Reviews of JDate

JDate doesn't deserve even one star. I signed up on 2/2/2010 and tried to cancel on 2/5/2010. Jdate keeps people's profiles up even after the person has stopped paying for the service. It wasn't until I started searching the site that I noticed that many of the profiles were several years old and the person had not been on the sight for over 60 days. By saying the person has not been on the sight for over 60 days, the consumer doesn't know if the person has not been on the sight for years. I feel the website is filled with dead ends and the site uses these profiles to look more successful than it is. I feel it is a dishonest practice. I wish I had read the reviews before signing up for the website. Jdate refused to refund my payment even though it had only been three days since I opened the account. I did have my profile removed.

I am now 59 been off and on Jdate since 2002. It has been a total waste of time and money. I am 6ft5, handsome in hollywood terms. But I'm a blue collar Jew, just an ex postal worker. The women on jdate who are attractive all want guys with 6 figure incomes, and what do they offer?? Nothing they don't cook, they don't have anything in their corner except looks. Jewish women (Japs) in particular have a false sense of entitlement. Thats why we Jews have a 60% intermarriage rate. Jdate women the good looking ones, are little more than prostitutes, it's all about money. makes me ashamed to be a Jew. You'd think after the Holacaust that our women would understand the importance of being with Jewish men and having kids, But noooo, these vultures are only out for all they can get, and many told me on jdate that they'd rather be alone than be with a Jewish guy who did not make as much as their Daddies!! I found the sight to be a waste of time,

Where to start........ Well, I've been on and off for 2 years now.

I'm in that "funny" age of dating. I started on Jdate when I was 39 and now I'm 41.

Most of the men who contact me are looking for 1 of 3 things:

1. a dominant women to beat them into submission while I humiliate them (NOT into this)

2. a cougar (NOT INTO THIS either and I have it specified in my ID and profile)

3. A young piece of eye candy for a 50 - 78 year old man. (TOTALLY NOT INTO THIS and I have it specified in my id and profile)

Dated 2 men (both with severe issues - 2nd one ended up being gay)

Met a 3rd for drinks. His profile (and pics) were of a VERY attractive, good looking man who claimed to be 37. When I met him, my first question was "how is it possible that I'm older than you?" - as he was clearly in his 50's.

Outside of that, MOST of the matches they have me as being compatible with are Nigerian scammers with fake profiles.

Example profile: (content is always the same and pics are from various catalogs)

"I am a calm, intelligent, financially stable and faithful man.I'm an straight forward, honest, passionate and very romantic man with a great heart and Great personality. I wear my heart upon my shoulder. I'm a Man that has been brought up with good manners. I like to be spontaneous. I'm not boring at all. I'm not into games at all. I love the outdoors and animals a lot. I love holding hands, hugging and cuddling up with that special someone I can share my love with and be loved in return. I believe in communicating with my love. I love to be romantic in fun little ways when you least expect it.I have a simple philosophy, which is to follow the “golden rule” which is “treat everyone like you want them to treat you”, and show love and understanding to all human beings. I just try to follow the golden rule, and think positive! I also like to live in the moment, and enjoy life everyday. I am self-confident, and know that I can accomplish any thing I focus my attention on. “As a man thinks so he is!!!” I completely believe this, statement that is why I always try to be positive and think good thoughts. I never lie, so if you ask me a question you will get an honest answer. I always believe in doing the right thing, and never hurt anyone or thing. I am a man of strong character but get along with all people. I have a broad range of humor."

Currently, 7 of my matches have this same profile and all live in East Orange, NJ......nuf said.

I get literally harassed from 63 year old men who start up IM's with "I've been told I look 45" - even though my profile states that I can guarantee I won't have one ounce of interest.

On that same note, I get bombarded with IM's from 19 - 23 year old kids looking to screw an old lady that looks hot.

There is absolutely NO WAY to control this as there are no settings. Unfortunately, I DO come up as a good match in their search based on some really vague and quite silly search criteria.

Yes I agree with what someone else said on this message board. Jdate is the dumpster of dating. These are all the non-datable people - come back in 2 years, and these folks will still be here - with the same pics.

Ah, Jdate.....I've had a love/hate relationship with it for years. OK, well....more hate than love. I have made an amazing friend this past summer on it (you know who you are!), so for that reason alone I can say it was worth it. Other than that pleasant surprise, I wonder what my life would have been like over this soon to be concluded decade had I not ever tried JDate. I wonder....

I've been on and off of JDate for nearly 10 years. I've met people, had endless first dates, and several relationships, one even went as far as an engagement. I even had a relationship this year. Yet, the simple fact that I am here, writing this mostly negative review should be an indication of my opinion of the website. People on there are not what they seem, and carry alot of baggage.

