Reviews of JDate

Jdate like most internet dating sites, of course just doesn't work (that is if you define a successful dating site as one which helps you to find a mate). That's why they stay in business. If they were successful in achieving the goal of finding a soulmate, the enrollee population would diminish more and more with time, and their services would no longer be necessary. So their success is predicated on human superficiality, borne of Hollywood fantastic nonsense that has been burnished into our consciousness since childhood, namely, that one day we will be smitten with someone of the opposite sex (if you are straight, that is, and also if you will live long enough to see that "one day") and ride off into the sunset and become happily ever whatever. As a male, I have found the women to often lie about their age (but at most by just a few years; eg 39 always means early 40's, 49 certainly means 50 plus...that's a given). The photos are not representative and taken years earlier than stated. Many women who are overweight show only a headshot, and then fudge the body stats ( a "few extra pounds", let me assure you means a few dozen extra pounds!). People who don't even bother to take a decent photo advertise the fact that they are probably losers. I especially get a kick out of women who send the photo with their arm around the last guy they dated cutting him out of the picture, or holding their kids (hell, if I wanted to date your kid, I'd go to a kiddie dating site). Anyone who can't be bothered to at least purchase a reasonable digital camera and take a current accurate photo of themselves, or get a studio shot, are unlikely to be genuine in other aspects of their persona. And...the essays all start sounding cliche, tired and the same!

JDate is a useful database tool that asks the right questions of its members.

It allowed me to weed out 97% of its members (ie: the local high-strung nonsense) and leverage the very best feature of JDate: the ability to go global.

Being Jewish is more than brunch on Sundays. Even secular Judaism can be a tributary into a worldwide river of kinship. My most worthwhile experiences with JDate were not the west side martinis or occasional NJ trists, but rather, the connections I was able to strike with Jewish women in different countries... many connections materialising into meetings, a few meetings leading to further friendship, one such friendship leading to marriage. Would we be here, could I have met her without JDate?

What a great tool! Build a penpal friendship in advance of your next planned trip to Europe or South America. At the very least you can enjoy the company of a new friend in the context of tourism and forced temporality. Even more thrilling is being able to meet a fellow Jew, someone with similar inner values, yet someone with a different outer culture that can make for exciting and fresh exchanges! Escape the banality, the abyss of local dating, the bottomless pit of despair only deepened by the redundancy of JDate...

... unless you go global!

2 words: unrealistic expectations. Everyone wants something better than they can get. You'll get passed over by people who appear to be a good match, and you'll probably pass over those who think you're a good match for them.

I've been on JDate for almost two years and I haven't met anyone of substance. It's extremely hard for a single woman over 50 and likes to eat to meet a man who doesn't want someone who's at least 10 years younger then themselves, pretty, and thin.

The time to do online dating was around 2000 and before. The internet was new and a higher class of people had computers. You really COULD meet higher quality people in those days. The thing is: Those early pioneers have either been successful or moved on to more productive ways of dating. There may be a few holdouts from the old days and also the technically challenged that got in late on internet dating. Attractive and intelligent women that are getting lots of dates maybe just want that....lots of dates and no binding commitments. If they have been around a long time, it's unlikely they are looking for commitment.

These days, every dirtbag Ho and redneck Bubba has a computer and are marketing themselves. It's no wonder the OD world has turned out to be what it is. Maybe the smart thing to do is study out the situation, realize what it has really become, and move on to better ways of meeting women. I did a trial test today on American Singles since I had never tried that website. I was a male looking for females. The first person that wanted to IM me was a queer looking skinny guy in California that claimed to be looking for women. There were two other women soon afterwards wanting to contact me, neither of which had a photo and a definite uglo desperado persona about their profile.

That's the OD world these days, dudes. Join a high class old fashioned referral service by paying the stiff dues and verify beforehand their membership base and percentage of women if you want something besides an internet barbarian meeting you for coffee. It's like drive-by dating, if you know what I mean. I dumped the American Singles profile after a few hours of staring at butt ugly women. Maybe you need to be as logical with JDate or any OD site you are tempted to join.

