Reviews of Friend Finder

I have been on AFF for for a couple of months now and have met 4 guys already. The opportunity to meet guys is incredible on this site for women. I am not e-mailing them, they are all e-mailing me and I have become overwhelmed by the amount of e-mails I am receiving.
Out of the four men I slept with three of them right away. On the fourth date I decided that I was going to meet the person for lunch first. This guy was enough of a gentlemen to agree to this. Although I found him very nice and funny I was not attracted to him sexually. He did try to seduce me and get me back to my apartment but I declined. At the end of the date he told me how wonderful I was and asked me for a kiss. I gave him a kiss and found out he was a really good kisser. He mentioned going out again and told me to call him later if I changed my mind about him comming over. I sent him an e-mail thanking him for dinner and saying what a good kisser he was. I wasnt even interested in him but was trying to be nice. Mind you this was a guy that I rejected 4 times before I said yes. Why would a guy say all that wonderful stuff about me and then not return my e-mails or call me.

Of the four dates I was only attracted to one guy who was the most incredible sexual experience I ever had. That guy never returned my calls or e-mails. I know that I am preety and cool. Ive been told I have a great personality and I am excellent in bed. Needless to say don't get involved with AFF unless you have really thick skin. I can't seem to get past a one night stand on this site. I'm not looking for a LTR. Im just looking for sex, but it would be nice to find one fuck budy instead of sleeping around with tons of guys. After leaving the first guy I told him that I was never going to see him again because I know how guys work and he said your not going to get rid of me that easily. Now why would he say that and then just ignore me. He has contacted me twice since then to get together and I have returned his calls but he does not return mine.

The other two dates were with much younger men and they were a disaster. Way too immature. The 24 year old guy I was with was very scary. He was too rough and not very nice. He seemed so sweet and innocent on the phone and was very nice. Lets just say I have learned my lesson. I will not be letting strange guys into my home until I meet them first. When I joined the site I had just gotten out of a year and a half relationship where the sex was bad. I was feeling daring and was extremely sexually deprived. Although I love sex and could have sex all day and night I am not willing to keep having one night stands and being treated like crap by guys. Not to mention getting some horrible disease from them.

Some guys harass me over and over again with there phone numbers when I am not interested in them. I will just have to block them.
They get really annoyed if you dont return there e-mails because youve bruised there ego. What about when they use you for one night and disapear. They dont seem to care about that. Although it is flattering to have all these guys interested in me on the site it is getting old. I know most of them are not interested in me as a person but just as someone to fuck and stick there dick in my pussy.
I understood that when I joined the site but that doesnt mean I dont want to get past the first date. Now I am scared to go on any more dates because I dont want to be rejected. This site is purely for sex . If your expecting friendships out of it or someone who really wants to know you as a person then go elsewhere. I suppose you could get more out of it but you just have to have thick skin and weed out those guys sending you the shots of there dicks and the ones that are not willing to at least take you out somewhere first.
At first I was so horny and lonely I didnt care. In the end you are just left feeling empty by a bad experience. It is short time happiness which can lead to psychological scars. Unfortunately I happen to be an extremely sensitive person.

I will stay on AFF but will weed out alot of guys and am not willing to just hook up with anyone. I have found a few decent ones that are interested in me. I have been spending way too much time on the internet trying to answer e-mails and deal with all these men.

I am interested in other womens experiences and if they have a bunch of one night stands as well.

"Someone said it right there is the psychology aspect to take into consideration with men and women."

In writing a review for a website you have to judge by it's effectiveness and what a user can expect to get out of it.

AFF and the format it runs on is just like Socialism, it looks good on paper and works well for those who are running the system, but it causes great disstress for most of those people who use the system. It's the psychological aspect of human sexality that leads to the fact that AFF is uselessness to most people who are looking for sex or to meet.

I think that most of the users on that site get worn down by trying to attract other members. Men get worn out by sending emails and getting no replys, trying to prefect their profile and photos with little effect, spam email from fake profiles, and the homosexuals who are always pestering straight male users. I can also see that women get worn down by one liner emails and c0ckshots from men. Also, women seem to get confused when they recieve 100 emails from men.

