Reviews of eHarmony

After going on a bunch of dates with players and men interested only in one thing (I'm no prude but geez!) on match.com and yahoo personals, I decided to give eHarmony a try. Filled out the profile, got a few matches, but only a trickle. Most I tried to communicate with never answered (likely non-paying members), or would get to stage 2 or 3, only to never hear from them again. I let my membership lapse, and like others, got floods of interesting matches at that time. I closed them all out, as I was done with online dating, and got on with life.

Things settled down and for whatever reason I decided to try eHarmony once again. Looking for someone who wants a real relationship and isn't shallow, and figured the personality matching system would give me an edge. I signed up for the year deal, falling for their pitch to 'give it at least a year.' Okay, fine. I do know two people who met and married on eHarmony, so figured I'd try, too.

After a few months of eagerly trying to communicate with those matches that really caught my eye, I gave up. Most just closed me out as soon as I released my pic. I'm not going to win any beauty contests but I'm not butt-ugly, either. Heck, my pics got me rated between 7-8 on Hot or Not, so I can't be *that* bad. And the kicker? Lots of those who asked for pics and closed me right after getting them were friggin' bald and nothing to look at either!!

I now release my pic only to those I find interesting. I no longer initiate communication. Doesn't matter. Still get closed before getting to open communication, or closed shortly afterwards. To date (6 months into my subscription), I've NEVER even talked on the phone, let alone gone out on a date.

Yes, I've closed matches where I felt we were truly incompatible (politics, religious differences, nothing in common) but for most, even if they're not my physical ideal (balding, overweight, short, whatever) I figure that until I get to know them and meet them, how do I really know? I communicate with everyone who intitiates contact with me. But I find that the men I'm matched with go by appearance, or just don't want a single mom with kids (there is no baggage, ex and I remain friendly and civil, no drama).

I closed the match with the woman who had become a man (yes, they matched me with a transsexual, and not that I'm against people changing genders, it's just not who I want to date, sorry), and a guy who clearly lied about his age (he was nearly 60, not 46, as his profile claimed). Even being very open-minded gets me nowhere. I suppose I'm glad I learn how shallow these men are before meeting them, but is every man in America who I'm compatible with that shallow? Apparently, they are.

I will NOT be renewing nor recommending this service to others. Maybe it works better if you're younger and fitter and have no kids. But for the men in my age range that I'm looking for (40-55) I'm surprised at how shallow the men are. Get real.

I've used eHarmony twice during the past 5 years. The first time I was with eH, I met someone who was a good match and we married within a year. She was actually my first literal match sent, but that I know is just a matter of chance. We have divorced after about 4 years together, but remain good friends, for which I am grateful. As most reviewers here have figured out, the compatability system is smoke and mirrors. You will receive matches based on region and locality more than any other factor. You will receive more matches if you are in their database as Christian (as compared to other choices such as Agnostic or Athiest). You should expect that the majority of your matches will be inactive and unpaid members, who have no way to contact you -- unless, in one of the text fields you enter a timely message and type out your email address in some disguised manner, so that there is the chance that even invalid members who do view your profile can contact you. I have had this work several times and actually had pretty keen people emailing me, from my list of otherwise non-member matches. Example of such a phrase: "The Dems have just met in Denver and chosen Obama, and my email address is blahblah @ oohay with service provider spelled backwards." ... Such as me, dellforum001 @ liamg . moc ... It's frivolous to purchase a one-month subscription -- there won't be enough time to be able to communicate to enough people -- only jump in when you can get a package of not more than $23 per month. You can search for eH coupons, there are always many versions of coupons out there. I strongly suggest making a new profile and turning on matching, then just don't go back to the website (as in DO NOT LOG IN at all) for two or three weeks. They will send you loads of matches in the attempt to entice you to log in (and pay to join). By about the third week when you log in again for the second time, you will have a slew of matches to start with, and hopefully will have garnered a deal for between $20-$23 per month. They will send you better and better priced deals the longer you wait to go back and log in for that second time. Like anything else, it will be what you make of it. Try to make the initial questionnaire a 'middle of the road' psychological profile, and by all means I can't stress enough to list yourself as Christian as it is of course the dominate representation in the USA. Be creative and don't just hit radio buttons when you reply to people. Include their name when replying, even if it is a radio button response of 240 characters or less. You want to engender the feeling that you are engaged. For those individuals who are active members with whom are matched, take the time to read their whole profile and learn something about them. You won't come across as interesting if you ask questions such as what is their favorite movie, etc. It's what you make of it, like anything else in life. I had a great experience the first time and plan on having a great experience this time, too.

NO STARS!!!! Was required to give at least one star for the review to go out.... I have registered on eharmony twice. Am I THAT BAD???? My results keep saying there are no matches for me. WHAT???? I feel that I am not that different than anyone else and answered my questions as honestly as I possibly could. So, does that mean I need to lie to get a match? Literally? I do not recommend spending the time it takes to create this profile. I would do just as well to stand by the road with my thumb out!

