Reviews of Friend Finder

Adult Friend Finder

This site is a complete joke of frauds. I deleted my profile when I saw the same picture with two names and received at least four spam messages in a week. I'm sure there are many legitimate women on the site...good luck finding them.
I do live in a small town, so I knew the person supposedly 4 miles away was a fake. I double checked using a couple of flirts and emails.
I am close enough to NYC to actually travel there but seriously question whether one girl was really ALWAYS online.
The one person I did have a "conversation" with was willing to relocate and wanted my number in one email. I'm fairly well-endowed, but not THAT well. LOL. That profile also indicated she was an awarded European actress. I was hoping the hidden pic was Asia Argento but no luck....
I'm checking my card tomorrow to make sure it was charged once, then canceling the number.

***Save the cash everyone***

I'm a 30/m and I have had multiple hookups and several really great partners on AFF.

Yes, there are a LOT of scammers and fakes out there, you have to be able to weed through them. But there's also a lot of very real women and couples who legitimately want to play.

The good news is that the scammers are easy to find. If a woman has a model-quality pic and only 1 of them with a very generic profile, or something just doesn't seem to add up... it's probably not genuine.

I've probably met 7 or 8 different partners in the on/off 3 years I've been on the site.

Yes, men outnumber women probably 10-1, so guys... don't complain about it being a waste if you are fat/ugly/undatable... the site won't get you sex if you couldn't get it on your own!

Adult Friend Finder-------- Is the biggest scam. But I have to admit that its a good one, some ones getting rich off of it. When I signed up for the gold membership I thought that I would be able to do all kinds of things. Shortly after I realized that I was wrong. I could even send flirts to girls. It seemed that I had to upgrade to everything. Which I did not. Then I started to realize things. When I would sign on I would instantly get like 10 emails and flirts. When I would read them they would say damn near the same thing and some of them would say the same thing, but from different girls. When I finally got to talking to some one on yahoo messenger she was telling me that she was from here. I asked her where at and she gave me a name of a place on the east end. So I started to name off some places and she was like " yeah im right by there" the funny thing is the places that I named off were on the west end. Once she got busted she said she had to go then signed off. Right after this I deleted my account. To make sure that I did not get billed for more then what I signed up for, I got rid of the card that I used to sign up. I even put on my account info that " if I have to sign up for another web site to talk to you then I do not want to talk to you". I still kept getting emails from girls telling me that they wanted to to do that. THE BEST THING THAT YOU CAN DO IS AVOID THIS SITE!!!! IF YOU WANT TO THROW YOUR MONEY AWAY, YOU CAN SEND IT TO ME. HAHAHAHA There is only one real way to get what you want and thats the old fashion way.

Members of this site are sometimes obviously fake. The company will no doubt tell you they only have limited control of this, but in reality they are exactly behind it. I am guessing they create a huge network of worldwide individuals to work the members for money.
You will receive a host of emails from members who appear to be interested in you, and they will string you along with all sorts of stories, telling you they definitely want to meet you and you are “the one for them” and, especially, “I found your profile very interesting,” and “I was attracted to your profile most of all.” They will have fake members tell you anything to get you to pay or string you along.
The site is completely loaded with fake and shill profiles, and they no doubt have hundreds if not thousands of shills and con artists ready to work over your emotions to make you feel like you’re getting somewhere with them and headed towards a meeting, but you’ll always, ALWAYS fall short.
Hallmarks of their shill members are: horrible punctuation and grammar, wanting to chat with you on yahoo (they all have yahoo chat accounts), great interest in you and your profile, excuses for not having a phone or phone number, wanting you to visit them or getting you to send them money to visit you, inability to talk in depth about themselves (because they are faking being someone), and talking in the third person! (“this person” instead of “I” or “me” which is a psychological barrier people encounter when having to lie about themselves – they naturally do not want to and start to disassociate themselves from their “lie” persona, referring to themselves in the third person).
The friendfinder network includes Amigos.com, BigChurch.com, AsiaFriendFinder.com, FrenchFriendFinder.com, ItalianFriendFinder.com, JewishFriendFinder.com, SeniorFriendFinder.com, KoreanFriendFinder.com, and, of course, AdultFriendFinder (a very well known scam site).