Despite the women's rights movement and sexual liberation, most women detest the idea men only wanting to have sex with them. Sure, women get horny as much as men do, but they're also turned off by the idea that a man wants nothing to do with who they are, that the man only wants to have sex with her and that's it.

As with Socialism, there are those few who will enjoy and benefit from AFF's system. Those type of people are the ones who will enjoy the networking capabilites of that AFF offers. Women can stand to benefit from AFF since there are far more men than women on that site. There are guys on AFF who do want to be involved with one woman in and out of the bedroom. I don't think very many of the women on AFF are very good at weeding these type of guys out for themselves.

In the time I spent on the site, I saw that most of the women are in their late 30's or older. Many of the women I saw are deeply rooted into the website and it's appearent that they are just trying to make friends and enhance their social life. This is an example of the type of people who benefit from AFF.

So, how does the site work for someone who's in their late 20's to early 30's?

I spent quite a while on AFF trying to figure out how to work that system for myself. At one point, I was on in the Top 50 most viewed male members. I had met some women on that site. I felt that I had done a pretty good job of mastering it. Still, I was having trouble getting exactly what I wanted and that was a half-way attractive woman to date and have a FWB relationship. The fact remained that there's a serious shortage of women on AFF, and many of the women who are on AFF just passing time and rooting themselves into the system.

So, I took the skills I learned from AFF and good pictures I had on my AFF profile and used them on Craigslist. It's quite hard to describe the difference, but after trying Craigslist I had no desire or need to ever again use AFF. Within a month, I had met more women (face to face) on Craigslist than I did in my years on AFF. Soon after that I had found a FWB on Craigslist, something I just couldn't find on AFF.

No matter how much work I put into AFF, I could net replicate the success I found on Craigslist. Craigslist is a better system to use for people who are looking to meet face to face.

Wow, an actual review from a woman! This is strange, I know.

I actually enjoyed reading through all the reviews which wanted to rate the women as well as the site, itself.

As a woman, yes it is about "adult" networking. As a woman, yes there is a huge attraction to the fact that we can join a site which is not as limiting to our sexual freedoms and we can freely express that. When a large portion of our female populations is no longer so marriage centric. Women like me can just look for like minded men to enjoy spending time with and not have have that cloud of marriage hanging over them.

NEWS FLASH!!! Marriage is different then an "LTR", gentlemen!! Just because a woman is advertising that she is not interested in one night stands, that does not mean that she is expecting the white picket fence either. Get over yourselves, is what I have to say.

I have met someone on AFF. I have been dating him for about 9 months. Is he someone I will introduce to my family, probably not. My friends, yes I would. Is it the perfect "friends with benefits" situation out there? YES IT IS! I was not a woman looking for an NSA encounter. I specifically said that in my profile.

I think the reason you have mostly men here complaining about website is that I think AFF is at fault with its deceptive advertising, "Join for free and get laid tonight!"

I do blame AFF for that. Because of that men will log on, create a profile with their laundry list of wants (including fake breasts) or a declaration of desperation (I have not been laid in 6 months), post their dick pick and expect the women to flock to them.

The Fake profiles, yes, they are there and they are very easy to spot. But I think that the desperation feeds the fraud. This, too, I place blame on the way AFF sells the website out there to the masses.

Now as for having to join to get the full benefits of the site? HMMMMMMMM... YES, I think you should pay a company for the services they are selling. Don't you think so? I mean, you expect to join and get full access. In my opinion all the free loading men who are standard members should go away. I see them daily. I have personally bounced back and forth between Gold, Silver and Standard. Currently, I am a standard member since I have met someone. The blogging community there is an excellent place to be and I have met some valued friends through the blogs. Guess what? They invest a little time.

So, can really blame and criticize a company for charging their customer to use their services. I am surprised they give out popularity privileges, which I benefit from. I can look, email, chat, blog and pretty much anything I want to, but the pics I can view are smaller and I do not have access to view all the pictures.

How can you expect not to pay?

I also have never had a problem with their billing, at all. I have turned my auto renew off and never get billed. Restart my account and get billed. Just the way it is suppose to work.

Just like you guys issues with the fakes we, women, have out own:

The 50 year old men think that they can pass themselves off as 40 year old men, throw their dick pic up there and the horny college age girls will be throwing themselves at them.

