Reviews of Friend Finder

I rate AFF with one star.

I've been a member of this site off and on for a few years now. In that time the site has gotten worse and it was bad to begin with.

Much has been posted already about the fake ads, & the AFF employee profiles. I'd like to expand upon the 'legitimate' ads from single women out there.

Being in the northeast, I can attest that these ladies are all about what I call 'the AFF life' and not much else. They won't chat outside the site's IM system or chatrooms. And forget trying to include an alternate e-mail address or chat screen name through AFF, it gets filtered and deleted for AFF for violating their terms of service!

AFF claims an address can be sent after 2 e-mail exchanges but it's been my experience that regardless of mails sent, inclusion of an alternate address results in a filtered and deleted mail.

Now...on to the women. Many have ads listing them as single, but a cursory browse of profiles will show that most are either involved with someone, or even married. Why would a married woman leave her profile listing her as a single?

Should you enter chat and get acquainted with the local ladies, again, speaking only from experience in the New England area, few if any will agree to meet in person unless it is at a well publicized meet and greet mentioned constantly in the chat room.

I had the experience of attending one meet and greet a few years back. In attendance were maybe 15-20 women, a handful of couples, and easily over 100 guys! Just like being in AFF chat, except in person! lol

& for the most part, the ladies were average. Yes there were 2 maybe 3 very attractive women. But most were what they like to refer to themselves as BBWs. Not to sound judgmental but it's my opinion AFF is the only place these women get the amount of attention they do.

The 'dynamic' of the meet was nearly akin to the chatroom. There were the few ladies who literally buzzed all over the bar getting involved in every conversation taking place. And like in chat, it's tough trying to get to know a lady when there are 9 or 10 guys 'waiting in line' practically for the opportunity to butt in to the conversation, interrupting asking her if she'd like another drink, etc. Add to this all the alpha male type A personalities and you can see what a futile exercise an AFF meet and greet truly is.

I got involved with AFF initially because I took it at face value it boasted what it advertised, 'the world's largest sex and swinger community.' I've been friends with the same couple for a number of years, and AFF seemed the place to meet a lady interested in alternative lifestyles.

And though I have enjoyed some success on AFF, meeting a few ladies and several couples, it's my opinion the majority of ladies out there enjoy the 10 to 1 man ratio and being 'groveled over' for attention in chat and at the meet and greets.

I frequently see women, especially the ones who are married but have profile listing them as single, woo and swoon the men for attention but again, no chat or e-mail outside AFF. "if you want to meet me, come to the next meet and greet" What they don't say is that they'll be there with their husband and no, they don't enjoy the company of another man.

I've called out many of the gals promoting the meet and greets in the chat room and talk about getting chastised!! They immediately gang up and start firing away. 'what am I looking for, someone to hop in the sack with after an hour?' Not at all I reply but point out the sites' slogan, 'largest sex and swinger's community'

A gal in chat replies and I use her exact words "if you believe that I have a bridge I can sell you!"

I've actually had more luck on conventional dating sites tastefully stating who I am and what I seek.

Being somewhat 'negative' in chat regarding the meets has gotten me 'blacklisted' by the very active lady members in chat. While I haven't any proof positive of this, a woman I have met and remain friends with has told me that the ladies have a list of guys that new women members are discouraged from meeting.

The guys who are accepted are the ones content chatting only on AFF and using AFF mail, and meeting only at the chat room meet and greet events. While the ladies rave about these parties, I haven't seen much good said by guys who went and log in to chat a few days later. They remain quiet because they don't want to incur the wrath. lol

I did sign up a month ago just to see if things have changed but after seeing it's gotten worse I won't be renewing. And, just prior to my first month expiring, I miraculously received 4 emails that I first had to renew my subscription before viewing, even though my membership wasn't due to expire for another few days. I renewed, and surprise, the mails were from members replying to mails I'd sent weeks earlier saying 'sorry, not interested' or 'not seeking anyone new at this time'

Lesson learned, I'll delete my profile and cancel my credit card a good week before my subscription renewal, and I'll be sure to post in chat the various class action suits against AFF before departing the site for good!

