Reviews of Match.com

Hello All.

I am in my 7th month of match (if you don't find your match in 6 months, you get another 6 months free). All was hopping for the first 3 months; got a lot of emails and went out on several dates with a few nice gentelman. But I have to say that I am astounded by the blantancy of some of the subscribers who email you, and in the next email, assert themselves in a sexual manner. I do my best to weed through these types immediately. Like the poster mentioned here earlier, guys, write engaging profiles. Also, I find that the men who contact me never really mention my profile (It's very detailed and good), or ask anything about me. Seems all some of them want is another photo (I have like 7!) Many are in a hurry to meet, and for COFFEE, no less! I refuse to meet for coffee just so you can "check me out." If the men do not want to get to know more about who I am BEFORE meeting, then that's their problem. Another issue is several weeks ago I added "I will no longer respond to winks." at the end of my profile -- I received about 30 since. Proof that a lot of men don't even read profiles. I am in my 40's, and nothing irritates me more than when I get a "wink" or email from someone who lists that they are looking for a woman between the ages of 18-(fill in a #). These are guys in their 40's and 50's. What a turn-off!

By now it is no surprise that a subscriber to match WILL be contacted by someone, who is waaaay younger (Looking for sugar mamma, or daddy). Waaay older, looking for some "young" stuff. Someone who is just horny. Or someone from Nigeria having an urgent crisis and needing your money, I mean, help. EXPECT IT! You just have to know how to spot them.

I guess I really can't blame match 100%, it is also a sad testament of the times.

I should read this before I signed for six month membership, Match.com for me is a sordid place where few nice people go to meet losers that are there for years telling the same story, showing the same pictures, dishonest and players ........sadly a huge amount of worthless people turn down a good idea that could help people that have no way to go out and pick up a partner. I am a female, very good looking with little or no time to go places to meet others...what I got from Match till now? very pushy old man wanted so fast my phone number, others complaining because I am "too" picky (of course I want a divorce man, with a job, no alcoholic, sane and with some good looks)....come on!! same experience.....all good looking man are gone for 3 weeks and their profiles are shown.....same people, same profiles. There is something named AFFILIATE ...read about that .....many man email me and then they get mad about something I say or I write ...something really stupid or nonsense and they wish me good luck in my search and gone .......weird very weird....i pay for six month....I am in my second and I did not meet ANY GUY !!! why? because I look for something serious, long term .......what that say? .....give me a brake!

I have to laugh at some of the comments made here because it seems as though some are expecting to join match.com and find a pool of pre-qualified men and women just awaiting your email. It just isn't so, people! Just like the real world, match.com, or any online dating service, contains all types from very nice, stable individuals to complete whackos. Match seems to be about the best option out there because it has a large subscriber base and doesn't ask you a million useless questions like others do. The only gripe I have about the site is that is lists subscribers and non-subscribers along side each other. You have no idea whether the person you just sent a note to can reply. And if they are unable to reply, are you such a tremendous catch to motivate them to spend money on a subscription? (probably not)

I met my first wife on match and, while that ultimately didn't work out (no fault of the site), I was pleased enough to try it again.

BTW, I'm 42, 5'9", no kids, separated, decent shape and average to above average looking.

Some thoughts and observations for those who have had bad experiences:

- You get out of it what you put into it. If you don't take the time to write an engaging profile, don't complain when you don't get any correspondence. That goes for men and women. I've seen gorgeous women who couldn't put two thoughts together and moved right along.

- Yes, us guys have more competition. Despite there being more women on match than men, guys will send emails to every woman with a pulse while women are more selective and less likely to initiate contact in general. So, make sure you do everything to get the attention you deserve. See first point.

- If he/she would be out of your league in a bar, they are likely out of your league online. That is unless you can show them how engaging and interesting you are. (again, see first point)

- It's easier to become a serial dater with sites like this. It's like being in a mate cafeteria. 'I like this one but this looks like it could be better. I just can't decide.'

- If you get shot down, deal with it like an adult; don't complain and move on.

- Women - We don't care about your vacation pictures. I've seen profiles with 10 photos of which one was of owner of said profile. You like the beach at sunset, we get it.

- Women (sorry to pick on you) - Much as I hate to say it, put up multiple pics. Guys are genetically visual beings.

- Final point which is more of a pet peeve - Anyone who actually writes 'I love to laugh' deserves to be alone. Perhaps you should also mention you like to not have bamboo splints shoved under your fingernails as well.

I joined match.com less than a month ago. And since then it looks like a nightmare to me. I´ve got a few replies, but all of them ended when those men asked me to send them the money to pay: surgery in a hospital for his kid, payment to the doctor in Nigeria for giving a medicine to his kid, and paying the customs fee for a box sent to my address. I have never thought anything like this could happen to me. Especially because this website was mentioned to me by my ex-boss, because his friend met a man via that. There are probably too many men looking for naive victims, or some criminal bands having the base in Nigeria and trying to get the money from women signed at match.com. Don´t think I would recommend this website to anybody now.
The rating should be minus 10, or at least ZERO - not 1 star !