I can walk into any bar and get laid. I have no problem with that, thank you! But I do not feel comfortable walking into a bar and saying, "hey, I am bi and love to swing a little. How about you?"

This allows for a little bit of a screening process which I think is very valuable. I mean gentlemen, you are wanting to put your body part inside of me. Right? Do you expect us ladies to get one email and fall on our backs for you?

As for the one guy who said that he could go to a strip club and get a blow job in the back room. Well, good for you and continue to do that because your level of desperation is not the kind of man I am attracted to in the first place.

Again, LTR does not equal marriage. LTR does not equal monogamy. My relationship, we each still date, but we also know that there is a primary partner that we can come home to on almost any given night to avoid that temptation of random sex. And we make for perfect play partners in the lifestyle.

So, this is no, i do not understand all the bashing I have seen here. I do not understand how you can underrate the site and more importantly many of the women on the site. Yes, it is a very diverse environment on both of the gender sides (ummm, actually there are several genders to chose from ;-)).

It is as diverse as the real world. So, no. I can not buy half of the negative reviews here, sorry.

You get out of AFF what you are willing to put into it. The quality is there for you to have if you are willing to exhibit quality, yourself. You get an email you do not like, simply ignore it, block the user and move on.

I think the reviews here and elsewhere are unfair. I almost closed my account and ran from the site when I saw all the dick pics and "wanna fuck tonight" emails. But I have given it sometime and have been very happy with the friend I have met and the wonderful platonic friends I have met.

Do not judge by the disgruntled men on here and elsewhere about AFF.

Someone said it right there is the psychology aspect to take into consideration with men and women. And there are many women out searching for an avenue to express their sexuality but still have standards and expectations in place.

It is an adult playland. Enjoy yourself!

STICK TO CRAIGSLIST IF YOU'RE LOOKING FOR A HOOK-UP.

Last month I paid for a membership on Adultfriendfinder but I met nobody. In that same time I met 3 women from Craigslist. Craigslist is free for anyone to use. Adultfriendfinder requires at least $20/month if you want to productivly use their site. Why pay Adultfriendfinder for no results, when you can find someone on Craigslist.

What's the problem here, why can't I met someone on an adult site? Because Adultfriendfinder is mySpace for adults. Most of the women on Adultfriendfinder are using the site for social networking. Or they're having fun reading the emails and soaking up the attention.

What I don't get is a few of the women I've talked to on AFF complain that the right guy isn't on that site. Quite a few of the women on there are looking for a relationship. The reason they came to Adultfriendfinder is because of the quanity of men on that site. If they want something serious then maybe they should join POF and not a sex site.

Here's my take on why I've met casual hook-ups on Craigslist.

I have often thought that women become horny and at that time are willing to take a chance on meeting a stranger. I discussed this theroy with one of the girls I hooked up with, She told me that she hadn't been with a guy in a couple of months and she was excited by taking the risk and doing something taboo (Sex with strangers). What I did to confirm this is put an ad up on Craigslist at a time when single people would be alone with nothing to do. The results paid off as I recieved 6 different emails from arroused women.

This window that women have doesn't stay open for too long and this is where craigslist has an advantage over these dating sites. With Craigslist you can contact someone right away via email for free. Craigslist don't require you to have an account, wait 2 hours for a profile approval, and then pay $20-30 to send a message. A woman is no longer horny by the time she goes through the gears of motion required by a dating site.

You have to remember these women feel they're taking a risk. They're only going to meet someone who'll safely fulfill their needs. It's a good idea to find out what women are attracted to and give them a good reason to meet you. These women aren't here to settle on the best offer they can find, you'll have to coax them out of their shell.

Almost all the messages I received from AFF were from people 30 years older than I am or people currently living in China. However, I am giving this place 3 stars because, thanks to pure luck, the love of my life saw me on this site and decided to join and message me. Without this site I would never have met him, even though he lived only a mile from me.

