Reviews of eHarmony

O stars for eharmony!!!

I am participating in the free weekend trial offer and nothing has changed since the last time I paid for their rip'off!

I have 10 guys waiting to read my questions since friday and I am sure they will answer me by tomorrow midnight when the free trial period ends. I cannot get more matches because I have reached the max (but it is not my fault they do not answer!!!). What a joke! Oh, and the only one who actually answered, was cancelled right in my face by the system!!!!!!

Doug from Salt Lake, if you really exist and you ever read this, I DID NOT hit CLOSE MATCH. I really wanted to know you.

Thanks for nothing eharmony.

I've been a member for about 6 months. I think this is probably the biggest waste of money I've ever spent. First of all, majority of the matches they found for me were hundreds of miles away. Yes I'm willing to travel, but not when they are a couple of states away. I think eHarmony does not know the meaning of "willing to travel". Second, when sending communications to some of the matches, they just did not bother respond. It's not eHarmony's fault when people don't have the courtesy to reply but I really think they should include a feature that tells me if the person is dead or away on vacation or at least the last time she signed on the website so that I know I'm not waiting forever wondering what the hell happened.

When you first sign up, you get quite a bit of matches provided to you. But after a short while, that number decreases a lot. A lot of times you won't get any new matches for 3-4 weeks (sometimes longer), but guess what happened after I cancelled the membership? A day or two later, I get tons of matches again. I'm guessing they do that purposely to have you come back.

eHarmony is extremely expensive in comparsion to other dating sites. I personally hate the part where you ask your match some "fixed up" questions. Yup, you have to pick the questions they want you to ask before you get to the "Open communication" part. Not to mention that their choices on some of the questions were idiotic. And no, this site isn't free unless you don't care about how the person looks. You're free to review someone's profile but you don't see their picture. There's no physical descriptions in the profile either. Not that the other person is always honest about how they look but I think that's somewhat important to know. I will not recommend this site for anyone.

P.S. Beware of nigerian scammers. They are everywhere including eHarmony.

I joined eharmony during the Christmas Holiday and received all these matches. All of them were nothing I would meet on the street. Many were too old or had too many kids. I specified what I wanted in the long survey. Then they added another survey for 5.99 for a better personality match. No way. Then they added a verify of address 5.99. Then they add an additional personality profile 14.99 and I declined all the junk. Next a woman calls you ever week begging you to renew and it takes 3 months to really meet the love off your life. Whatever I will pass and meet my man the old fashioned way. Eharmony is a quick get rich scheme that prays on people who are unable to meet people.

I gave eHarmony a shot. I learned a valuable lesson. Any business entity that holds back information until you pay them is not worth pursuing. Gosh, even a low life drug dealer gives you a taste before he tries to hook you. eHarmony holds out the goods (especially photos) until you subscribe and then you find out that the goods are not so good. If they had given me a sample, I wouldn't have wasted my money. Things were so bad that I turned the matching program off to avoid disappointing hopeful souls with rejection. I found it to be a place of sad sacks, gold diggers, and others unfortunate...the very prey many kinds of companies seek to fleece.

I have been reading reviews here for over an hour and I've come to several conclusions about eHarmony and online dating in general:

1. In ANY dating situation you take your chances and hope for the best.

2. eHarmony's profile questionnaire is simply another marketing gimmick used to pull people into the site and has little or no bearing on who you're compatible with, who your're matched with or whether or not the match will be successful.

3. Women in general are still reluctant to admit to and/or accept the fact that men in general are impressed primarily by a woman's attractiveness first and not her opinions on, say, the best place to go for pizza.

4. Shown a photo of a woman or meeting her in person, a man knows within 2 seconds whether he wants to have sex with her or not. If he does, then that will be his only focus no matter what he happens to say or do that makes it appear otherwise.

5. Whether your dating experiences with eHarmony were successful or not is irrelevant. Please, for the women especially, do not post your lengthy descriptions about what kind of date you had or whether he was all you thought he was. Nobody cares.

6. Again, for the women especially, if you're not happy with eHarmony then cancel your membership and DO NOT go back. It reminds me of the women that get beaten by their husands but stay in the relationship anyway hoping that someday "he will change."

