Reviews of JDate

JDate is a great website for meeting nice people to date, have relationships with and even marry. It's like that store "Hit or Miss." There are the success stories. Then there are those people online that talk the talk. They have well-written profiles, work for reputable companies, have gone to law school, make good salaries and look good on paper. Then whammy - it turns out they are not who they say they are - because no one really knows them. Their only friends are co-workers. So these people with nice facades come along. You meet them, I meet them and boom, before you know it, you've met a predatory personality. Mind you, he or she might not have a gun, but "Buyers Beware" - the some of these "players" may as well be the in the Cro-Magnon era. You've heard of craigslist, right, not much different...

I heard great things about JDate - after all my cousin met her husband on there. Since I am Jewish and thought it would be great to date someone is Jewish as well, I was under the impression that this site could be a great place to meet other people who were tired of the conventional dating scene.

When I first joined, it didn't seem to be that bad. I saw many profiles of interesting people, wrote a bunch of mails and even managed to get some conversations going with a few people. Maybe I was just lucky, but I even managed to go out on a number of dates. Despite their quirks (after all, I am far from perfect myself), two of them seemed to have some long term potential but unfortunately, the relationships fizzled rather fast. Other girls seemed to have strange attitudes and one actually spent the entire time on our date telling me how busy she was and complaining telling me about how guys on there kept stalking her.

Although I signed up for a three month membership, I quickly learned that was probably two months too many. In that short time, I noticed many of the same issues that others have mentioned on here - con-artists masquerading as members, inadequate search facilities, lack of responses by people who you swear would be a good match, constant e-Mails informing me that they found me a "great" match even though I saw their profile countless times before, and another weird problem that was not even mentioned -- when I moved messages out of the "Inbox" into a custom folder on the site, the messages seemed to disappear.

I often wonder if I should renew my account, but I probably won't even with their promotion for former members. Maybe match.com will be better - I'm going to check that one out this year.

I don't have anything against the site. I feel Jdate itself does a good job with providing matches. My problem lies with the users. In my opinion, it's hard to find a guy under 40 who is actually looking for a serious relationship. Alot of the guys on this website are under 30 and looking to have Skype or iChat sex or to just to meet and hook up. Most of the guys on the site say on their profile that they are looking for a long term relationship but they are not being honest.

JDate is a bunch of thieves. I canceled my membership, and they are keeping my money for this month even though my membership renewed only three days prior to the cancellation. Don't do business with them. They are crooks.

I left them because I did not get much of any results. There is not much to the site. Their method of providing "compatible" matches is very poor, but then again most sites do a poor job at that.

A feature article appears in the September 18, 2010 issue of Barron's Magazine about Jdate. While the text is mostly about the financials of the parent company, there are some interesting statistics about the size of Jdate and it's competitors. You can access the aritcle at http://online.barrons.com/article/SB50001424052970204297404575493803145564856.html?mod=BOL_hps_mag#articleTabs%3Darticle

I'm not going to sugarcoat anything or exaggerate my expeirence so far on jdate. This is what I will tell all of you who are thinking about joining.

I just signed up less than 24 hours ago. I so far have received 42 emails from over 30 guys. I didn't post any bad pics or an risque stuff. I have simple pictures of me fishing, (not attractive pic by the way) camping and at a few bars with friends. I'm 29 and have a child from a previous marriage. I have an associates degree and I'm self employed. I'm not a phd, i'm not a single never been married type of girl. I'm still getting a ridiculous amount of emails and quite frankly i'm having trouble keeping up. I'm not going to lie i'm attractive, that may be why. I dont get how so many of you are attractive but can't get an email back. Every email I sent out (4) were responded to. I would look over your profile and see if maybe one comment is making people think something that isn't factual about you. Oh and before you put it in your head that these men want a girl who isn't as smart or educated or whatever as them. I make a pretty good amount of money,self employed and have prior military service. So just fyi, men aren't intimidated by sucessfull strong women. There is something crying out "needy" "materialistic" or "husband shopping" in your profile. I know not nice, but why else would that happen if you are hot.

