Reviews of Lavalife

I met the love of my life matt on lavalife chat.The only problem at first was the distance.I lived in utica he lived in hudson area.We met and hit it off.After a year and a half of long distance i pick up my life and moved in his area.Its going to be 4 years in september Weve been together. Im so glad i called the number!!!!!!!! :O)

I wish I saw these reviews first! Lavalife has hardly any users in the Boston area. I think there were about 16 users with pic's in the region... This was a very disappointing discovery after I thought I just needed to register to see all the search results. OKCupid has many users in my area, is free, and is a better designed site overall. Also, I don't know why people think these payed sites have more users--probably all the false advertising... in reality, hardly anyone pays to use internet dating sites... and it seems like if they are paying for it, they're definitely not getting what they thought they were paying for... If it's worth it to them, they probably aren't someone you'd want to actually date, lol.

i have been with lavalife for at least 10 years... and it has more then paid off.. THATS LAVALIFE OVER THE PHONE... no fuss no muss...

actually, lavalife is at its best over the phone... as far as the site, it is hurendas ripoff..

ive only been on the website a few times and quickly learned the scams performed by larva...

funny how long it takes for the females to respond to a friendly hello, or im interested are you?

funny how when you do get a response you usaully have 5 to 6 minutes left of the credit you bought...

funny how it is that you only get responses only after larva has determined that you have spent enough time and money to get a response... im not talking about credit time, but actually day and month time...

i have met 3 women from the larva and only due to the out of the ordinary time slots i spent that day on larva...

funny, how when i met some women from this line they actually admited to being paid by larva to have their profiles on their site..

so....... one night and day i got extremely erotated by the fact that i was not getting any resposes to my civil greetings that i decided to perform a expririment..

i decided to be nasty as possible with my greetings and low and behold i was getting responses left right and center...

hmmmmmmmmmmm.... why is it that these women would make time to immediatley respond and continue to fling the improper talk back and forth..

yes i reallize that women get lot of greetings so they can not respond immediatly, but how quick the resposnes came after my rudness...

women have actually told me that response timing is questionalbe as well ...

so i came to conclude that big brother named larva actually decides the fate of your money by the resposne time from the ladies...

HOWEVER... ive have also noticed that if you are to have a response (positive or negative) it will be within the first 2 minutes after sending a message.... if it takes longer then that you just wasted an entire time slot...

FUNNY, on their phone sites as well.... the same results seem to happen.... if you dont get a response with the first 2 minutes... forget about it... thats when they bring up the scanks of larva to waset your time and money....

over the phone, my success rate is 90% of the time for one night stances... there were longer periods as well...

and thats what i have to say on that...

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I actually met several (about 7) men from lavalife, all in the relationship section. I had a long list of requirments, and actually ended up meeting a wonderful professional - things were excellent for many months but then his behaviour became somewhat erratic. Turns out he had been married before (he had told me that he had never been married), he had lied about his age, he had kept his dating profile online even though he had told me he'd taken it down (I never thought to look, as I trusted him) and - most shockingly - one night he showed up at my house, looking unkempt and frightened, and told me that he is a schizoprenic and had been diagnosed about 12 years ago.

All this after thinking I'd carefully screened who I met. I tried to help him but he was very paranoid and very scared of me (I guess that's common with paranoid schizophrenia.)

In the end I managed to contact his family and they stepped in to help.

I know it isn't lavalife's fault, but I'll never try online dating again.

I give it 4 stars, as have actually met women from LL that I am still friends with, and hopefully I may get more out of. LL seems to be the best of the bad lot of these sites, I have even had 2 1/2 successes with the intimates section. I would give LL 5 stars but it isnt perfect.

The upsides to LL are: LL seems to kill fake profiles quickly, No recurring fees, just credits (in Canada anyway) custom filtration is quite handy, quick searches are a good idea.

Downsides are: one cant hide profiles one has already decided isnt for you, no way to filter out women one has already smiled at, forcing one to wade through scores of pics, Doesnt keep track of total smiles sent to received ratio, the LL 'party'isnt geo based, so ergo pointless, poor profile weeding out in 'intimate' sections, girls posting profiles that state " I dont want sex/nsa" etc (so why the HELL are they on intimates for???!)

Other than that, the usual ups and downs apply to the site. Girls being optimistic about their weight, putting 'few extra pounds' or 'average' when they are clearly VERY overweight, forcing one to untick the FEW (and I stress FEW) extra pounds box. To be fair, alot of men tick 'muscular' or 'athletic' when they have visible beer guts, so it does cut both ways.

From personal experience, I have found with LL and all others that one has a high failure rate of smiles, flirts or what have you. With LL, I must have smiled at every half decent girl 18-30 within a 200 mile radius over the last year or so, Im guessing it must be at least 300 smiles I have sent out, for a return of about hmmmm 20? I have learned, that to have even a small degree of success, one has to almost 'smile spam' a site in huge numbers, just to harvest a few back.

In essence, Im just about done with LL. I have pretty much exhausted the site, and to send out another 300 or so smiles to get 20 back is too much like hard work.

Everone knows that with dating sites, if you are a half decently attractive and nice intelligent girl, you get huge numbers of smiles/flirts/IMs from men, and that women dont really 'need' to activley participate, it all comes to them.

I think im going to go back to hitting the bars. Least I can talk to real people and not sit in front of the PC to send out smile after smile for little return!!!