This is the way it is: Women who turn to the internet for sex have a short attention for their sexual need, meaning that a few hours after they posted their profile they just don't want to meet anyone.

With adult friend finder it takes a few hours just to get your profile posted. In that time a woman usually grows uninterested or become scared to meet any guy. About the only women you can meet on their site are the ones who are Dating the Website in a sense, and there aren't too many of them and they're ultra picky.

I've found The Casual Encounters section of Craigslist is a far better place to go for sex than adult friend finder. In a sense, you can contact the women on craigslist while they're still hot. Also, the women who are hardcore adult friend finder gold members also check craigslist. I just don't se any reason to give Friend Finder my CC number when I can get more for free.

AFF is changing for the worse. Now, you can't view you emails unless you're a paid member. This pretty much takes away any advantage any guy would have on this site. Then to top it all off, there are FriendFinder employees who have profiles on that site who post on Blogs and stuff.

EMPLOYEE PROFILES = FAKE ACCOUNTS

THANKS AFF...

The site is still okay if you're into chatting and stuff, but that kind of stuff is better for older people.

I used the AsiaFriendFinder version of the service. It's a niche product, so you might find what you are looking for not available elsewhere.

Compared to the dismal responses I currently have with Match.com, I fared only a little bit better here in less time, but that doesn't say a whole lot. I did receive several winks, but all these women were from China, rather than domestically. I'm Asian American, by the way, so that might have been part of the attraction. The site really didn't cater to me whatsoever, however.

For fun, I browsed through the "men seeking women" section and found to no surprise, a lot of white guys on there, so they clearly have what some of us jokingly refer to as "yellow fever." Some of the profiles are a little pathetic, because some are older lonely men (50 years and over) looking for companionship. There is that stereotype where guys think Asian women are very accommodating and loyal like some Geisha girl and not as stuck up as white women are. That's new to me. None of the Asian women I know are anything like what the men on the site perceive them to be.

One of the things that I do like about the service is that you know who puts you on their "hot list." So even if they don't initially contact you, you can at least break the ice yourself if choose to do so. You also know what level members are on: standard/silver/gold. It makes it easy to know who the paying members are. However, gold members have priority over viewing new members, so they essentially can also snatch away some potential mate before you get the chance. Silver members have to wait three days to see new profiles. The profile sections themselves are streamlined, and you don't have to wait as long to have your info/photos approved compared to other sites. But that's also the danger; it's not properly screened out. You have the option of adding voice/video if you choose. The homepage also tells you who the most popular members are, who are new, who are online, and so forth.

One of my friends, who is Caucasian, did well for himself. He contacted a couple of people and after some email and phone conversation, he struck up a couple of friendships that he's building on. The women he's met are working professionals and well-educated. But I tend to think he is the exception when it comes to the dating game. White guys can get ANYONE they want and it wouldn't be a big deal, yet it never works the other way around, to my chagrin. I fall under the the category of not getting who I want because I'm not white and/or I'm not their "own" kind. It's even more ridiculous I can't even seem to date fellow Asians because the ladies think white guys are "better."

It is also refreshing to see some non-Asian women on there, so there is a tendency to feel more wanted compared to the mainstream sites. However, I really, really take that with a grain of salt. The service seems to be ripe for corruption. A lot of the profiles are too good to be true. The pictures look way too professional, seductive, and glamorous like they had been filched off some porn site (the cleaner, classier, cheesecake-type images, that is!). And sure enough, after some cursory searching, I found some identical photos on those adult sites, the only difference is that they were uncropped and had the name of the originating website on it. Some of the said profiles also try to entice certain members by claiming to be compassionate and caring, god-fearing and looking for a person that shares those values. Nice try. I'd believe it more if these photos were shot in domestic or casual settings as opposed to some professional studio setting. I highly doubt any woman out there who is seeking a serious relationship would expose herself like this. I am not going to be a part of their con if they think they are going to go femme fatale on me and rob me out of house and home. Watch out for the usual multiple profiles!

