Reviews of Match.com

I'm writing this review basically to respond to the males on this site who feel/believe that women have it made on Match.com. Here's my story while I lived in Spokane, WA.

First 1 was a cutie I would have never thought would have been interested in me. He actually lived in Seattle, we e-mailed then made the big leap. 1st phone call! During the call he told me how he loved asian women, preferred women with a 2-to-1 chest to waist ratio (my profile stated a few xtra pounds), told a story about his dog watching him have sex then attempted to initiate phone sex. I just hung up the phone. I must say he later sent an apologetic e-mail...I was over it!

2nd was a guy several years younger than me (I would have preferred older). I was 26 at the time, BTW. He was a good conversationalist, didn't bring up sex immediatley, had an interesting job and we made it to phone calls and even texting during work. Then once it was time for our first meeting he flaked.

I moved on to guy #3 and that didn't work out. We just didn't have a connection...PERIOD. We both acknowledged that, then he attempted to initiate sex with me.

Back to guy #2. He apologizes, he was nervous, etc. So we set-up another meeting...he didn't want to call it a date...HELLO MY 1ST CLUE! We lived about 20 minutes away by car and agreed to meet in the downtown area of Spokane, we'd have a few drinks together worst, right? Wrong! When we talked about an hour prior to our meeting he began to insist meeting at my home. I had already let it slip that I lived in the downtown area, so he reasoned it would be close and he was doing all the traveling. I refused but for the next hour he text me..YOUR HOUSE and/or GIVE ME YOUR ADDRESS. So I simply blocked him and started ignoring his cell calls.

In between these dates the guys who contacted me were all about sex, a recently released felon, and a guy I think who had...2 kids in Idaho, 1 in Montana and 2 in Oregon...in short a bunch of kids,k? He also bragged that every woman he sexed fell in love with him. *sigh* So I changed my profile and specifically stated in words..."If you're looking for quick sex, I'm not the girl for you, men with several children by different women, and felons need not apply"

That leads to guy #4...He was convicted of a felony as a teenager and had one child. Get comfy for this story. He was great online and on the phone. I looked forward to meeting him. We did, my profile states "a few xtra pounds" I had up several pics and stated that I was a smoker. His stated that he was athletic and went to the gym daily. The man I met was only "going to the gym daily" if there was also a McDonald's buffet inside. He was bordering obese, decent face and receding hairline. He was a very decent guy though. We had plenty of fun and played pool. Had more the 2 drinks I agreed to meet for and walked home a little tipsy but thinking I'd just met a decent guy. He later told me that he moving 3 hours away for school soon, I was actually sad. We talked later on and I told him I'd like to just be friends. Later he insisted on a 2nd outing. He insisted he come me up at my home. Well we got to the bowling alley and he wanted to have a drink or two first. I started to show him pics from my Spain trip and he seemed very disinterested, so I tried turning the conversation to his bowling, still quiet and distant. So I lit a cigarette. He started in on me about how smoking is bad for you, isn't sexy, unlady like...do I need to go on. Well I had smoked on our first date, stated that I'm a smoker on my profile, and already stated I just wanted to be friends. I listened to his tirade, he stormed off saying he was going to the bathroom. Then well he just NEVER CAME BACK. I was incredibly embarrassed. I wrote him an e-mail when I got home. Calm...asking y? He said because he didn't like smokers, thought it would be funny and didn't think I would never have sex with anyway. Well I couldn't argue with that last part could I?

You could imagine that that was my last date/contact on Match. Was it match? Was it me? It may have been my profile. Perhaps it was too assertive? But what I blame most is the city. Blacks made up 2.1% of the city, Hispanic 3%. Do I have a problem dating white males? Not at all, but most who approached me simply wanted to experiment. Spokane offers no diversity. When there is NO diversity it can lead to ignorance about other races. That's my opinion anyways.

Oh I forgot one more guy. Also from Idaho, much older, more mature. We met for drinks. Had 2 admit I didn't feel a connection and left. He wanted to talk a little more in his car first. Why not? Well he forced his tongue down my throat (with his hand on my head) and tried to fondle me while holding one of my arms down. Thankfully, humans only have 2 arms. I used my free arm to open the passenger door spilled out of the car. Grabbed my purse and walked away. Nothing major, just creepy. I should have NEVER gotten into that car in the first place.