There's 2 aspects to internet dating sites that can be critiqued. One is the design/usability aspect and the other is the experience + ability of the site to enhance yr social life or find true love. In the first respect I'd rate LL better than 2 stars, as I found the design and features good. The aspect about LavaLife that really appealed to me was the prepaid credits concept. This allowed me to judicially spend $ on prospects that appealed to me and who I thought I would be compatible with, even if that meant going many wks without contacting anyone. Much better than subscription site that encourages guys try to get value by contacting as many women as possible. I also liked the fact that you could see a persons last login, so you didn’t waste time on inactive profiles. With LL my review will focus more on the 'Intimates' section and is for male readers.

* Women tend to be passive users. If you think sending smiles is a good strategy to get a response..think again, though its hard not to after using up yr credits on unanswered emails.

* My feelings are that LL did not have a deliberate strategy of posting fake profiles. I know of a few girls + even guys who admit posting fake profiles to stooge guys or too waste guys $ and suspect this accounted for a few. I found there were quite a few profiles that would be established then no further activity for whatever reason, so it pays to wait a week at least before sending email. Though you run the risk that she would have received many emails in the meantime, I generally found I had better chance of response not from contacting a women who was only a few days new.

* I found I never got a response from women with raunchy profiles. No doubt they got 100s of emails or enjoy being c**kteasers. Even though it goes against instinct, you'll likely do better with the plain profiles.

* Initial smutty or even just flirty comments never really worked, even to my surprise on LL intimates many women seemed to get indignant. A number of good looking guys I know who use date/chat sites assure me that women totally love it, so play it on that basis.

* In relation to the above I also found a number of women who seemed to just enjoy conversation. If things don’t start progressing after a few of weeks, don’t get caught up spending weeks in the hope. I don’t think women should have any illusions as to why a guy is using the intimates section, but a lot seem to.

* Average size for women tends to mean size 14-16. A count on random day of % of slim women looking for 'muscular' type guys in my city came to 75%. Fit in many cases is used because they go to yoga class once a week or walk the dog and is a weasel type description. Its not the same as 'she's fit'. lol. Also when it comes to age You will also find any woman with sex appeal, tend to go for their age down. If you are over 37 and hope to meet up with nice women early 30s or younger..think again.

* I logged on once as a female and found there was 7 x the number of males logged on as females. Articles in the media on internet date sites tend to be fluffy PR pieces. Occasionally you get to read an article written by women that roadtest these sites, that from a guys perspective provides a reality check. In these the women gets 100s or in one case over 2000 emails a week from guys, or else they give their candid opinion on guy's profiles as they work through them filtering out the 'great guys worthy of investing any of their time with'. Like many male posters have commented here, when it comes to date sites women can and do go for guys above their league + with adult fun aspect of LL intimates, x that by 2, so definitely be prepared to lower your expectations.

With the people I know, their experiences with internet dating/chat mirror those of many the posters on e-date-review. While my avg joe mates (and myself) would complain how the women were so fussy, the good looking, hunky guys I knew would have no trouble finding heaps of women on the www who were 'bang up for it'. The women with sex appeal complained about all the losers + creeps, while the avg looking women write off the sites because all the guys they met either lied about themselves + career, or were dating multiple women, or broke it off at the 3 mth mark when the C word stared to get mentioned. Pretty much the modis operandi of a number of the good looking guys I know who use date sites and go back for more.

With LL intimates have a go, just don’t have any illusions that different principles from the niteclub/bar scene apply here and you are going to get heaps of raunchy slim women. Don’t get f**ked up over it like some of the posters on this site, though it can be frustrating. Likewise take a reality check on your own desirability. If you are an avg joe guy, thin, short, slobby or bit nerdy, you are really better off networking via a social/sporting/hobby club.

After reading Tim's review, I felt sick to my stomach. I am a victim of an online dating addict, and as funny as that may sound, it was a very painful experience. Tim spoke the truth about the whole scenario, even him saying "I haven't found the right one." The guy dumped me because i expressed an idea/emotion that he didn't like. He made me feel less than human and actually dumped me through a message. I'm pretty much done with the whole scene.

Lavalife should be put out of business for turning on its existing customers with its new pricing policy!

Lavalife was innovative with its concept of buying credits for contating members vs. having to suffer the typical "Monthly Membership" charges demanded by other sites. This "Credits" pricing policy is what gave Lavalife the edge.

Nobody (Get this Lavalife Managers) NOBODY likes the pressure filled monthly payment system.

Its much beter being able to have months on end to revue, search and pair down to a small selection appropriate people who at some point you would like to contact. Nobody knows when somebody interesting will show up so is Lavalife expecting one to have to keep a open active account at XXX dollars a month just in case?

No way.

I hope you pay the ultimate price of loosing severe market share until you go out of business for changing your rate plan. You deserve it!

Lava used to be the "least dreadful" of the services. As of 1 September 2007, without warning, they changed their website and shut out customers like me who have certain computers and browsers. I sent increasingly intense requests; their only attempt at a helpful reply gave detailed instructions for a browser that I do not have. Four more complaints went unanswered. Finally, I received a cursory "We do not support your browser." And that was the end.

Fortunately, I had "only" 10 credits left, but what if I had just bought another 50 on August 31?

I still believe that they owe me a refund for my unusable credits, because THEY took their system away from ME.

What a shame.