FriendFinder is truly the worse site for women. Women are routinely abused by the management. The ratio of 10 men to 1 woman is no accident. Women are routinely called names, and even threatened with violence in the chat rooms. All communication (emails, chat, instant messenger) is censored 100% of the time, not just the first 2 contacts. The billing dept is verbally abusive. Credit cards are double and triple billed, and personal info, including CC numbers, are routinely sold by the company. How many real member profiles are up? Who knows, many feature the pictures of well known porn stars, sometimes repeating the same photos. Certainly not worth risking your identity and personal safety to join.

Definitely not a site recommended to men looking for women.

There are at least 10-15 guys per woman on this site. It is probably a lot higher if one had access to the actual numbers of fake female ads or members who have not visited in months to years.

1) Do not expect that the women are going to be what you are fantasizing about. Because of the stigma associated with such a site, people are not going to show you their faces as often. And when you see a close up of someone's breasts, just imagine the rolls of fat that you are not seeing in their cropped photo. Because of the distorted gender ratio, women on this site not usually accustomed to attention in their everyday lives are being fought over constantly. And because of that, aren't you just a bit worried about what social disease you might catch?

The street goes both ways, though, and you can be sure that the AFF sidewalks are not lined with classy, elegant guys with winsome smiles, good diction and nice teeth.

2) There are fake ads galore. Especially "standard" (i.e. non-paying) members. If you send them a message they will reply with a canned response to email them at y@hoo or the g-mail place, so as to not get busted by the website's filters against spam/phishing. Basically, they're looking for you to send them an email so they can get your email address for spam lists. The paying members (gold or silver members) were more legitimate, but you're still dealing with that M/F ratio. Seemingly aware of male frustration with the site, Adult Friend Finder seems to be integrating more porn into their wares to satisfy the sexually frustrated.

3) If you have a proverbial "face for radio" you're going to have a harder time at this site, a conventional dating site, or in real life. A photo of your 14 inch member might help, but probably will not carry the day. There is still that M/F ratio to tend with and your chances are going to be much better at a regular dating site.

4) Most of the real women on the site are looking for dating and not just hookups. Don't believe me? Then read the profiles and read the nice article on Velocity Press. This is what women on regular dating sites are looking for anyhow, just with a better M/F ratio. I am not writing out of frustration or bitterness, as I had been able to meet up with someone from friend finder. We basically met to be friends to see if there was chemistry and whether it would go further. And I like her. But hell, I have that same options elsewhere but with a plenty more to choose from. Frankly I had better luck with the match site in the past. Meet some people you find interesting, go out on some dates, start sleeping together, if you're not really into it than move on. I remember dating a nice, educated woman from a conventional site and lying in bed together. She remarked, "My mother always said you better sample the candy before you commit to buying the whole box."

5) I can't speak to couples looking for couples or gay/lesbian searches, but the word is that the site delivers more on that end.

But the bottom line is that there are way more guys than women here. Guys, I am not trying to be too hard on the site. They are a little sleazy, they want to make money like any other company, and they seem to at least be making some effort to limit spam/fakes, but you can do much better the conventional route. Your chances of just having casual hookups here are very slim. You will have to "work at it" for many hours on this site. You will do much better working at it in real life or at a site with a more even gender ratio (the US population is close to 50-50 male to female). The more time and cash you waste on this site, the easier you are making it for they guys who aren't there. I am not renewing, so those of you remaining on the site, thanks for making it easier for me on the outside.

I rate AFF with one star.

I've been a member of this site off and on for a few years now. In that time the site has gotten worse and it was bad to begin with.

Much has been posted already about the fake ads, & the AFF employee profiles. I'd like to expand upon the 'legitimate' ads from single women out there.

Being in the northeast, I can attest that these ladies are all about what I call 'the AFF life' and not much else. They won't chat outside the site's IM system or chatrooms. And forget trying to include an alternate e-mail address or chat screen name through AFF, it gets filtered and deleted for AFF for violating their terms of service!

AFF claims an address can be sent after 2 e-mail exchanges but it's been my experience that regardless of mails sent, inclusion of an alternate address results in a filtered and deleted mail.

Now...on to the women. Many have ads listing them as single, but a cursory browse of profiles will show that most are either involved with someone, or even married. Why would a married woman leave her profile listing her as a single?

Should you enter chat and get acquainted with the local ladies, again, speaking only from experience in the New England area, few if any will agree to meet in person unless it is at a well publicized meet and greet mentioned constantly in the chat room.