A friend of mine refers to online dating as a "dumpster for the un-marriage-able." I'm not sure I'd go that far, but he's not totally off in that assumption. Sure, there are "diamonds in the rough" on every dating website, but, as a JDate veteran, I can say the quality has diminished sharply over the years. It used to be less expensive, and with a dating pool of people like me, single, down to earth, just all around decent people looking to see what's out in the world. Not so in the past several years. The quality of single people on JDate has dropped sharply in my opinion. Humble, decent, nice women have made way to nasty, demanding, full of themselves caricatures who think an "about me" essay means a list of demands in a potential mate. Not to mention it's usually the same people. Whenever I go back on after some time away, I find it amazing how it's always like a reunion. The same women, a little older, a little more bitter, is it that hard for them to find someone? This is why, for the first time, I am not blindly going back to JDate thinking it's my only option. I am trying other avenues, and cutting my losses with JDate. I will not give them another penny. It's been 10 years, it's no longer worth the investment. There are other sites, it's time for me to try them, and get out in the real world more! I have that same friend to thank for that!

For the JDate veterans, you all know what I'm talking about. For the new person, looking at it for the first time (such a concept astounds me, but it can be true), let me give you some pointers from someone who's been there.

-It's all about the picture. They'll either find you good looking or not. If they don't, nothing you say will ever matter. You will be ignored.
-It's also about the income. Amazingly enough, women over 30, still living at home, and unemployed think it's totally fair to demand that you make 6 figures and drive an expensive car. Seems fair, right?
-Nothing you write really matters. No one reads what you write. I have tweaked my essay countless times, have had friends read it, and it's the same thing. I'd say one out of every 100 profiles who looks at me must read the essay. So, keep it simple, funny, and sweet. Don't write your life story or they will move on.
-You will meet people, you will go out on dates, but buyer beware. Most people that are on there are single for a reason. Not all, but most, take it from me. Take it slow, be cautious, keep your wits about you, and don't "give away the store" so easily. Dishonesty is the rule it seems. If you're interested in someone, and they are in you, however honest they seem, do your homework. It will save you aggravation in the long run.
-Don't take it personally. You will get ignored, rejected, and told "you're not my type" or "good luck in your search." You will send an IM that will the person will "choose not to respond." Let it roll off of you, take a deep breath, and dive back in.

Good luck, as they say in the lotto commercials, you never know! Date safe!

so herewith another story about Jdate or really about some of the guys who are there supposedly to find a nice jewish girl.

One evening my lovely flatmate who I call Ms Sunshine (she is a real sunshine, she is a real radiation of goodness :-) told me this story and I thought it is a joke but actually it pure reality of our times.

She went to check out jdate just to look and see if there is Mr Right Frog or anyone new. That evening there was this quite handsome medical doctor who chat her up and was pushy enough to ask her for her msn. As it happened she decided to take her chances. She allowed him to add her on his list.

They started to chat and he was all about how hard it is to be a doctor in Israel and he works such long hours that he almost has no life. She was real understanding at which point our fellow offered a u-turn in his conversation and said that he would be real interested to have a “let’s play a game” and also offered to show his webcam of which my friend accepted. She was really sympathetic of his hardship, yeah poor guy works so hard and saving lives… so yeah why not see face-to-face each other…..

There was a shock… I huge one (ok not that huge but you know…) he simply had his member in the middle of the picture. No fuss just like that his proud brain was all displayed on the screen. That guy’s brain was his penis. I mean he reduced himself to become his desires.

My friend basically after registered the fact that this guy was actually a possibly “self-appointed private porn-star in his mind” a second or two later turned the guy’s webcam off and cut the conversation with a sentence “you are a dick” (and he was really)…

I was like “Nooooo” with emphasising my ooooo and then “OMG, how nasty”.

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One evening we were all home and we even had visitors and the atmosphere was really cheerful in our household. I was as usually moaning about my singlehood. At which point, the story of the above-mentioned guy was on the table. We decided this is a good time to test how far can people go in their stupidity. So we were all into the fact that let’s see my friend’s “membership”. After she brought her laptop to the kitchen where we comfortably set down in a row just like in a cinema and were all eager to become experienced in the “membership reality show”. All six of us made our bets that how long will it take to see “her private membership”. It was amazingly fast. It took us only I think 3 minutes, a couple of silly chat lines and here we go there it was…

lol and we were all laughing at a guy who was really so far the biggest arse I ever have seen in the entire online dating history.

Now here is a dilemma why would someone go on an online dating website where it is really about nice jewish boys and girls who are of course “adults” are trying to find a date and supposedly may be the love of their life…

It is a biggest wonder for me… especially that the web does offer its porn related websites where people only engage in and for sexual desires and interactions….

why would you do that on an “official jewish dating” website and why would you want to find your targets there for such a desire… a big question….

I think such a behaviour really related to the same category as sexual aberration… as it seems these men probably do enjoy the fact that they target “innocent” women and not being engaged with all the hassle of the “real-life”….

