & every word is true. I was so convinced that there are bogus profiles, that I decided to do an experiment. I wanted to see through the woman's eyes, why I could get a girl to view my profile, wink, & email back, but can't convert it to phone number's & dates...

So I did a phantom female profile using a picture of a model off of google. The results are shocking. 30 emails in the first day, over 168 people viewed the profile 411 times, and 34 winks too. Perhaps us guys, under-estimated just how pathetic & depressing we really are. Damn man, we should have been born hot women, they got it made. Doctors & lawyers were emailing the phantom too. How dumb would you feel if I gave you the screen name, & you were one of the guys who thought you had emailed thinking you had a chance ?

So here is what I make of this, I consider myself a stud with good looks & I've dated some highly sought after women. Match is lowering ourselves to a standard that we didn't even realize. The shear competition is mind boggling, 30 emails a day girls receive. And anytime there is money involved, there is lying & cheating.

Match creates phantom profiles, and hires people (probably guys like us in Texas) to pretend they are girls & wink back at us, to get our money. Then we scratch our heads wondering why the hell we can't get a date.... Was it something I said in the email ? hmmmm.... Look at what we are doing to ourselves... It's pathetic, we are better than this.....

If you don't believe me, try seeing it though a girls eyes, it takes a faker, to really be able to spot the fake profiles, you can tell, because when they are fake, they get lazy and don't write much words, or answer "any" to all of the preferences about "their date".

Keep your heads up men, it's back to scoring babes at the beach, at the gym, at the mall, and anywhere in between.

We don't need match or any other website for that matter. If anything I'm wondering if I should start a dating website, and just pretend to be women all day, I'd probably be a millionaire based on the result I shared above for only a 24 hour time period.

This was not a joke, I did this, and there are paid professionals who do this for a living making fake profiles..... I want my $40 back, that would cover food & liquor while watching the next Laker game.

I'm really disappointed with Match.com. I'm attracted to skanks, and I must admit, there are a lot of them on Match. I even wrote in my profile what I'm looking for...."I just want to meet a skanky slut, move in together and have a few daughters. I want to raise them as low class skanks, and having a skanky mother will be a big help. We can take them to get body piercings, and to the tattoo parlor every Sunday. We won't let them wear underwear, and we'll seek out the latest in skank clothing on MTV." Here I am winking and emailing the most tattooed, ugliest skanks on Match.com, and they ignore me!
What's the problem, I have a job? How else do you expect me to pay for your pierced ass and skanky daughters? And yeah, I have a car. What, that isn't one of your criteria? How else are we gonna get back and forth to the tattoo parlor, and then drop your ass on Hollywood and Vine for your night job? I know, you're used to dating guys without cars, jobs or money. But just think of all the tattoos, piercings and boob jobs I could buy for you and the girls. You wanna be a skank, I'll make you the lowest, sleaziest skank on the planet. With my money and your ratty wrinkled ass, together we can plunge to new depths in skankdom.

Large amount of bogus profiles, winks and emails. I received a wink from one young lady, her profile said she lived in Austria, wanted to meet guys within 60 miles of Toronto, Canada, and described the places she likes to spend time in San Diego, CA. That was the first wink I got immediately when I signed up. I knew it was bogus, but I wrote back anyway just to see how absurd it could get. Then her profile vanished. I have received several other winks and emails from women across the country, most of their profiles vanish right away.
I can deal with all that, though it is a waste of my time. My concern is with women who ignore emails. I take the time to read a woman's profile, see if we have common interests and then write a short polite email. So far I have gotten zero response. I can just see the women sitting behind their computer screens, as guys line up to seek her approval. Knowing there will be a steady flow of emails from men, she feels the power. She can acknowlege them or squish them like bugs.
"Get off my screen, creep, you're one inch too short" delete
"you don't make enough money" delete
"you don't look like Tom Cruise" delete
"you're one year too old" delete
"you fit all my criteria,but sorry chump" delete
There they sit, Masters of the Universe. The 30 something women desperate to get married, yet no guy will ever be good enough. They aren't even good enough to reply to, let alone date. I've only been on a week, and I'm about done with it. Go ahead "ladies", play your games. Any guy worth having won't put up with this b.s. This millionaire isn't going to waste any more time with you. I leave you to your divorced unemployed goons. Ha ha ha

I have been a match user off and on for around a year now and am in the last month of my subscription. After reading many of the previous posts I must say I have had some success with the site. I dated a gal off of match last year for around 4 months before she confided to me she was looking at leaving the area. Obviously it was not necessary to pursue a relationship. After a few month hiatus I decided to give match another go. I have been on probably a dozen dates over the last 5 months however no sparks flew. Many of the gals I have met are nice people the issues, either not my type in person, physical chemistry was lacking, or the women came across as being plain boring. I am not renewing my membership and this is why.
The ration of men to women is 60% to 40%. I have read a few different articles that backs up this claim. Many women who I have talked with, good looking gals, who used match explain how they are bombarded with 20+ emails daily. I am a good looking guy in great shape with a great income, so I generally contact this set of women because that is all I have ever dated and of course is my preference. The good looking women are busy professionals and do not have time to either look at every profile or read every email when they are receiving 20+ a day. There is also a numbers game. The women I may be emailing could already be talking to 4 or 5 different guys at a time, which I usually am doing with women who bite to my mails, and disregard my email.
In quantifying success of match vs. the real world bars, art openings, networks, activities etc. I have a much better success rate getting a number and going out on a date with the later. I did an experiment by emailing 40 women over a one month period. I read through their profiles thoroughly and responded with a hint of wit and with language that proved I knew what they had said in their profile. I picked women within 20 miles of where I live, had multiple interests (travels experiences, outdoor activities, etc.), similar belief systems, educated, and well rounded good looking women (not necessarily the 10's) on the site. I received around 8 initial responses 20% and wound up going on dates with 3 of them less than 10%. After going through this experiment I have concluded I have a much higher rate of success in getting a number at a bar, art opening, or activity here in LA around 30% success rate as of late as opposed to less than 10%. In my opinion the number one key component to attraction is body language and chemistry. Trying to date through a virtual medium discards this key component limiting success and possibly the reason why I have met more attractive and conducive women in person as opposed to an image on a screen. Finally there is a let down when you meet someone in person where there is no chemistry, though there was through email, because of the lack of non verbal attraction. I often found myself hyped up prior to than dissapointed after dates. I found myself being a serial dater at one point due to multiple dates in a week with the continual let down. To those looking to sign up to match, beware. Try your luck at the supermarket, farmers market, bookstores, art openings, parties or even bars first, a better rate of success and body chemistry is more likely to materialize in these venues.