I wouldn't give any stars. Actually, I would give negative stars. I was a member for 6 mths but after 5, I canceled early. I got tons of 'matches', but hardly any met my criteria. It seems they sent anyone who lived within 200 miles of me. Most were 10 yrs or more older than me, many shorter than me (I'm 5'9), & without photos. I didn't realize so many truck drivers were 'looking for love' on the internet, but eharmony somehow managed to send them all my way. The ones that had photos were hardly attractive. If I had met most of these men in a dating environment (I met no one btw), I would feel like I landed in the movie 'Deliverance'. Suffice to say, the men sent to me scared the bajeebus out of me. Eharmony is the biggest waste of money ever. If you want to join an online dating site, join one that ALLOWS YOU to at least view pics & decide first if you want them to be able to see you or initiate some sort of communication through a screening process that gives you some control. Eharmony gives you ZERO control. For that kind of money YOU should be able to decide if you think there is some sort of initial chemistry while figuring out those 29 levels of compatibility (which is complete nonsense btw). Remember, this is the internet, people can say whatever they want & be whomever they want. Your own intuition is better than this douchebag's system (the guy who founded shitharmony).

E-harmony is a conniving, crooked, devious, cunning, deceitful, dishonest, treacherous company who have stolen millions from innocent people, they are laying to the customers be careful !!! don’t provide your CREDIT CARD EHARMONY will still your money in 29 different dimensions

I am currently an eharmony member. I have been on and off since 2004 (because I entered into committed relationships using eharmony). I have also tried yahoo and match.com. I always seem to return to eharmony. I think that there is something to eharmony's matching system. Since 2004 I have had 3 relationships through eharmony and the personality "click" was far superior than the meat market of match. I too have experienced some of the frustrating aspects of online dating and dating in general. But frankly you will get that on any dating site or dating period. I don't take what other members do or say personally because with online dating just like in the real world, you will find rude, deceitful or oblivious people. Dating itself is frustrating. I have to say that the matching system seems to work so much so that I continue to be the best of friends with an ex whom I would not have met in my lifetime any other way. I think part of my success with online dating is that I also do a lot of screening of my matches so that by the time I get to meeting the match, they have been through another level of screening and end up being good quality individuals. No major complaints here.

OK, first the Good: within 2 days of joining I received about 30 matches. All were within my specified age range,professional, reasonably good looking and seemed to be compatible with me based on the information in their profiles. The Bad: many of them closed me out about the same time I received the match email. The rest I never heard from or they closed me out after 1 or 2 communications. I am a very nice looking 55 year old woman, professional, affluent, multiple degrees, trim and fit. At first I thought it was just my bad luck, but after reading the reviews on this site, I realize that many people have had the same experience. I believe part of the reason behind the negative experiences is due to the deficiencies in Eharmony (i.e., sending "matches" that are inactive or not paying members)but most of it is due to the general brutality of the dating scene, especially for age 50+ women. As in the general population, single women far outnumber men in this age group, so the guys can pick and choose. If you don't look like Christie Brinkley or live around the corner from them, you'll probably be closed out immediately. C'est la vie. I've cancelled my membership, but if you have a high tolerance for rejection and a lot of time to spend sifting through matches that will probably not pan out, then Eharmony may be for you.

p.s. Contrary to what others have written about poor customer service, I was granted a relatively hassle free refund.

OK, well after reading the reviews (most of which are not great) I was of course at least curious how this "different approach" to a dating site works. After spending a long time completing the questions for the "Free Personality Profile" which by the way is kinda lame I wanted to see what would happen...who my great match is.

Well I can now see what all the other reviewers are saying with the first set of matches. The City of Los Angeles has MILLIONS of single women. Matches were all quite far, considering this is such a densely populated area.

Out of 5 matches: 1. In Los Angeles. (ok) then Burbank and Long Beach (quite far already)and the kicker Alhambra (which is not even in the same County) and Lomita. The problem is, I have tried this before and the relationship fails just because of the distance. Unless you live close enough that you will be able to see the person OFTEN, how can you really get to know if they are you soul mate and future wife? If you move in together to solve the problem , then the statistics are that it greatly reduces the chance of marriage.

Besides the distance thing, 3 out of the 5 matches were older than me. Not that age is so important, but I prefer somebody a little younger.

One thing I am wondering, (please give me some feedback)..I have read some reviews where they say there are more women on the site than men. First, I find this hard to believe since all other dating sites there are ten times more men, and second why would this be different? Would this not just be the same crap where women have a huge advantage? Like lots more matches sent to them than men get?

Thank you, but NO THANKS.

Sorry I didn't find this site sooner. Doesn't sound too promising and I recently joined. What I have noticed so far is that it seems the guys get to decide everything. One guy put me on hold because I refuse to put my picture anywhere on the internet but his isn't on there either which is apparently ok. So I closed him. I'm not looking for a husband (already had one of those) but I would like to have a relationship with a nice man. Thought this might be a nice way to meet someone. Time will tell

This is the absolute worst dating site on the internet. Either the women are obese, religious nuts or animal nuts. I really can't believe how many animal nuts there are on the site. I went on a few dates for the sole purpose of at least seeing if the women I was matched with were compatible personality-wise. I met married women, drunks, in-debt up to their eyeballs, fat, sluts and feminists.

No thanks.