After all is said and done, however, I only recommend this site with a lot reservations. It's less expensive than other places, but it's like paying for a date that never shows up. And you might end up falling head over heels for people that don't even exist if you're not careful.

First of all, There are no active profiles on Friend Finder. I wouldn't waste any time on that site. The Friend Finder Group is probably just using Friendfinder.com as a front to make it's company appear somewhat normal, and to funnel people to it's popular adultfriendfinder.com site.

If you're going to have any luck finding a date on the net, adultfriendfinder is as good of a place as any because of it's size. The success you have on this site will vary due to what you look like and what you're looking for. A woman will be able to find a guy to meet her within minutes of her profile approval, and the same thing goes for men seeking men. Basically, if you're looking for something that puts you in demand, you can get it on adultfriendfinder.

Let's take my ex-wife for an example, as she was on adultfrinedfinder for 3 months. Within 2 weeks of her being on that site, she was having sex with 2 married men in her town. After a while she became bored with them, and took up another search on the site. This time she was looking for bi-men because she was looking for a 3some. She was able to find guys who were interested, but she wasn't able to get guys meet for the 3some.

When I tried the site I accidently listed myself as a man seeking men. My inbox was flooded with emails from men who wanted to meet me. In some cases these guys offered to get a motel room and they gave me their phone #, I had emails from local couples who wanted a 3some, and I had a couple of emails from single women who were interested in me because they thought I was bisexual. About a week later, I proofread my profile and found that I was listed as seeking to have sex with anyone. I quickly changed my intrest requirements on that site. After that, I quit getting emails from anyone.

For the next 3 weeks, I managed to have email exchanges with a few college-aged girls who weren't too attractive. They were able to find guys on that site, but they put their efforts into going after the more attractive guys. I ended up not meeting with them due to my lack of interest in them, and I guess the same thing went for the other guys who they'd respond to. These girls are just like the princess types on match.com, the sight of steak and shrimp compels them to skip past the hamburger and fries.

Anyone's success on this site depends on what they look like and what they're looking for on that site. If you're in demand by the group that seeks you, you'll enjoy a lot of success on that site.

Well AFF now there is a theme. Fake or not Fake. Well let's face it first if you have a site where people can logon for free and put up a profile then you ARE going to get fakes, FACT. However if you do pay and only take paying members seriously then you will have some success. If someone is prepared to pay to be a member (Silver or Gold) then the chances are they are after something, ie sex. I joined to extend my horizons...but at the same time I am cheating. I like my life as it is at the moment and just need to dip into the cookie jar now and again. I have had some success on the site (one lady standard member) and have had as a result some very horny sex that I wasn't getting at home, six month affair. I am now working on a threesome with a couple (paying members...and all looks fairly promising). Yes join if you want contact but be prepared to put a little money forward for it. Nothing should be for free. I look at some of the fake profiles just for fun! The sincere members somehow jump out and say "intresting must email this one". The lady I met was a standard member! Now I will only go for Silver and Gold to save time and effort. The site itself is quite fun...cams of people can be quite horny and graphic. The administration...ie emails for problems is crap. I have rejected profiles of people with MY PICTURE which they can't get rid of! To sum up...be a paying member to get something out of it (say six months)...be careful...don't expect immediate success as it doesn't happen in real life either...and above all have patience and fun hunting for a REAL person for a good time!

AFF sucks as far as these kind of sites go, but the other sex sites are even worse, far worse! I've been on www.adultdatelink.com, www.sexsearch.com, and a few other sex sites that I don't remember. First of all, the members on these small sex sites are fake, I guess they feel they need to have something there in order for a person to join. If you do join as a free member to one of these small sex sites, you'll recieve about 5 fake emails a day. When you pay their dues you won't see an email until a few days before your subscription expires. These small sex sites are a farce, the membership base on these small sex sites is all make believe.

