Reviews of Christian Cafe

Unlike the majority of people on this particularl website, I paid for a membership. I got numerous replies from women. They all went about the same way -- "I'm using the free trial. My time is almost up." Replying is pointless because by the time they get it, the free trial is over and they can't read the message.

The site will send you 3 "free" days to use every now and then. That's why I gave it 2 stars instead of 1. Use the free days, but don't bother paying for it.

It does appear to be a real "Christian" website as opposed to some of the others.

You can't view someone's true age or location. It gives an age range. Many members just choose to list a state as their location. In my state, there could be up to a 400-500 mile range. I'm not interested in someone 400 miles away from me.

And while I'm definitely looking for a Christian, the site seems to focus on this to the exclusion of everything else. The multiple choice questions are silly and pointless - "What kind of car do you drive?" Who cares?

I've been thinking about joining eHarmony and happened to see this website--- needless to say, the reviews on eHarmony are making me think more than twice about whether to try it out.

I've been a member of Christian Cafe on and off for about 3 years... Reading some of the reviews for eHarmony made me realize that I've had really good experiences with Christian Cafe. There's a lot of flexibility in searching for your own "matches" and it's very clear when other people haven't been on the site recently. I've found a few of the gimmicks annoying ("winks" for one) but there are usually ways of opting out of those. Of course there's always the issue of people not being truthful in their profiles but I have to say that I've met some really great guys through Christian Cafe.

As far as Christian Cafe being honest in their business practices, I had one problem with my membership being auto-renewed without my prior knowledge-- but when I complained Christian Cafe gave me a refund along with an email apologizing for the mistake.

Oh-- so why was I thinking about joining eHarmony? To be honest, now I'm not sure. :)

I tried eharmony.com, singlec.com (single Christian) and Christian Cafe over a period of 9 months. I am now married to a wonderful man I met on singlec.com. But I would say that it was my positive experiences on Christian Cafe that kept me going in taking risks in dating. Positives: Christian Cafe doesn't just leave a "blank sheet" for people to struggle with, but forces its members to respond to thoughtful questions. Because my faith is very important to me, I was looking to sift out quickly those who weren't actively pursuing their spirituality. Christian Cafe not only has a long multiple choice selection for you to look at, but also asks wonderful detail questions, including ones about faith. Questions like describe how your faith is important to you? Or other equally revealing questions like: "Is your current job is your dream job, and if not what is?" (a great question to see if the person is engaged with life or just sliding by in their job at 7-11). I actually met nice guys who like me, had a good job, and had never been married. All guys I would be happy to set up with a friend when it didn't work out with me. Because you get a lot of info up front in the profile, if you are good at perceiving what people are telling you, and good at sifting many possibilities, this is a good site for you. Negatives: There are MANY MANY people on this website. This becomes a negative because, in my opinion, people lack a sense of urgency with so many choices. (I had a male friend with this same experience too). So you have to be persistent -- figure one out of ten will respond back to an e-mail message, much like cold-calling figures in sales. Bottom line: prices are decent, the pool of people is huge, and you can practice your skills at "sifting". Specifically targeted to Christians.