I have a gal, I was just curious as to what the OD scene had turned out to be. I met my gal years ago online. Things have definitely changed for the worse and keep getting even worse all the time, it seems. The barbarians aren't just at the gates, they are at your throat by now.

I had great experiences on Jdate. I met my husband there, but I have to say, you must be patient and carefully screen the people you choose to actually decided to meet face to face. My method was contact, a couple of emails, a couple of phone conversations, and then, if we felt some chemistry, we'd meet for a drink. I met some wonderful men and had some great experiences on jdate. I had some jdates that were bad, creepy, or stalker types, but I chalked it up to 'live and learn' and moved on. There are lots of wonderful people on jdate, but I think I'm just one of the lucky ones. Come on...I have 4 teeneage daughters...if I can find a man there, just about anyone can!! Be open, be honest, and most of all, respect yourself and the people you meet.

So I've been on and off Jdate for about 4 years and I say with complete honesty that it's great. I've been reading through these reviews as well as reviews for other e-dating sites and all the reviews are more or less the same. Abyssmal.

My contention is that it is not the dating sites y'all have a problem with, it's the people. People are dishonest with their pictures, they only want sex, they're shallow... Well that's what many people are like. Most people are undatable.

From the reviews i read i've come to the conclusion that y'all have unrealistic expectations of online dating. Post a profile and 3 weeks later be madly in love with the woman/man of your dreams. Not likely.

I suggest that you see Jdate for what it is. An opportunity to meet jewish people that you might not have met otherwise. None of these sites has a magic algorithm that will connect you to your special person. Just be patient, be honest and use online dating for what it is: A tool to improve your chances of meeting someone special.

I tried it for about a year, went on about 40 dates, there are some younger guys who are handsome (few but they are there hidden) but they only wanted basically a booty call, not really someone to date. The older ones forget it, they lie about thier age , are overweight and it actually bothered me to keep saying "im sorry, you look nothing at all like your photo and there is absolutely no chemistry." I date younger guys anyway. I looked like my photo, im normal educated,attractive,in good shape, have no problem finding dates in the real world but thought okay, maybe these were a better quality of men and they are my religion which is easier. No such luck. Also word of advice to woman..ask someone if your pic is good and if it looks like you..your losing dates with some of the photos your using..same with you guys..stupid photos making stupid faces dont get a laugh they get a delete...

Look, its worth it to try for a year or so, but dont have high expectations..you might just find the one person on here at the same exact time as you that is honest attractive and really nice or they may even have a friend.Thats how i met someone, i had a great relationship with. My jdate introduced me to his friend..who didnt want me just to sleep with like my jdate wanted.. We liked each other instantly...Give it one year at max then get hobbies and meet people at starbucks .lol

this is for the general population of singles that are dating, if you have been on any sites longer than 3 years, it is time to give it a break, you will never find what you are looking for, just hope you will run into your true love on the outside world. ifyou are just looking to date and see whatis out there, then maybe internet dating might work for you as long as you dont take it to seriously, AS FOR THE MEN OUT THERE, IF YOU ARE LOOKING JUST FOR A FUCK OR A BLOW JOB IN THE BACK OF YOUR CAR, GO GET A HOOKER THAT IS WHAT THEY ARE THERE FOR. IF YOU NEVER PAID FOR SEX WELL MAYBE IT IS TIME THAT YOU DO. STOP LOOKING FOR US NICE WOMEN TO DATE FOR JUST THE SEX. WE WOMEN WANT MORE, AND I CALL YOU MEN AND NOT GENTLEMEN BECAUSE NONE OF YOU ACT LIKE A GENTLEMAN YOU ACT LIKE THE BIGGEST JERKS THAT EVER EXISTED. START ACTING LIKE GENTLEMEN AND MAYBE THINGS WILL GO YOUR WAY

I found this piece of information on the net. I think you'll find it enlightening.

"What this means, is that given current JDate rules that only allow paying members to reply to messages, if you buy a membership on JDate, only 3.5% of the people you send messages to will be able to reply or acknowledge your message in any way. See, JDate gives you no indication whether or not a profile you are interested in belongs to a paying member capable of replying. That kind of sucks. Imagine sending out 100 messages to 100 “active” members and only 3 (and a half) of them are capable of replying, let alone willing to reply!"