Reviews of Ashley Madison

I've had some success on Ashley Madison over the past few years, but it seems like over the past year or so it has really gotten bad with the "plants" to "real women" ratio. I joined back in '08, when I could no longer tolerate being lonely and despondent over my wife's lack of interest in intimacy. It seemed like back then there were a lot more legitimate, real women profiles on the AM site, and I met several women thru the site. Some of the relationships never went any further than yahoo IM chats and/or phone conversations, but two of them developed into full blown affairs. The first one lasted almost a year (until her hubby got wise to her), and the other one is still going strong after a year. So I guess my 3-star rating would be an average based on a 4-5 star rating from mid 2009 and earlier, and a 1-2 star rating from mid 2009 to present.

I could write several lengthy paragraphs giving advice on using the Ashley Madison site and the risks involved in having an affair, but I will summarize as follows: 1)Weed thru the "plants" (usually the first few pages of paid members with picture profiles) and don't waste your time or credits with them. 2)Be very, very patient and very, very persistent. 3)As much as you think you can keep your feelings and emotions "in check", it is inevitable that you will get emotionally involved and attached on some level, so be prepared to deal with the consequences. If anyone would like more detailed advice, I'd be happy to help. Just drop me a line to mmjr5987 at the Y

This site is a big rip-off. I know some may think this is the raving of an angry deprived loser. To that I say your perception is your own and you are entitled to your opinion. My experience is Ashley Madison is a lie. Now this could be because I'm an African American male in Texas, you know; the secession talking state or it could be that I'm particular with my choices. Either way, save your money and time.

Scam. Stay away.

Although this dating site is not free and you would expect it to have real users, it is more of a scam than anything else.

First of all, they have more "marketing researchers" than real users. This is not even being hidden in any way - you can read about it in Terms of Service (which nobody ever reads) and when you start going through some obscure options in your profile you will see options to disable being contacted by fake users.

Every time you get contacted and want to reply you have to pay money. Which is fine, but new users get tricked by marketing bots into signing up and paying money. These marketing bots send personal messages to you and not just a regular message, but a priority (*you* pay extra to open it) collect (again *you* pay extra to read it) message. When you reply to that message (again *you* pay) you get no response, and more often than not the user profile of the "person" who messaged you disappears in few days from the site.

Being contacted by fake users can be disabled, but if you decide to contact users yourself, there is no way to know who is fake and who is a real user.

Terms of Service says that these fake users help to enhance your experience ... yeah, right!

I totally agree with Hunter from Illinois as he states: ".... for many men (myself included) you waste 'credits' on plants - that is, individuals who pretend to have interest but are only enticing you to spend your credits. Once spent, they disappear. The site is a rip off for most." I have found most women on here are not really looking for an affair as the site promotes, just looking to make a buck as plants, the same as almost all other sites like this. Ashley Madison is just another big fake.

I haven't, nor do I intend to sample this site. The nature of it alone is worth commenting on.

Online dating is hard enough. You can find "virtually" anything and anyone online. Sites like this and Adult Friend Finder have me scratching my head. I am by no means a prude; simply a smart, classy, no-nonsense, non-desperate woman who maintains faith that "real men" although the minority, exist somewhere in cyberspace. Truly, if sites like this float your boat, more power to you. All I'm saying is consider the consequences of your unique choices:

1) Divorce
2) Alimony
3) Child support
4) Herpes, clamidia, AIDS, etc
5) Losing the best thing you have at home; choosing a 20 over an 80.

6) Life changes from being kicked to the curb once you've been found out.

7) Need obsecure sexual encounters to satisfy basic sexual needs; sexual attitudes will change, and honey, you can't go back to pretending you live in Kansas any longer...lol.

8) This one's a whopper...STUPID-NAIVE women who think some guys gonna want them even more cause they're a good lay. Wake up and smell the java, Paris Hilton, a man won't toss a poor lay outta bed. You have not cornered the market on blow jobs, or any form of sexual practice. You can have the whole package...brains...beauty...finanical security...sexual prowess. In the end you'r reduced to being someone "fuck" until someone else catches their eye. Your are not "special", just another online vagina, ready-willing-able until the next one comes along.

Men, here's a little tidbit for you to consider. More and more straight women are jumping the fence and embracing lesbianism. They are sick and tired of men (like you) who forgot what it means to be a "man". To put on the big boy pants, walk tall, and embrace all that maleness God gave you to live right. Life can be pretty screwed up on it's own, but when you look to men who can't step up to the plate and be "men", it's sad. Women don't want metrosexual men, a dike can serve the same purpose. They don't want some horny toad addicted to his computer. "Real women" want "real men".

I'm getting of my soap box now. No doubt some of you may be seeing red or think I'm full of shit. While MANY of you will be proving my point(s) every second of the day.

~Bia

THIS IS DISCUSTING, and although I did not even look at this site I am certain that it is 90% loser men that are married looking to cheat on their wives. Why get married in the first place if you are going to be a cheating sack of sh i t? The remaining 10% of the site users which are women are prob so gross that their husbands won't even go close to them because of the smelly area down there or lice invested. There is plenty of cheating going on online already, we don't need a site designed for this!!!!!!

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Although women seem to find success here, for many men (myself included) you waste 'credits' on plants - that is, individuals who pretend to have interest but are only enticing you to spend your credits. Once spent, they disappear. The site is a rip off for most.

As far as these type of sites...probably the best. (and no, I'm NOT affiliated with them in any way, shape or form).

Its not cheap but consider the end results. Invest a hundred or so...tell me its not worth it! Like ALL interent sites, there is some fraud, but no more than the free sites. (By the way, I met a BEAUTIFUL married woman who is looking for probable LONG term change. Will we be together a year from now? Who knows...)