Here is a conversation with a girl who clearly just wanted me to just pay her outright:

Jessica Jones: well,the only bill that i will want you to help with is the internet bills i will just need $1000 every month from you hope you can help me with that
Me: you need a sugar daddy! you can get one. there's even a site like that. I think it's called
sugardaddy. I'm trying to help, for real. Check it out... sugardaddie.com
Jessica Jones: so how much will you afford to send to me every month
Me:I'm not willing to send you anything! I am looking for friends and dating, not like pay offs!
Jessica Jones: sure,,i will like to be with you there
Me: I don't get you. are you for real? have you ever gotten someone to pay you like that?
Jessica Jones: i am also looking for long term relationship
Me: are you a call girl or something?
Jessica Jones: nope
Me: dancer?
Jessica Jones: well,i am not here for games ok well,i will need to go now i will talk with you later
This is obviously one of their rouge members who went off script and just wanted to scam me for herself. Most of them keep straight in line with some kind of fake persona that they use to try to dig money out of you, or personal information that they can use for identity theft, and generally string you along by appearing seriously interested in you.

The member above, Jessica Jones, also is listed as being in Los Angeles but is 200 miles away in some small town in middle California, and initially asked me to pay her to drive down to me. She also claims she lost hearing in *both* ears as a result of an automobile accident. Obviously a lie to keep off of the telephone with me while stringing me along to make me believe she wants to meet.

Another member by the name of Mellisa Cole claimed she was traveling out-of-the-country (first in England, then in the Phillipenes!) and came back to the states “early” just to talk to me. She was listed as being in Los Angeles but claims to live in San Francisco (or says she does). Claims she is a nurse, but her spelling and grammar were atrocious – no way she could be any kind of paid professional.

A third member, Yuliya Natacha, ALSO claims to be out of the country, in Akure city, Nigera, Africa. Claims to live in Jackson Hole, Wyoming. She got me to call her on an international number and kept asking me to keep trying. I am waiting to see what my phone bill looks like. She even called ME once, but hung up immediately, claiming it is costing her too much money.

These "members" collect your private information by engaging you in yahoo chats and will take your number to text you VIA yahoo SMS. They will display what initially appears to be genuine interest in you, but it’s all a complete lie.

Here is an excerpt from Wikipedia on AdultFriendFinder, which is an offshoot of FriendFinder:
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…reports state the user database is rarely purged, and a larger than average number of members are prostitutes 'looking for clients'. Others are scams advertising fake profiles using photographs taken from the Internet to 'fish' for email addresses, or to advertise for other websites. As with most dating services, they offer a free membership option, although there are thousands of reports of problems with the free and paid memberships. A free membership allows members to only edit their own profile but not communicate with other members, which requires a Silver or Gold paid membership…
In 2004 and 2005 the Ripoff Report published a report written by a former employee which included allegations of deceptive and/or criminal activity. These allegations included the inflation of the member database using false profiles, using computer code and archived chatroom logs to provide the appearance of greater activity on the site, and the use of bots to send emails from profiles that are not of actual people.

First off, I am a guy. Secondly this site is a SCAM SCAM SCAM!!

Ladies, I have this site firgured out.....women say they cant keep up with emails and they complain about being treated badly and meeting scary guys. Its just the opposite for men. We get the same emails (litteraly) over and over, but you never get anywhere.

I cant prove it but I think this site is run by a group of men who want to get laid, and thats ALL they care about. Why is that all the stories you read.........male members never meet any women, yet female members over swamped with offers? Many women report when they do meet a guy he is scary, rude, and even worse gives them an STD. Think about it.........it common sense now that I have been a member of the site.

Lets look at some other things as well:

1) As mentioned, my email responses from women were ALWAYS the same
2) I got a TON of flirts every day by standard members so I paid extra to communicate with them and as soon as I paid.........I couldnt even BUY A FLIRT. If I got 2 a day that was a good day compared to 100-150 a day before I paid for this service
3) Half of the emails were not even written properly. You could tell whoever was writting the email didnt speak english very well.
4) I would get photos of beautiful white women but their profile would say they are black. Or show a very attractive, petite girl but her profile would say she weighs 180 pounds, when the girl in the picture couldnt weigh 115 pounds.
5) My email responses would arrive at the same time every day. They NEVER VARIED........
6) The same girls I was "supposedly communicating" with would have a different Hotmail account to contact them at every day.

