Reviews of JDate

My experience at JDate was terrible, and the member atmosphere at the site is quite negative. JDate makes no effort to enhance the use of their site, because fundamentally, the easier it is to use, the sooner paying members get off of the site because they have found partners. Bringing Jewish singles together is not the goal of JDate as stated, it is money, bottom line.

Ways the site could be enhanced (all suggestions have fallen on deaf ears):
1. once you have clicked 'no' that members profile should not again appear in searches.
2. Jdate sends you supposedly 'new' matches - but they are generally people you have already reviewed and clicked, be it yes, no, or maybe - now surely they have a way to remove no's from searches, or matches that they send to you in the mail.

So you spend tons of time on JDate if you are serious about finding a match, and 98% of that time is sorting through profiles of you have already seen and marked yay or nay. Forget about the wasted time for you, for JDate, it is a huge bonanza. I've spend seven years off and on the site - and most of that time has been spend seeing the same old profiles, 2% of my time finding new. I have had three girlfriends through the site, and even met my best friend there. Ok, so some experiences, but in comparison to the wasted time, it is not economical or a good deal. At least other websites make the effort to accommodate suggestions. JDate sends back pat responses. Clearly they have evaluated such suggestions to make the site more than appearance manageable - all to no avail.

Then there are the people:

I respond back to each and every query. People will write to you, and then you respond back in turn, and you hear nothing back - not even a thank you. This happens constantly. Or people who drop communications without explanation. People who drop IM's without explanation. People who lie about themselves and/or their pictures. People who behave in disrespectful and abusive ways. These are the same people who make complaints of others.

If you want to give your money away, and want to be frustrated - go to JDate, where you will find a management insensitive to the needs of its clientele, and many, not all, but many members who have no etiquette and sense of communication propriety.

They've lost my business ....

All dating sites are what they are... collections of personal ads. If you can't get a date after being on these sites for a considerable amount of time, you're probably an undateable person and should accept your fate of being single forever.

I have been on JDATE on and off for 3 years and have to say that this site is simply terrible. I consider myself a decent looking guy who has a reasonable profile, yet after sending over 500 emails to interesting women, I have only received two responses! Additionally, I continue to get flirts from ladies outside the country and from women that are 20 years older than my desired range.

I keep hearing about people meeting their mates for life on internet sites. I decided to go to the biggest site for Jewish Singles. I can't say my visits have been all that good though.
Reasons:
1) The site is cumbersome to use. The Spark company seems to be more concerned about re-arranging the look and feel rather then really improving the functionality
2) You can search on many, vital attributes - such as current family status, future status, etc.
3) I believe as far as online dating goes - this is the most expensive. (Try Match or Yahoo - good value - strong membership).

I have also found a lot of members are actually NO LONGER members - meaning they have abandoned their ID's. Now the reviewer will not know this unless they are clairvoyent. So you could be spending a lot of money and time writing to people - who just are no longer using the site. I suppose this just makes the singles count much higher then it really is.

I also did some math on the numbers signing up and meeting mates. They don't add up either.

In summary - use this site for a short while. If you think it is working - by all means stick with it. If not - drop it like a bad habit.

Final thought - I can not confirm - but have been told that only about 10-12% of people really meet on online sites. Not a great average really.

I was only on Jdate for a few months before meeting my now fiance. I had an absolute blast. All the women I dated were fun.

If you know how to decipher someone's profile, its easy to come up with winners. Of course the first thing to go by is the photo. A well written profile is a must. If a person is a boring writer then it's a no brainier that they will be just the same in person. Two absolute turn offs were: "Just as comfortable in jeans as in a night gown" and the kiss of death "Live, Love, Laugh"!

Once the written communication starts, it doesn't take a genius to figure out if someone other than the Profiler actually wrote their own profile.

Once the verbal communication begins, it takes only a few minutes to know if you want to physically meet. I had four dates in one week!

I have recommended Jdate to everybody...even non-Jews!

i have a story about jdate. my grandmother suggested i go on it because my uncle found his soulmate on that site. And she pushed me until i joined. and my parents approved. so i join and within a day a lot of people have contacted me and IMed me. i barely even chat with them and already they either want to go out, call me constantly, etc. i read some profiles and some people can be just nasty I dont want to even get into it. so yeah one person stalked me and wouldn't leave me alone and I got turned off by him because of his arrogance, then he harasses me and claims I play games. And then there is someone else that wanted to see me naked and I blocked him. I have reported these men and they did nothing about it. and then there was someone I thought I could connect with but there was a major arguement that just turned ugly and I tried to work things out but he wanted nothing to do with me. I just felt like I cant find anyone descent in my area, which is just under an hour north of nyc. I guess if you live in that area you have better luck. So I had to cancel the account because I just felt like people cannot be trusted. So yeah...that is my story.

I was on Jdate and harassed by a women who's screen name was WordDancerLac. This person stalked me in a chat room and then she found my number and called me. I contacted Jdate and they did nothing about this. Jdate sucks majorly

The only reason I'm rating this two stars and not one is because I never actually joined Jdate...but before you dismiss my review, let me tell you why. If you're not a member, people can still IM you. And every time I get online... and accept an IM... some slimeball starts trying to talk dirty three lines in. This has happened at least six times. There is no way to join for a month unless you send a check (who uses checks anymore, seriously?) And, given the repulsive creeps who do try to contact me every time I innocently go on there to peruse matches, update my profile or consider joining, I have serious trepidation about wasting the $40 bucks or whatever it is, only to be harassed by pervs. If I wanted that, I'd go to the local dive bar on the corner. I once heard a comedian liken Jdate to the site of the "Unchosen Chosen People" and IMO it's true -- even if I am among the "Unchosen." I am sure there are wonderful men on there... but how would I know with all the generic "I'm laid back and easygoing" BS profiles... not to mention the droves of people without pictures. I am sorry, a picture should be a prerequisite. Looks aren't everything, but come on. I've had better luck on Match... but not as many Jewish guys are on there. I agree with the previous poster who said real members should be able to tell if you're not a member. I've tried to put that in my profile, but Big Brother at Jdate removes it. I understand why, to a degree, but maybe if the site didn't suck so bad people wouldn't have to sneak off to Facebook for a rendezvous. Good luck everyone.

I am a member of this lame site and was harassed by a member who didn't post a picture. He harassed me with vulgar and lewd remarks. I reported him and JDate, they removed his profile and posted him as a success story. The next day he changed his profile name and was back at it. I reported him again and JDate told me they saw no similarities other than their city. I thanked them and told them I would wait to be harassed again. They responded with a cheery "your welcome" email. I noticed the profile has been removed again and listed as another success story!

Sorry, I have to make an edit because of how absolutely horrible of an experience I'm having. I guess this really isn't a complaint about JDate, but more like the people who are on JDate. And because it's happening on JDate, their review is getting lowered.

I'm IMing some people, just to try to get a conversation started, and right now, I'm 1 for 7.

So you can see that I'm not a creepo, and that I'm a fairly normal guy, you can look me up --> RhoustonB509. So, I don't think women aren't responding to me because of that.

I think a lot of people have preconceived notions of what their dream guy or girl looks like. I mean, C'MON! No one's going to be perfect to a T, especially on a dating site! And I'm OK if there's something about me you don't like. But GEEZ, check out my profile before you deny my IM invitation!

Out of the 6 who didn't respond, 5 of them didn't even look at my profile at all.

If someone (a woman on JDate perhaps) could explain why this is happening, I would appreciate it.