Here's the kicker I would try match.com again in a different city. Truthfully, except for the "fondler", I didn't meet better quality men on my own. At least the guys from Match seemed to state their motives and wishes outright. Other guys I met? Well they seemed to use the fact that we had friends in common to show me they were trustworthy, etc. In truth at the end of the day no guy I met anywhere in Spokane WA was interested in a monogamous relationship with me. That fact used to make me pretty sad, but oh well that's life right?

So all you great guys who think average girls get their pick of the litter on Match think twice. I got a few dates, but none us found what we were really looking for. No matter the guys age, race or income everything came down to one thing. Oh I should state my profile stated "I am looking for a relationship, otherwise I would be on AFF."

First, the software, it has a non-intuitive interface that is quite cumbersome to use. It errors out frequently, for example; when you get matches by email and click a profile link it always returns a "Internet Explorer cannot display the webpage" message unless you are already logged in, it also frequently errors out when you move from one page to another, particularly annoying when you have spent time composing a message and it loses the contents.

Additionally, the system supposedly protects your actual email address but I have found numerous times where it actually forwards the profile's address in an improperly formatted email header.

The system is very slow at updating profile statistics like how many views and who has viewed your profile. For example, it is quite common to get messages from members who according to match have not even viewed your profile.

The search also brings up odd results when you change the "order by" criteria, for example, you say go from original order to latest activity date then back to original order and the profiles are listed completely different than the first time they were ordered "origianlly". Calls into question the entire search methodology.

Overall, the software is very poor.

Second, the database, there are a lot of members, however female profiles get an order of magnitude more traffic than male profiles. I have communicated with dozens of members of both sexes and verified that a typical female member gets at least 100 times more views and messages than a corresponding male profile. So, good if your a woman, not so great for men. Additionally there is no mechanism for verifying simple things like members ages, consequently many, many members lie about their age rendering the searches unreliable at best.

Members also receive many winks and messages from bogus profiles which are apparently involved in some sort of email address mining activities, again, there are simple safeguards available to prevent this but Match.com fails to employ them.

Overall, that the database is large is about the only good thing you can say.

Well, I kind of wish I would have read these "glowing" reviews before plunking down $100 to join Match for 6 months. I've been on the site for about 4 months and received a few winks, which I returned. Unfortunately, soon after my reply these women's profiles disappeared from the site. And, that leads me to my biggest issue with Match... removed profiles! It seems like the most appealing women appearing in my match-by-mails almost always have their profiles removed by the time I click on them. A couple of times, I've been early enough to actually get their profile. In fact, one last week was so appealing (interests and personality, not just looks) that it prompted me to join so I could have the best chance of communicating with her. Well, of course a few hours later, her profile was gone as well. So far, I've only "connected" with one woman, but as it turns out, she's actually living in Russia, not Oregon! Sure, she seems nice enough and the pics she sent are appealing. However, I'd say there's probably an 80-90% chance that it's a scam. I'm waiting for the inevitable "please send me $800 for a Visa so I can come visit you e-mail". Of course, her profile is also gone but she got me her yahoo address before it was removed from Match. Bottom line, I am very suspect of this site. Either they have really bad scam/fraud identifiers, or worse, they are creating some of these appealing profiles themselves in order to spur interest in becoming paid members. Either way, there customer service has been far from helpful. I just sent my 4th e-mail specifically asking what is going on with these disappeared profiles. I'm not holding my breath for an honest answer.

I joined Match several months ago, and I have lots of opinions about it. I also took the time to read through some of these reviews on here which triggered many thoughts.

Just a little background so you know who is writing here: I am young-25, no marriages, kids, and minimal baggage. Independent, sweet, caring.. etc. [Not to mention very pretty]

The first few weeks of joining Match was exciting because it was a new experience. But I had to go through AT LEAST 20 winks per day (?) and 10-15 messages per day. It became overwhelming/exhausting/tedious. Not to mention that I couldn't remember any conversations.