7. Push in your keyboards, go outside and meet people face to face. There is no secret formula, scientific breakthrough or whatever happens to be the latest craze that will grant you the man or woman of your dreams. Love is work. If you can't muster the time or effort to search for it, then you're ot serious about finding it.

Rating: No stars, but lots of pitchforks

Stay away; stay far away. Women are almost invariably "allowed" entrance, but "matches" tend to be of eHarmony's "flexible" kind. This menas that the time you spent answering all those meaningless questions yield less than ideal results. There is o easily accessible customer service phone or email number. It is difficult to cancel a membership. Yahoo on a freebie trial wil probably yield (questionably) better results.

Wow it is nice to know that I am not the only one who thinks this is not right. First I found that men are getting far more matches then the women. When my membership ended they had a perfect match who wants to communicate, he has sent the questions, but he will not get a response because I am not a member anymore. How rude to that guy! He thinks he is being ignored when I cannot respond. I have written three (3) letters to them. The first response offered me a membership at half price when I tried to activate I couldn't and when I tried to respond to the email - it bounced back no longer used. Plus insipid advice on what I must be doing wrong. I sent one letter with this web site and suggested that they read this so that they can offer better service. I have to think that they have also jumped on the avarice band wagon. My girlfriend had the same problem I did. I thought maybe it was just the men our age. I also found that supposedly you can only have 40 matches in your file. I did not like closing people because it is rude! And why cannot you have a better choice of responses or be able to make your own for closes - the way it is set up is rude and hurtful. It would be nice if people wanted to get know each other. oh well asi es la vida. Have fun to those it is working for and the others go do things you like to do.

I am sincere, honest, loyal, intelligent, and a fun guy to be with (aren't those the traits women are really looking for in a mate?). Because I am shy, and I am not in a work or social situation where I meet many eligible women, online dating seemed to make sense. Besides, I have two friends who met their spouses online. I was a paying subscriber at eharmony for two and a half years. During that time, I received 996 matches. That averages to just over a match a day. I ended meeting face to face with three of them and dated one for about a year. I do not think those are great numbers.

Well over a half of the matches I was sent did not bother to take the time to answer more than one or two of the questions asked in their "introductory profile". I ended up automatically closing them out. By their lack of effort, they indicated to me that they were not as serious about meeting someone worthwhile as I was. My logic was: If a match was not willing to make the effort to fill in a few blanks, how could I be sure that they would be able to follow through with what was necessary to make a successful relationship work?

Then, eharmony would feel free to change the parameters of my preferences in order to connect me with more matches. I did not wish to date anyone located more than an hours drive away, as I have a handicap and traveling can be difficult. But they thought it was OK to connect me with matches that were living over 200 miles away! Sometimes I was sent matches outside of my desired age range. I had to constantly check my settings to make sure they weren't diddled with. I shan't get into the topic of non responses after I made the initial contact, as enough words about that have already been written in these pages.

I realize that they could only send me matches with women who had signed up for their service, but after the time and money I spent there, I was not satisfied. It got to the point where I couldn't wait for my subscription to end. When I canceled, they started to send me promotional email in order to lure me and my $$$ back. I will give them credit that when I did make the call to customer service asking them to cease their solicitations, they were polite about it.

The thing that bothered me most about eharmony is this: When I first signed up, they seemed to be satisfied with just offering their customers their service. After they started accepting advertising, they plastered it all over their website and their newsletters started "suggesting" things to do on a date, like going to particular movies, or visiting specific coffee chains, etc., I found that to be annoying. I came to the conclusion that eharmony had sold out big time, and I was just another cog in their ever growing corporate machine. That, more than anything else, is why I canceled my subscription.

Thank goodness eHarmony rejects people who are in the process of getting a divorce. OF COURSE you are not eligible to date - you are still married, Charlene! If you are looking for an immoral matching service, try other services!

I tried eHarmony twice. Both were 6 month membership periods approximately 1 year apart. I received what I considered to be a fair number of matches from across the country. And I met my husband.

eHarmony is a wonderful tool for people who want to be married and take the commitment and process seriously. Marriage isn't based on apprearance, which fades. Or money, which is fleeting. Take your time and realize that wonderful things come in wrapping you couldn't possibly imagine.

I think if more people dropped their misconceptions about online dating and how to meet someone, they would be more successful in their search.

eHarmony is great! I would and have recommend it to anyone.