I had the experience of attending one meet and greet a few years back. In attendance were maybe 15-20 women, a handful of couples, and easily over 100 guys! Just like being in AFF chat, except in person! lol

& for the most part, the ladies were average. Yes there were 2 maybe 3 very attractive women. But most were what they like to refer to themselves as BBWs. Not to sound judgmental but it's my opinion AFF is the only place these women get the amount of attention they do.

The 'dynamic' of the meet was nearly akin to the chatroom. There were the few ladies who literally buzzed all over the bar getting involved in every conversation taking place. And like in chat, it's tough trying to get to know a lady when there are 9 or 10 guys 'waiting in line' practically for the opportunity to butt in to the conversation, interrupting asking her if she'd like another drink, etc. Add to this all the alpha male type A personalities and you can see what a futile exercise an AFF meet and greet truly is.

I got involved with AFF initially because I took it at face value it boasted what it advertised, 'the world's largest sex and swinger community.' I've been friends with the same couple for a number of years, and AFF seemed the place to meet a lady interested in alternative lifestyles.

And though I have enjoyed some success on AFF, meeting a few ladies and several couples, it's my opinion the majority of ladies out there enjoy the 10 to 1 man ratio and being 'groveled over' for attention in chat and at the meet and greets.

I frequently see women, especially the ones who are married but have profile listing them as single, woo and swoon the men for attention but again, no chat or e-mail outside AFF. "if you want to meet me, come to the next meet and greet" What they don't say is that they'll be there with their husband and no, they don't enjoy the company of another man.

I've called out many of the gals promoting the meet and greets in the chat room and talk about getting chastised!! They immediately gang up and start firing away. 'what am I looking for, someone to hop in the sack with after an hour?' Not at all I reply but point out the sites' slogan, 'largest sex and swinger's community'

A gal in chat replies and I use her exact words "if you believe that I have a bridge I can sell you!"

I've actually had more luck on conventional dating sites tastefully stating who I am and what I seek.

Being somewhat 'negative' in chat regarding the meets has gotten me 'blacklisted' by the very active lady members in chat. While I haven't any proof positive of this, a woman I have met and remain friends with has told me that the ladies have a list of guys that new women members are discouraged from meeting.

The guys who are accepted are the ones content chatting only on AFF and using AFF mail, and meeting only at the chat room meet and greet events. While the ladies rave about these parties, I haven't seen much good said by guys who went and log in to chat a few days later. They remain quiet because they don't want to incur the wrath. lol

I did sign up a month ago just to see if things have changed but after seeing it's gotten worse I won't be renewing. And, just prior to my first month expiring, I miraculously received 4 emails that I first had to renew my subscription before viewing, even though my membership wasn't due to expire for another few days. I renewed, and surprise, the mails were from members replying to mails I'd sent weeks earlier saying 'sorry, not interested' or 'not seeking anyone new at this time'

Lesson learned, I'll delete my profile and cancel my credit card a good week before my subscription renewal, and I'll be sure to post in chat the various class action suits against AFF before departing the site for good!

This is the way it is: Women who turn to the internet for sex have a short attention for their sexual need, meaning that a few hours after they posted their profile they just don't want to meet anyone.

With adult friend finder it takes a few hours just to get your profile posted. In that time a woman usually grows uninterested or become scared to meet any guy. About the only women you can meet on their site are the ones who are Dating the Website in a sense, and there aren't too many of them and they're ultra picky.

I've found The Casual Encounters section of Craigslist is a far better place to go for sex than adult friend finder. In a sense, you can contact the women on craigslist while they're still hot. Also, the women who are hardcore adult friend finder gold members also check craigslist. I just don't se any reason to give Friend Finder my CC number when I can get more for free.

AFF is changing for the worse. Now, you can't view you emails unless you're a paid member. This pretty much takes away any advantage any guy would have on this site. Then to top it all off, there are FriendFinder employees who have profiles on that site who post on Blogs and stuff.

EMPLOYEE PROFILES = FAKE ACCOUNTS

THANKS AFF...

The site is still okay if you're into chatting and stuff, but that kind of stuff is better for older people.