I had to read the terrible "generic messages" with lengthy information and zero stimulation. Sometimes the same messages were sent to me two or three times. I also had to sift through the "hey wat up" messages. I had to squint at the dark photos taken of a naked torso in the bathroom mirror. Yuck.

Men of ALL ages were contacting me. Yes older than my father. That only adds to the time it takes to delete winks and messages and check profiles. I was thinking - I NEED A SECRETARY FOR THIS!!

I also had to block out non-buddies on my AIM. Men were IM'ing me because they figured out that my buddy-name was the same as my match-name. Some men even somehow found my college facebook account. Hmm. One man told me how ugly my dress was after I told him I didn't want to communicate with him anymore.

Now I am aware that I have to put in the time and effort if I want to meet someone. Which I did. Over the course of the last few months I have emailed many men. Many. It is absolutely impossible to reply to all messages without the secretary. I have talked to some on the phone. I have gone on dates with at least 8 men.

Some relationships ended after an email revealing some type of deal breaker such as "I don't like to travel." One relationship ended after speaking on the phone and hearing approximately 100 yawns from the person and 1 burp.. and acting appalled that I am not into CSI Miami.

The "public-place" dates we not too bad.. I made sure I was interested first. I had a great time with Date #1 but the chemistry wasn't there. Date #2 looked nothing like his picture so from the first minute of the date I was thinking uh-oh. I went out with Date #3 twice and had a good time until he started sending me very invasive text messages demanding to know where I was. He ultimately told me that he was too insecure and he wasn't making enough money for me. What?!?

After being on match for a little while- I realized that match wasn't able to fulfill what I am looking for. I don't want 100 matches and 100 different communications going on. I want one person who is able to make me feel like the only person in the world. I don't want 100 emails to answer per night. I want one special conversation. I don't want to drive to a date feeling nervous and unsure. I want to be excited and happy to be seeing that one person. And although for some Match may lead to that path- I really think its rare.

For girls- its like fighting through a jungle of emails. It's hard to make it through withough tossing in the towel. It is not even necessarily an ego boost- being the target of desperation is NOT what a woman wants.

I could most likely write all day- but I don't want to take over here. Do I recommend it? Sure.. You live, you learn. But c'mon Dr. Phil.

I joined Match several months ago, and I have lots of opinions about it. I also took the time to read through some of these reviews on here which triggered many thoughts.

Just a little background so you know who is writing here: I am young-25, no marriages, kids, and minimal baggage. Independent, sweet, caring.. etc. [Not to mention very pretty]

The first few weeks of joining Match was exciting because it was a new experience. But I had to go through AT LEAST 20 winks per day (?) and 10-15 messages per day. It became overwhelming/exhausting/tedious. Not to mention that I couldn't remember any conversations.

I had to read the terrible "generic messages" with lengthy information and zero stimulation. Sometimes the same messages were sent to me two or three times. I also had to sift through the "hey wat up" messages. I had to squint at the dark photos taken of a naked torso in the bathroom mirror. Yuck.

Men of ALL ages were contacting me. Yes older than my father. That only adds to the time it takes to delete winks and messages and check profiles. I was thinking - I NEED A SECRETARY FOR THIS!!

I also had to block out non-buddies on my AIM. Men were IM'ing me because they figured out that my buddy-name was the same as my match-name. Some men even somehow found my college facebook account. Hmm. One man told me how ugly my dress was after I told him I didn't want to communicate with him anymore.

Now I am aware that I have to put in the time and effort if I want to meet someone. Which I did. Over the course of the last few months I have emailed many men. Many. It is absolutely impossible to reply to all messages without the secretary. I have talked to some on the phone. I have gone on dates with at least 8 men.

Some relationships ended after an email revealing some type of deal breaker such as "I don't like to travel." One relationship ended after speaking on the phone and hearing approximately 100 yawns from the person and 1 burp.. and acting appalled that I am not into CSI Miami.