Now keep in mind I was a gold memeber as well. So I was supposed to have all the perks and I COULD NEVER COMMUNICATE with a real person on here thru email. Dont even get me started on the instant messenger........what a complete seperate scam that is!

This is only a "short" list of things. As I became more and more skeptical I decided to try a little experiment. I set up another personal email account that was secure and private and under my "handle." Once I got my account set up, every time I got an email from a woman I would give her my secure and secret email address. I would tell her I dont like the web sites email address and I dont trust it so just contact me at my peronal email address. Not to my suprise, not only did I not recieve A SINGLE email from women who were just dying to get in my pants, my emails on the adult friend finder web site just disappeared as well. I will say it again. Its a scam and I think its a web site run by only guys who want to get laid. There are no real people on there! You enter your personal info, photos (some are even nudes), your address, and credit card info to this site that is not even real. THAT IS SCARY PEOPLE. I travel ALOT for my job and I am lonely and could use some female companionship, but dont let your loneliness be replaced with stupidity! DONT DO IT!

J

ok just to show how messed up this site is, im on right now as a standard member and keep getting flirts. So i checked the 'who's viewed me' option and apparently im getting flirts from profiles that are inactive or turned off right this second!, so that leads one to believe
1. the profiles are fake anyway (more than likely) OR
2. the site powers that be are using existing profiles that are turned off to lure others, which is a grievous breach of privacy OR
3. they think we are so stupid we cant notice the discrepancy OR
4. a combination of all the above

Don't waste your time and just go to a bar like generations past have done if your trying to get laid!

AFF is for real, full of yanks and full of women from the other side of the world trying to find a dumb ass to send them money or more. But there are real members. I can honestly say I had more then one encounter with a person I met on aff and even a short relationship with one of them. I have really enjoyed the fact that there are members that do meet with others and do more then just talk.

But if you like me are from an area where most people don't speak english your chances are very limited and the number of available members that is not just looking for customers is very small. So you might want to consider other (local) sites instead of AFF.

rubbish. no genuine members, male dominated and full of yanks. there isnt a good thing about AFF, its a con. you dont hook up from this site all you end up doing getting your hopes up and wasting your money.
do not become a member on AFF. you dont get anything out of it, except for getting very dissapointed when you realise that you've spent £80 on a scam that 32 million people have fallen for! i gave it 1 star because i couldnt give it any lower. waste of time waste of money stick to the free websites at least they arent full of fake members.

I joined and tried doing some stuff and was told immediately that i couldn't do that unless i upgraded so i did to a silver membership so i did. being an elderly gay male,65 i started receiving members profiles near me. i would click flirt and then send emails to them and when i would receive answers they would be very short and as i would answer back and tell them in great detail what i wanted to do with them, they would seem a little interested but would not give me emails or telephone numbers. i became more and more frustrated and started contacting more and more members in hopes of making contact and then i received an email from a guy that seemed totally unrelated to aff and i asked him if he was from aff and he would never say for sure but he was only 35 miles away so i thought i was going to make contact we exchanged emails and he said we need to get together for coffee and i thought how nice it would be to meet him finally i sent him sexual pics and he begged for more and i sent more. the emails stopped coming and last night i tried to email him and i got back a failure notice the email adress was no more. i had noticed during the time i was emailing him that the email return times were 3 hours behind my time pacific time and i was probably talking to someone in california. i realized they were duping me and cancelled my card and they still haven't cancelled my silver membership. i am still checking it out occassionally and sending flirts and emails but i would not recommend aff to anyone

I have been using AFF for 8 years... I don't even bother with bars anymore, unless I want to play pool. I've been both a standard member and a silver member. I have never once had a problem with customer service... and the best part is - you can talk to a live person 24 hours a day. I've forgotten to turn off automatic billing multiple times and I've never had a problem getting a refund.

Keep in mind... there are over 900,000 men registered in CA but only 90,000 women. I get messages like there's no tomorrow... sometimes 15-20+ a day. If you're still on AFF check out my profile (add yourself to my network for face pics) Vanity7Sinsss