Reviews of Lavalife

I think that Lavalife just provides a service. It's business! -- just like the business of packaging tobacco. The similarities between the two, are that they are addictive.

All these people are writing here saying there lots of "regulars" (as someone said) who have been on Lavalife for 7 years. 7 years? 5 years? Regulars? -- as in regular smokers, regular drinkers at the bar, hmmm!

Well, years ago the possibility of meeting people on Lavalife might have been an experiment. By now, if all these "regulars" have had no success in finding a relationship, and if they are still there, let's face it, they must be addicted.

Lavalife has succeeded. They have their customers "hooked". The site gets 3 stars in my book. Lavalife provides a medium -- what you do on the site, how much you lie, how much you believe, who you choose to contact, and the many years you decide to stay on it, are all entirely up to YOU! Society just needs to begin to recognize online dating for what it is (or has become), and people need to get out there and find a way to meet others in the real world.

Since when has the mating game become so addictive that no one we meet is good enough anymore? NEXT!

also think am fun loving, easy going,honest,nice,gentle,kind,smart,sociala ble,friendly,also intelligent and trustworthy,passion,wonderful lady,very open mind,well educated with a good sense of humour.I am a serious person,responsible

I turned to online dating because I don't drive and I need more time to see those movies that I want to see and write my fan fiction.

It's not fair if the dating sites are playing games. I am getting help through friends, family and co workers with finding a girlfriend.

On dating sites now there are features to report those who could be fake.

I trusted true.com for 3 years and I am hearing the truth about them and I hope that true.com is reported to the Texas Rangers just as they were reported to the Texas Attorney General and Better Business Beareau. I one time had a girlfriend that I met on the MTV site. We didn't last long and than I went to many other dating sites.

It's ridicoulous to have to pay just to have an Internet date. It does sound like prostitution.

The better pay sites to use are yahoo personals or match.com.

I hope that the feds remove all those dating services that lie about being free when they charge. I have even tried the free site plentyoffish.com or www.webdate.com and not much responses.

I get a lack of responses on the sites to the girls who I e-mail and that's not fair to me because I take a bus home from work on most days and sometimes it can take too long for me to get home.

I agree with Fridget. Onlone dating has totally bombed during the past half dozen years or so. Eight years ago, not everybody had a computer and you were dealing with a higher class of people. Now it's aimed at the lowest common denominator and DEPENDS ON RADIO ADS to get new members. If online was the way to go, they wouldn't have to advertise on radio. If you can have success online, then you will probably have more success using other venues. Those who say they are too busy in their careers to meet people and therefore need online dating, I have some advice: GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!!

I've been on Lava for probably 3 years. Here are some of my observations:

1. There are MANY profiles of women that are "too good to be true." The photos are model-beautiful, and women like that would not need to be on an on-line site for any of the categorical reasons. Furthermore, a VERY high proportion of these are "new" profiles of women who sign up and then never again visit the site. Accordingly, I largely concur with the other male reviewers who believe that these are fake profiles.

2. Lava is rampant with profiles from Russians, Nigerians, and prostitutes (or at least fakes who "smile," get a response, and reply with a referral to their private e-mail or an XXX website). To Lava's credit, these phonies are immediately deleted. Most times, Lava has restored the credits that I've expended (if I ask, and if I haven't deleted the mail that I sent or received).

3. Far too many of the women's profiles are allowed to be posted "incomplete." This means no essay, no answer to questions about (especially) kids and education, and no selection of interests.

4. Men can automatically -- and I mean this -- add one "body size" to whatever the women claim they are. For example, "few extra pounds" means "queen or king-sized."

5. The women (and maybe the men, too) can get away without updating their essay for several years. I've seen several regulars who haven't updated (or even WRITTEN) an essay for 4 years, and one is approaching (get this) SEVEN years.

6. I once let my credits run down to 2, and I left them at that level for a long time because there was nobody palatable to write to. Lava kept producing pop-up appeals to "buy credits" ad nauseam.

In general, I agree that on-line dating was better in past years. My fortunes on Lava were promising early, but I hadn't had a date from there since a month after I joined. The other services are worse. Yes, they are all populated with creepy or married guys, but those of us who are sincere and single spend weeks or months lurking and studying profiles, hoping to identify someone remotely compatible, while many women can log on and exclaim, "Oh, look -- 200 e-mails!"

This is why I finally "abandoned all hope" and looked to the Latin American dating sites (TLC, and ecuadorsingles.com). Both are legitimate; the Latinas are looking for good husbands just as we are looking for good wives, and in less than 6 months I found a beautiful Ecuadorian sweetheart who will become my wife. If you look overseas, avoid the Philippines and Russia (stick to Latin America), and be prepared to submit the IMBRA verification (no felonies, domestic violence, etc.). I should have turned to the Latina route long ago, and maybe other men here should, too, if you're tired of beating your head against the impenetrable wall of U.S. on-line "dating."

I was pleased with Lavalife. I used it several years ago and met two wonderful men, one of whom I wanted to continue a friendship with (he was funny, highly intelligent, but no attraction), and the other one I ended up marrying. I could not possibly have imagined a better match for me. The whole process took less than two weeks. (Not the getting married part! Just the finding the guy part.)

There are so many variables to consider. Some people are going to be pickier, or older, or have a physical drawback - all of these factors will decrease your chance of a successful match.

Just my experience - I realize it worked out exceptionally well.

I tried Lavalife a few years back. It was worthless like the rest of them. This review is for the benefit of those who recently took up internet dating. Years back, in the early days of the internet, it wasn't nearly as bad. Since about 2002 it has been crashing in a big way. Yes, Aaron, those who use it today are mainly losers. It was not so true in years past, but things are getting worse as time goes on. Most other people went on to better things and if you MUST use online dating, at least use a free service like Plenty of Fish. Before every Bubba and Bubbette got a computer, things were different. Now things have slid down to the lowest common denominator, so don't bother to pay for the service.

I didn't care for and took exception to the remarks that were made by a reviewer about people who divorce. I have been separated for a year and am separated for all the right reasons. People change grow apart etc. that does not mean they are no good.

5 of the women I sent smiles to sent me smiles back.This was in the "intimate"part of the website.So we'll see what happens.The weird thing is that I received an email from Lavalife saying that they could not post my profile becasue they could not post profiles which included certain words.I thought,what?I didn't include anything offensive,no "dirty words" nor any racist remarks,nor personal contact info such as an email address.Reading a bit further I found out the reason it could not be posted was(and I kid you not)was because I mentioned Rush Limbaugh?WTF!?I know not everyone is a conservative but geez.Anyway,after I removed his name,and resubmitted the profile,it was okayed and posted.

Random, I think you and Phyllis would make a pair. I've seen what your stalker loser ass is doing by slamming the reveiwers rather than slamming the crappy websites. I think we are able to ascertain that you are a typical type that uses online dating websites and will never have any success there, like almost everybody has no success, but that's an issue of the websites never being able to work the way they are run rather than who goes online, Hell, Britney Spears would probably strike out on these websites, because somebody like you be writing to her and stalking like a creep.