Reviews of Match.com

Jennifer from New York,

Thanks for your interest, however I have plenty of women I've met both on-line and through friends who are successful, educated, and not fat with kids with unrealistic expectations. I don't go to bars, I have own in my home, so I'm not sure your "dream scenario" of giving me the time of day is plausible in this lifetime. Sorry you took such offense to my honesty, but tough love; sometimes in life the best advice you can give someone is that which they don't want to hear.

That said, I have no problems meeting women on match. None. I want women on here who claim they are attractive yet are gaining no responses to show me what they look like with their profile screen name. There are 4 times the amount of men on match. There is no plausible way a LEGIT attractive woman doesn't get responses.

So, I was bored, busy and single so I decided to give match.com a shot. I suppose I should have done more research but hey, I don't mind being a guinea pig if I can dissuade other people from wasting their time.

Okay, hehe, first of all I know I'm an attractive person. I know this because I can be objective about this and I've had the opportunity to view a large sampling of the general female population (ahh the competition). And on the internet, I'm DEFINITELY in the 90th percentile. I look so good, I've actually been asked if I'm real online. I swear! Also, I have no lack of admirers whenever I go out...Plus I have a fantastic job and I'm very toned!

That said, it's difficult to get all the important questions out of the way at a bar and I barely have time to go out either way. So online dating it was! First off, I did all the right things: uploaded pics of me doing all kinds of fun and exciting activities, wrote a nice little description of myself and then waited.

Nothing. Not a wink or an email or anything. Hmmm...okay, well maybe I should get out there instead of expecting people to come to me. SO I do the winking and the emailing and still nothing. Absolutely nothing. Then! This fat (yes, he was overweight) slob winks at me. I'm like...um...what?? Then the next day two OLDER men wink and then a random guy who wanted to hook up and a not so random guy who wanted me to do something for him...(ewwww). None of the fairly average looking guys I've contacted respond. The fat guy, I humor and talk a little to (after all, you can lose weight right?)...turns out he has zero ambition and asks me if I went to college! Did he even read my blurb? Jesus!

The whole experience was a little demoralizing actually; I questioned everything! Lol... So I went to OkCupid and PlentyOfFish. Within minutes of creating my profile, my inbox is buzzing and I'm having intelligent and fun conversations with various people who are actually compatible with me. Same pictures on all sites, practically the same blurb. So what happened on Match.com? Seems like a lot of inactive accounts...

I am currently in my late 20's and in the past have had good success with match, which is why I gave it "3" stars. However after checking it out again I am having no luck, before it was easy. Now all the women I find on the site who are at least somewhat attractive looking are looking for tall dark and handsome doctors, lawyers, architects etc. who make over 150k a year...

I stand at 5'10" which I think is average, black hair, blue eyes, in decent shape, and am repeatedly told by my friends I am pretty good looking. I work in a trade and make over 45k a year, but somehow that's not up to the women's standards on match.com... Please tell me I am not the only one seeing this trend or overly high expectations.

I've heard of some of these sites just creating fake matches just to get your money.

I haven't been on Match.com very long and am unsure how true these reviews are, but all I can do is speak for myself.

I am a genuine guy and do want a real relationship. So, if you see my profile and you are interested, please let me know. We can get to know each other first, that is not a problem with me.

I really don't care for the bar scene, that's why I'm here. I do have a job and a house. I'm looking for a woman that is genuine (not fake), wants a life long relationship and kids. I recently turned 37 and want to settle down before it is too late.

Well, if i don't hear anything from this post, then good luck to all of you.

Dear Gordon,

I want to thank you for your offensive, albiet true, response. I printed it out and taped it to the fridge....you gave me the inspiration I needed to get back in shape. It will take a year, and it will be awful, but next year, when I'm sitting at a bar and some i-banker who thinks he's God's gift to women compliments me on my big round ass, I'll tell him I'm sooooooo much better than him and not interested!

I actually own my own house worth about 900K and make 6 figures a year, so I'm actually NOT looking for a sugar daddy -- just an equal. And while yes, I do have a child, he'll look after me in my old age in my owned house, making sure I'm OK. Your wife, however, will have decided that you're too old to satisfy her and since she is supposedly your equal in hotness, she will be spending your money on the young lovers she attracts while you rot in a nursing home alone.....if she hasn't left you already. And sure, you could pay for a young hot thing to change your diaper, but deep down you'll know she's just a whore with no real interest in anything but your bank account.

Just remember, looks, especially weight, can change, while personality is pretty much set....chao!