Wow this review site has really opened my eyes to the other side of the screen. Like a well educated older man mentioned before:

I would go into expressing sincere interest into the girls profile. I would touch up on a few subjects to show that I actually read it. I even composed the e-mail in a nice clean format that would take me about 30 minutes to make sure everything was perfect! To my dismay I would get one liner responces. Not even complete coherent sentances. Something in the likes of "fine thanks" Or "nothing you?" or "thanks for the compliments how are you?"

I always knew the online dating world was oversaturated with males but I never expected the poor girls to have the chore of going through at least 50 e-mails per day.

Knowing this I will deffinately put less into my e-mails and endure the shallow sounding responces in hopes that she will warm up to me sooner or later.

3 stars because there are not any e-mail fishers or blatant attempts to get me into subscribing by having fake profiles contact me. Since its connected with MSN there is a good amount of traffic...which actually may be bad because that just means that there is tons more guys competing for the few girls.

I've been signed up for about 1 week and been paid subscribed for about 5 days and I've gotten 3 winks from girls, 2 girls I'm e-mailing back and forth, and A LOT of no responce e-mails that I sent out. I guess I should consider myself lucky :)

I just moved to Florida from Chicago for business. Just finished college and am 22 and doing pretty well for myself. Only thing that sucks is besides the weekends I go to Miami everyone is at least 10 yrs. Older than me. Thought I'd try match.com to meet some people. Just wondering if that's a good idea.

I am shocked at all of the bitterness and anger from people on most of these reviews. I would like to add some balance on the plus side here. Personally, i had a very good experience on Match in 2003, where i met up with a wonderful man within about 2 weeks after joining the site. We had instant chemistry and subsequently became a happy couple in a committed relationship for the next 5 years. Unfortunately, the relationship ended, but it did make we feel hopeful about meeting someone on Match again, which i recently joined.
i guess now i am forewarned about some of the scams that are out there, but i still feel hopeful. it's just another way to try to meet someone (and i guess i was extremely lucky the first time around.) Keep it positive and good luck!

I am 59, attractive, over $100K income, seeking males age range 55-65.
--Several "serial matchers" with same photos/profiles as 7 years ago; two of these guys I know are real. I dated them each--once. Just looking for one night stands, woman with money to support them, business prospects (one a stockbroker), etc.
--60% of the men over 60 are looking for sex. They are open and up front and very demanding. They will demean you immediately if you say you are not interested in sex on the first date. Huge mind games to make a woman feel inadequate, not with it, a prude; anything to get the woman to give in.
--30% are in financial trouble and need someone to support them or provide them with health insurance so they can get fixed whatever is wrong with them (knees, hernia, hip replacement, etc). A couple of the guys were in foreclosure, etc. Do not believe any thing a guy says. Before you get serious, do a credit check.
--5% are just odd or so physically unattractive that there is just no way a woman could endure them. No two ways about it. So, do not give out your cell or home phone number. If you want, get one of those pay as you go phones and use that number only for your match contacts.
--5% are nice, up-front, no mind games, not a player guys.
I have had over 2,600 views in almost 6 months and hundreds of emails and about 20 first dates with different guys.
Warning--I have had about 20 emails from guys where the profiles are just not right--language and syntax ackward, etc. Also seems to be a lot of non citizens looking for a US citizen wife so they can stay in the USA
I have not found anyone to go beyond the third date but I am really picky so no surprise.
Just be careful.

I joined this site on May 18th and less than an hour I wanted to resign. I found the emails to be fake as when I would click on them it said that there was not profile for them please try another.Constantly I would see the same pictures under a different user name.Many guys winked and emailed me from 2 very similar but different user names. I would recieve an emails with same content (job, exact wording) yet signed with a different name.
I would love to give this site a negative 100 but as it does not allow me to do so the 1 star will have to stand. I was in constant contact with them and reporting fake profiles with no direct response saying I must be doing my search wrong etc etc. I at least got the automatic renewal stopped. Not quite what I was hoping for. So I will chock it up to a $30 lesson in getting ripped off. I will be telling everyone about my experience so all this bad publicity is not a good.
So beware don't sign up as it is a useless fake site only out to get your money every month.
Good luck to all on other sites which truly are geniune!
T

I have been on this site for about 4 months and here's what I think . Also, if some of you ladies would like to respond to my delimma that would be great. Like a lot of people my photographs vary widely. I am tall , 6' 3'' and I am in good shape. My pictures are either really good or really bad . When I posted the bad pictures of myself I have been more successful. Although the responses were not as much when I meet a few of these women in person they were pleasently surprised. Conversley , the opposite happend the other way around. There are enough Women on that site that are solely looking for a tall guy and no matter what that won't change so maybe I should go with that. Of course personality and chemistry are everthing but I am begining to think that the initial unattrative route is the way to go. Comments ?