Gentlemen

All of your comment are probably true, but please keep in mind that it works both ways. I have been on Match for 2 years off and on. When I leave for awhile and come back,I always see the same profiles as before. Very few new faces. I also have sent out a few flirt/wink and have received nothing back. Well I just figure its their loss. I am a 64 yr old good looking women. Financially secure. I don't need your money. Even at my age I can turn a few heads. I have met some very nice men and some very different men. I also have notice alot of men put "Any" for what they want in a partner. Well that tells you alot. Guess they will take anything they can get. If your serious about this than please fill in the blanks. I know women do this do. I just bypass profiles like this. If they don't have the time to answer the questions than I don't have they time either.
I really feel that most of the people on Match are what are called
Players. They meet you and go on to the next one. I really wonder how many people are serious about finding someone.
I also joined a couple other programs, only to find alot of the same people on these programs. Most men in my age bracket are looking for women in their 50's. So where does a women my age find a man in the same age bracket with NO Baggage, ready to enjoy the rest of their lives together.

I was quite relieved to find this site.
My match.com experiences (going into 2 months subscribed) have been mixed but more or less right in line with the 100 or so reviews I've read. Frustration, anticipation, apprehension, excitement, scams, bait-n-switchsters, MDC's efforts at 'deep insights' into my psyche based on which box I toggled of the available options...yep...all there.
Not to re-hash the hash but I have two anecdotes I thought were worth sharing after reading a few pages of reviews.
First, I was fortunate enough to not only get a wink reply, I was able to cultivate 'a beginning'. Circumstances not entirely beyond my control led to me standing her up, old-school style (FWIW, I think that no activity or responses for 2+ weeks is a sign that my karma is catching up with me). I also began to wonder if there was some secret feedback slot where other users could hep other users about their experiences. In any event, I did make contact with her again to apologize for being a heel and might turn that stone again when I recover from MDC and ~this~ Really Weird Encounter...The reviewer that recommended checking at (b)Lowe's or Home Despair for available folks made me grin...Shortly after subscribing and being way way naive about online dating, my profile shared some really specific information that people who live around here would key in on. One of the side-effects of my job is that I appear in the press a lot and am somewhat recognizable...if you know who you're looking for...
So I'm at (b)Lowe's picking out veggies for the garden on Saturday morning...only vaguely resembling the photos posted on my profile as I was dirty, sweaty, etc. Out of the blue, this woman approaches me and starts quoting my profile to me. As if that wasn't weird enough, she then critiqued it, and pointed out that some of the information could be perceived as misleading (the city associated with my ZIP code is in another county). She then went on to chastise me for being a liar...
Needless to say, I got a little freaked out. Fortunately for me, I don't shop at that location much so I just turned tail and left the store.
I think that the observations that hit the closest to home for me were about the women who read Eat, Pray, Love and that perhaps many of the women with subscriptions and profiles are subscribed for their own personal esteem needs, not necessarily to find a 'significant other'.
Thanks everyone for the reviews. Seriously. I don't feel like I'm flying by the seat of my pants anymore...I'm more interested in talking to the people who wrote the reviews than the shadowy women profiled on MDC. Now I'm really wary of subscription renewal and cancellation, etc.

I just have a simple question. Can someone please explain to me why there are so many profiles from women with "any" for many of the criteria of what they are looking for. But then when you wink or e-mail them, first they don't even read the e-mail or even check out your profile. Are these people just put on there by the site?

I must also add to the negative reviews of this site, and in fact one review resonated with me very well.

When you are 40 and still would like a family, a woman who you are attracted to and who is seemingly intelligent and successful...well, you are looking for someone a little younger generally. You aren't limited to a younger lady, but you will have better luck in that arena I think.

The review below, from May 27th that resonated with me was the one with the rhetoric concerning the 30 plus year old ladies that look at the screen and think

"you one inch too short" delete
"you don't make enough money" delete
"you don't look like Tom Cruise" delete

and so on. Now, admittedly, I'm no George Clooney, and I will admit I am picky about physical appearance myself. But I had this crazy idea, I don't know why, probably from hearing it over and over from all of my female friends, that women tend to look not only at physical appearance but the personality, yada, yada.

OK, so here I am, 40, divorced, and have a seven year old little boy...there's the baggage, but the vast majority of the women I write to seem to indicate that this is fine in their profile. In fact many of them are divorced single parents themselves.

Alright so, I'm 40, in pretty good physical condition, only modestly overweight (hardly at all), have all of my hair, have a good job, am extremely educated (doctorate degree), I consider myself somewhat handsome, ....... I have written over the past year hundreds of emails...no responses. None! And it's not like I wrote insincere or overly forward things. It was mostly things like, "hey i noticed in your profile that you like biking. I'm also a biker and I thought we'd have something in common" and so forth

I really don't get it. It has been a huge disappointment to me.