The "public-place" dates we not too bad.. I made sure I was interested first. I had a great time with Date #1 but the chemistry wasn't there. Date #2 looked nothing like his picture so from the first minute of the date I was thinking uh-oh. I went out with Date #3 twice and had a good time until he started sending me very invasive text messages demanding to know where I was. He ultimately told me that he was too insecure and he wasn't making enough money for me. What?!?

After being on match for a little while- I realized that match wasn't able to fulfill what I am looking for. I don't want 100 matches and 100 different communications going on. I want one person who is able to make me feel like the only person in the world. I don't want 100 emails to answer per night. I want one special conversation. I don't want to drive to a date feeling nervous and unsure. I want to be excited and happy to be seeing that one person. And although for some Match may lead to that path- I really think its rare.

For girls- its like fighting through a jungle of emails. It's hard to make it through withough tossing in the towel. It is not even necessarily an ego boost- I feel like the target of desperation and that is NOT what a woman wants.

I could most likely write all day- but I don't want to take over here. Please respond if you care to comment.

Match.com and other dating services have been recently in the news for setting up fake profiles to attract new customers. It is an outdated reel and hook technique but it looks like it is working. We needed a site were we can expose such profiles to warn others from being baited and scammed.

www.stoptheact.com is such a site. We can expose the truth about such profiles and warn other people about potential frauds and online predators.

This is a new site so we need to populate it and spread the word out as much as possible. It will give us a database were we can search by name, state, dating service. Before you meet a stranger for a date.............why not see what others have to say about thier experience with this person.

It is broken down into four levels of offense. From something foolish to real life convicted predators.

Lets flip the switch on those who are trying to take advantage of our children

I have read several reviews on here sounds just like my experience I had no responses to emails they just take your money. The credit card I used I had to close it because they keep charging it this was only to stop them. The one women I did hear from when I mentioned witch was in my profile that I was widowed she seemed like she could not handle it and pretty much ignored my emails. I heard someone wounder what women are really looking for its MONEY exceptionally from older men. For me match.com was a big wast of time and money I think I'll just stay single match.com cured me of online dating I also tried eHarmony,mate1 and Plenty of fish all bad at least for older men.

Waste of money and time. Same women on there for YEARS.

Not the greatest customer service.

Just trying to make money off lonely people.

I guess they are in trouble for billing people after they cancel, and sending employees on dates with customers.

Try OK Cupid or Plentyoffish.com. Same deal, but they do not charge money.

My experience on Match.com was bad... i have sense of humor, so I tried to convey that in my profile. They cancelled my account, and took my money. Now I can't log in, customer service claims they know nothing - but they refuse to give me a refund.

I paid for 3 months. They gave me three days.

Steer clear.

Read the reviews of Match before you join. Signed up for 3 monthes to give it a try. Emailed and/or winked to about 180 ladies. Did not get even one "No thank you", (which the service makes it easy to do with one click by the way)

So far I have gotten one short email back of a girl showing interest. FYI...I live in Dallas where there are thousands of people using the site. I am 6', 190, have a good job, have pics posted....followed all their "Instructions" on how to build a profile...etc

Wish I had read these other reviews before throwing the money into it

I signed up at match.com for 1 month and lost interest after a week. I've gotten quite a few winks and a few emails.( being a female on this site I guess this is typical given the female to male ratio.)I don't know why all these guys are complaining about all the "stuck up" and "ignorant" women not giving them a chance while they're on here talking about how they don't want to date fat and ugly women. Why don't you give them a chance like you expect us to give your fat and ugly ass a chance! I think what's wrong with any online dating. All we have is a picture to look at. The profiles don't mean anything because they're all generic! Virtually all profiles of men I looked at said more or less "I am very loyal and a warm, caring person who's old fashioned and I treat women like princesses". First of all that's bull****, Not after I've read some of the crude comments left by you charming men. second of all that doesn't tell me anything about who you really are. So since most women on this site get hoards of emails and winks,they are going to pick the best looking one out of the pack. Wouldn't you guys!? I cancelled on match because I would much rather go out with the average joe with a unique personality I meet somewhere than some guy from match with a great picture that I know nothing about.