Jennifer from New York,

You are the classic girl with unreasonably high expectations on match. You've admitted you need to lose weight and you have a child, yet are expecting a successful sugar daddy to take care of you? I'm a very successful investment banker in my 30's. I have very stringent expectations. One must not be married, have any kids, she must be educated, have a good job, be emotionally stable, and have a round and great ass. She MUST be in shape.

I give the site 5 stars. It sufficiently supplements all the women I talk to when I go out. Easy to meet, and see if there is chemistry. For Jennifer, you need to temper your expectations, as many do NOT on match, or go out with a guy in his 60's. Handsome, successful and wealthy men in their 30's and even 40's aren't interested in women who are overweight and have kids, unless they are extremely unattractive and desperate.

I have been on match for 4 months and have only received a few winks from people that I really don't have that much in common with. I have a graduate degree, my own income, and am 33. I am divorced and have a 4 year old child. I am not thin, however I have a good sense of humor, have lived overseas in Europe, speak 2.5 languages, play an instrument, and am very well read. I'm not too into sports, which naturally eliminates the men who run/hike/mountain climb for fun. We just don't have enough in common. I am looking for a man who is my intellectual equal and nice. He is low-key and enjoys reading, and music. By default, this generally eliminates people who have little education and low paying jobs or men who enjoy being highly athletic (of course there are always exceptions). If I were to describe my ideal man, he would be in finance/doctor/lawyer, be 45-sih, and enjoy learning. I am not too plussed about how he looks or if he has his own kids or not. In other words, while I am somewhat picky, I am not super-picky.

I have found the NY market EXTREMELY difficult. Is it that successful men only want skinny model types? Or is it the fact that I have a child? I know I need to lose weight, but in the overall scheme of things, this is minor (and potentially fixable). Looks are fleeting and personality is for life. Yet, I have come across men who say they are only looking for skinny girls. Literally. And some of these guys are not that great looking themselves. Do NY men think that they are little demi-gods and want arm candy? Are they serious about wanting a relationship or are they just looking for sex?

Or is it the fact that I have a child? Does this turn men off? People, both men and women, please give me your opinion so I know if I'm just too fat to compete for someone decent in the NY market or if match is full of douchebags only looking for hot sex. Either way, I have found match to be a very fast way to destroy self-esteem.

Don't hate the player, hate the game, Blome. Kidding aside, I've been on match for 2 years and only ONE time have I met a gold digger. Communication was stagnate, and then when she asked where I lived and I told her, she wouldn't stop e-mailing me telling me she wanted to meet. I think you are bitter and disgruntled because you aren't getting laid.

That aside, I've met a ton of women, and they never ask gold digging questions i.e. what I drive. In fact, most of them never ask me what I even do for a living, which I find a bit odd, but whatever. I know guys that use the money card, and honestly most chicks find it to be pathetic and douchy. My experience on match has been quite unlike others I guess. I've always got a nice, healthy group I am talking to at a given time and can meet whenever. I think that the people who complain about match have unrealistic expectations about the site, and more importantly about themselves.

It's the same as all the other sites, a bunch of whores who have been told their whole life they're beutiful and deserve only the richest (or best at whatever) guy their whole lives so they have a skewed sense of self, thinking they're more desirable and deserve much more than they really do! Yes Whore I know you love water sports and travel, because boats, morrage, flights, and nice hotels are for rich guys, and that's what really matters! I see right through you bitch! I hope the 2 rich or phony rich guys banging the all the women on this site in any given 50 mile radius spread gonasiphaherpalaids and kill off all these triflin ass bitches!

P.S. I know this for a fact, because I have set up many profiles of all sorts on all the dating sites and have seen what type of men the women want. Don't believe me, just change your income, the higher the income the more women you will attract. My experiment backfired when I realized all the women on these sites are just the same as that whore in the shitty part of town, but worse, they think they're something different. Since I have had this realization I have lost all respect for the opposite sex(the backfire).

I'm out Ho!

Sandra in New York,

You're a woman on match.com and have received a grand total of SIX e-mails in a "few month?" I routinely chat with attractive women on match who get 60 e-mails a DAY. What does that say about a woman who gets that few e-mails in months, when there are 5 times the amount of men on match?

It's sad that people are in denial blaming their lack of success on a web-site rather than themselves. I feel bad for people, deep down they must know, but I see alot of complainers on here, people who in very high likelihood aren't having dating success ANYWHERE, regardless of match.com.

As for me, I just moved to Austin, work alot, don't go to bars, and match has worked perfectly for me. I find someone I like, e-mail them, and maybe after a few e-mails I exchange cell numbers with them and we meet. I never waste my time with someone who wants to draw out the process. To me it means they are hiding someone. Anyway, I can't complain, but I've never had a problem meeting women before match, either.