I also saw people talk about guys emailing you that were older. The oldest guy who contacted me was 42. The rest were all late 20's to early 30's. I also stated that my cut off age was late 30's. I put that in my profile. I have to be honest here though, my dad decided to go on jdate and he's contacted a bunch of late 40's and early 50's. He's 63 and has had a lot of responses and random emails sent to him. I asked him what his expeirence has been like and he said "great". Here is a 63 year old guy who's getting emails and he's not a doctor or attorney, a regular guy who wrote in my biased opinion a really good profile lol.

I'm also seeing people on here commenting about a "9" or a "hot chick" not responding. Well yeah, um they are probably getting a ridiculous amount of emails. As one person put on here "i'm a 7.5 and a 9 won't respond". Well okay let me just put it out there. Most guys on jdate have advanced degrees and very good jobs to go along with that. You don't stand out on jdate by being an attorney or doctor. You stand out in your profile, the written area. That 9, how many guys with advanced degrees, good jobs and good profiles does she get emails from? Now don't you think that every other "9" guy has sent her an email. I mean this may not be nice or friendly but it's common sense.

For those people thinking about joining, go ahead. It's known that people who have had bad expeirences are way more likely to write a negative review than someone who has had positive expeirences. There are normal people on jdate who can easily get a date but would prefer at this point in their life of finding another jew. We are such a small percentage of the population that jdate well makes sense.

i know i have a ton of spelling mistakes...I didn't stop writing ...tired going to bed

I made an online-dating video review. I hope you will find it helpful. Feel free to comment, subscribe, and let me know what your experience has been on these websites!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HuNCKk9y1uU

I get a lot of emails from Jdate and I am no Brad Pitt. Cost wise I feel it is good value relative to bar dating - if you consider that it is easy to spend £20 ($30) in a bar standing there being ignored whereas on Jdate you spend £20 and at least get dates out of it.

It is true that as a man you get out what you put in. The very best looking and apparently desirable women will not generally contact me. I get some quite attractive ones and a few ones I would not consider. There are also a lot of women in their 40's with kids whose motivation is not clear to me.

You get many women who contact you and then do not pursue things and others who are in obscure places such as South Africa and Australia. I am not sure what is the point of contacting someone in London if you live in South Africa!

There are some people with outdated photos although you can pick these up. Personally I am looking for someone with a bit of sweet caring innocence which is not a quality that is found often in the Jewish community particulary amongst women in their 30's that I am dating. I guess that is why inter marriage is so common due to the absence of nice uncomplicated single people in the Jewish community. Jdate will not solve this problem but I think if you cast a wide net then you may have more opporunity to find the big fish.

The people are cute, I think is a great way to meet other jews, but I hate it ´cause for you to be able to read an email you have to pay, and I find that unfair since people writing to you payed as well... I would find it much better if you could read your mails and respond to them even if you are not a paying member, after all the people that are sending the mails had to pay and I think with that payment they are entitled to have their mails getting to the other side...

Too much negativity in these reviews of JDate! Here's a positive review of JDate from a male in his sixties.

JDate is a tool, there are no guarantees. I had a good experience with JDate. I signed for three months, but I turned it off after two months. I met five ladies in person, dated two regularly, and finally settled on one woman. I like her a lot; we are getting along famously. Our relationship is now five months old, and we're very happy together. Perhaps I had some good demographics in my favor, considering that most men my age are either married, sick, or dead!

Yes, it helps to show a nice picture on JDate. However, here are other factors which I learned during this experience which worked for me:

1) Most of the profiles on JDate mention a sense of humor as a trait to be desired in a potential partner. Instead of claiming a sense of humor, relate some personal humorous items which would illustrate your sense of humor to the reader. I got some good reaction from doing this on my profile.

2) On your profile, do not give a large laundry list of details of who you are and your requirements for a potential partner. Excessive bullet points come across as platitudes and could be overwhelming to the reader. Instead, give the reader a "feel" for your personality without giving an overwhelming amount of detail. Too many details work as knockout points for the reader.

3) When corresponding via email, that is the time when the reader needs to get a firmer handle on where your head and heart are. Avoid platitudes.

4) During your initial meeting: If you don't sense chemistry, you'd best not pursue the relationship any further.

5) Women liked to be talked to, especially the case for Jewish women. We're Jews, we like to talk, laugh, and argue. If you only want physical satisfaction from a woman, JDate is not suitable to your needs. Talk, be a mentsh!

Good Luck.