As far as AFF is concerned, I'd just stay of thet site. Half of the men on that site would enjoy to be gang raped, just as described in the previous review. Internet dating in general is a blatant joke, most people can't or won't find a date on those sites. Match.com wants $35 for a 1 month membership. Just 4 years ago they only wanted $20 for 1 month. That's a 75% increase in such a short time. Also, when match.com raises it's prices the other sites do the same. I'd just stay off.

This is the perfect site if you want to meet somebody passing themselves off as a decent gal that ends up being a Bull Dyke who gang rapes you with a bunch of her friends by rubbing your ass with a corn cob then banging you with a supersized strap-on coated with salt and pepper while they make a gay male eat your pussy. You'll probably be filmed as it's happening. It's just about their level of membership. It's probably about the absolute pits of all the dating websites.

I'm writing this review in response to Tom Holzel's review.

I really wish I was a paid shrill from adultfriendfinder or whatever else, because what I experienced on that site would have never happened to me. The review I wrote is an advisory to anyone who would consider using that website, because being harassed by homosexuals and BBWs who think they're a prefect '10' isn't my idea of fun! As I stated, I didn't have a problem with that website, I just had a problem with it's users.

adultfriendfinder isn't for everyone, and it's certainly not fit for any strait guy who has standards. I prefer cute women who have their life together, and these type of women aren't on adultfriendfinder. Instead, I found the motherload of fruits and nuts on that site. If I could be a closet bisexual male or a guy who's willing to sleep with anyone I'd probably fit right in on adultfriendfinder.

I had an active account on adultfriendfinder since January 2004 and I was a member for 3 months in 2003, and over that span of 3 years I've got to know some of the constant behavior a lot of the members shared. I only met 3 women on that site (average one a year). In terms of getting laid, it was real hit and miss.

Many of the women I had talked to just wern't attractive, some of them found another guy, some of them were just into cybersex and being a member of adultfriendfinders online community, and a lot of them had alternative sexual interest. One morning, I spent 2 hours talking to a women who had came to adultfriendfinder because he ex had came out of the closet after an 18 year relationship.

I would say there are 4 groups of women on adultfriendfinder, the first is women of the age 18-23 who aren't that attractive, the second is women who are recently divorced or out of a LTR, the third group of women are the ones who have never been married, and the fourth group is the women who are bisexual. On top of that, there are a lot of women who have there own reasons for being on that website.

The other day I told my friend (who happens to be a lesbian) about my adultfriendfinder exparience, you know what she said?

"I told you so!"

I was part of a study of the people who frequent AFF. It was published at velocitypress.com, and shows that--like anything to do with sex--it is a very sleazy business. Worst of all are all the fake "reviews" of AFF--either barely disguised high praise by some AFF shill--or the opposite by someone paid by a competing site to bad-mouth them.

NEVERTHELESS, The net-net is if you are anywhere near human-looking, and go after women who would find you attractive in real life--you can't help but hook up and you'll probably get laid. But it won't happen overnight, and it you're 50 years old, don't sulk if none of the 18-year old chicks ever respond.

Having said that, it is true that in the study, nearly all of the above 39-year old women used photos that were taken 5 to 10 years ago, and most of those cleverly disguised their real weight. A large percentage of these women are short and fat--but some are great looking.

A lot of people scream hysterically that the site is complete rip-off, all the women are fakes, etc., etc. I take these people to be Christian fundamentalists outraged that sex is going on. But the biggest thing to watch out for are the preditors--women out to blackmail married men, women who are diseased but claim to be "Disease free and tested regularly," and--surprisingly--women pretending to be married who are actually single, separated, divorced or about to divorce who are looking for their next meal ticket. If you're married and looking for "a discreet affair," watch out for these babes who, having screwed up their own marriage, are ready to do a real job on yours.