Unfortunately the only way to treat these experiences to have a laugh and move on, we all know that such a “membership” just not worth to keep up as it leaves nothing to the imagination….

JDate is completely unconcerned with the fake profiles that plague its site. I had two chats with a user who admitted to being fake. I notified JDate after the first chat. I couldn't include the text because the chat application wouldn't allow for copying text. After the second chat I used screen captures to document the fraud. After notifying JDate again, I got no response this time (they flagged the user after my first complaint, which does nothing). The fake user is still active. Customer service is still ignoring my complaint.

Get this: the second most popular user in the DC area is a gorgeous woman with the name "soniablayd". Get it? Soon you'll be laid? Look through the women on this site and tell me why JDate has more beautiful women than any other site?

While JDate could be decent, with good functionality and features, it is really just a scam.

I wish "no stars" was an option! I recently took the time to scan through the profiles recommended to me by jdate, and a good portion of them had not signed on in at least 90 days. According to their own rules, if you do not log in for 90 days your profile will be deleted. I guess not. That would make them look bad, now wouldn't it? In addition, the men who jdate "found" for me had nothing in common with me, or were several years older then my maximum age (I'm in my early twenties and some of those guys were 37 and above!), or, when I chatted with them, were absolute pervs. In addition, I have a very strong feeling that even though I asked Jdate NOT to notify individuals when I looked up their profiles (I'll get to the reason for THAT in a minute), they notified them anyway. Now--why would I not want jdaters to know I was looking at their profiles? Because I keep getting the same 20-30 recommended profiles sent to me everyday, and I was starting to feel like a stalker...looking at the same person's profile every day...and figured that would make ANYONE uncomfortable, match or no match. I can't explain in 6000 characters the various hints on people's profiles that made me suspicious, but I just KNOW that despite changing my preferences to make it impossible for men to know when I looked at them, some of them knew anyway. Once I realized what was going on, I deleted my account altogether, and I'm praying I never run into any of these guys in real life.

The web site itself is decent in terms of usability. My complaint deals with the people on this site. I've been on/off for about two years and I always go down two paths: Get burnt by the somewhat desirable girls and on a RARE occasion, a shot with an undesirable girl. Yes, even the average looking ones act like Paris Hilton.

You send numerous, well thought out emails and maybe your response rate is 2%, if you're lucky! Most take a quick look at your profile, and poof, they move on without a chirp.

I have no clue what the attractive, decent sounding women of Jdate are looking for. I imagine most are waiting for absolute perfection. They must have a checklist the size of Texas, and if you don't meet a requirement, cya later!

Mind you I'm searching for mid 20's to mid 30's. Which is a clear reflection on today's popular culture and what women value now. I'm no Brad Pittstein, but I'm a good looking, intelligent, well rounded, and caring person looking for a like minded woman. And it seems those characteristics are not valued amongst the young ladies now a days. Based on some of the profiles I've read, I need to try traveling to every continent of the planet and perhaps take up skydiving into volcanoes. Ah.. I see where I've missed out on life....

And you always see the same women on the site, even after several years! You would think such attractive, interesting people would find someone. Well, maybe in some cases they meet their dream stud, and it works for 2 weeks or a month, then when that falls through, back to the web site they flock!

I think jdate and other dating web sites are a reflection of our current society (mainly 20 - 35 age group). No sense of morals, values, or of anything good/decent. It's a "ME ME ME" generation where people are raised not to appreciate anything of any value. The few "good ones" are NOT on these web sites or are already taken. It's a sad world folks, and if you think this young generation is bad, just wait till the next!

I hope it's clear to anyone and everyone that some of these 'reviews' are out there in la-la land, and that they sometimes cross the line into the slanderous.

A poster on here makes allegations about me that are absolutely and completely false (I was not a member of the relevant site at the time, and thus certainly not in the chat room of the site, and thus certainly not engaged in any way with this poster). And yet there is nothing that I can do about it.

I imagine that others must be in the same situation. I'd urge readers of this review site to bear that in mind.

I'm a good looking guy with a masters degree and a six figure income. I’m also 6 ft tall and in great shape. In the real world and on the only other dating site I've tried (Match.com), I have no problem meeting smart, grounded, beautiful women who are fun to hang out with and interested in pursuing relationships. Unfortunately for me, these women are also not Jewish. In my quest to meet a Jewish woman, I decided to join Jdate.com last month. Thus far, my experience on Jdate.com has been a nightmare. Jdate.com is difficult to navigate. The search filters are nonexistent and, most disturbing, my response rate is under 5%. And those women that have responded to my communications are either far from athletic/toned or have no sense of reality and are still living on their dad's credit card (think teachers, social workers and speach therapists living in million dollar one bedroom apts in Manhattan). I'm a happy, go lucky guy, but this site is making me bitter. It's no wonder why the rate of intermarriage is increasing so rapidly!