Reviews of Match.com

I signed up for 3 mths which ended on 3/13. Follow me here. On 1/13, I had the best date ever with a guy that winked at me first. We were supposed to get together again and even though he had texted me through out the day of our next date, he was a no call/no show and I never heard from him again. How odd is it that on the last paid day I'm on match, I get another wink with an e-mail asking me if I still want him to come over. It was exactly two months since our first date. I have to wonder if something or someone was keeping a timeline. Someone suggested to me that maybe this guy has a tickler file. Something tells me he's right. Personally, I'm beginning to think match hires people to send winks, go out on great first dates to talk and flirt (no sex though) then disappear for a while only to pop up again at the end of the time you signed up for to possibly encourage the other to re-up with match.

WARNING #1: If a guy only e-mails or texts but never actually contacts you by phone, that's a red flag.

WARNING #2: If a guy asks you to meet him in Boulder even though you've told him you live on the south side of Denver, that's a red flag.

WARNING #3: If a guy doesn't call to make sure you got home safely, even if there's not gonna be another date, that's a red flag.

I think there are other warnings. It sucks when your personal life is so boring you're willing to give these guys a try. I doubt I'll hear from this guy again even though I gave him my cell number so we wouldn't have to e-mail.

Oh! I too was IM'd by two guys that were scammers. One flat out told me he was on business in the Republic of Nigeria with his daughter. Abort! The other sounded similar. I think we texted but they couldn't actually call me "no phone card" whatever that means. Anyhow, I guess I was a bit naive and a friend straightened me out before anything happened.

I received a few winks but when I winked back with a short e-mail, those men disappeared, never to be heard from again. I think maybe they were decoys.

I'm glad I only parted with $60 for three months. I don't really want to meet a nice man this way but it sure appears all the nice men that I'd be interested in are married or gay.

gee Mary, what century are you living in?
men are supposed to pay for a 15K trip to Greece and you maybe..will make a dinner? or get intimate?
wow.. you deserve a 15K trip because you carry a purse?
the civil war is over, ms college do well graduate.

Geeze Tom, are you serious when you ask a lady to travel she has to pay her own way, lol! First of all, if I am at a point in a relationship where we are traveling... by this point I know this person well and I am assuming we are intimate. I would never stay or continue to date a man that expects his date to pay! I do fairly well and have a degree, but sorry gentlemen if you were brought up well, you know how to take care of a lady. A lady treats her partner well by making him nice dinners, and there are other ways to reciprocate, but a man of decent values, and social standing understands this is part of the deal.

As for the comments on age, I agree within 10 years is ok, anything beyond that typically doesn't work, and those people just waste more time and years because of poor judgement. None of this is Match's fault, its dating in general.

Also, why do people post pics of their children? I find this very tacky, and dangerous to say the least in this day and age. You chose to have children which is great, but they are YOUR responsibility, and when you go on dates you need to get a babysitter.

Match works in general, but I've found you really need to email and talk on the phone to get a good sense of the person, especially before you even meet them.

Have been on & off match.com for over (4) years.
I don't know of anyone who had any luck. i still see the same women I did (4) yrs ago. my interest is over 50+ and all I see in the pics is them with their kids and their grand-kids and babies and more babies. I don't want to see that I can expect to see a swarm of little door slammers over at my house if I write them. They make the website look like a website for family pics.

Then there are the women who are planning to compete with the younger women for some fella 10-20 years younger then them, like they actually have a chance! it is laughable.!

And these long bio's in the profiles are dreadful...so long no-one reads them. All it shows is how these women are in love with themselves. I counted the word "I" 150 times in (1) bio, as in "I" do this and "I" do that.
It is just hopeless on this website. I suppose it is not match.com, but the subscribers who are not worth the fees.
Mike in St. Louis.

rate a big zero. I am looking at over 50 yrs of age and it is laughable to see the cougars looking for a 35 yr old.
the ones that I write that look like the closest match never respond. I don't pose with a dead fish or with my shirt off and have an excellent slim athletic appearance and income. I really love the ones that want to travel the world and yes..expect.. to do that on my wallet. then it is goodbye... see ya later. match.com is a joke.

I think, as others have said before, that you get what you put into it. I went out with a guy who turned out to be much shorter than his description, pixs that are 10 years old, and much older. And they are looking for the 25-35 woman!!!
I believe that the writing is overrated: most men cant write and their e mails are short and curt. Someone else must have written these longgggg bios that go on forever. Stay away from those self centered, all important guys!
This is my second round in Match.com (in 2009 for 2 months) and I dated 4 guys and got to see one of them 3-5 times before he told me that "I was too good for him" (I made more money and have the real diplomas!!!). So, I now go by (1) picture--is he the kind of face I will introduce to a friend or sit at a restaurant with? (2) voice: phone voice is very telling...I try to meet ASAP so I can get it out of the way, eliminate, and go to the next one. In order to do this you need to juggle at least 3 guys at a time, eliminate, eliminate.
So ladies: go with your gut feeling. Many married men are looking too, so if Sat and Sun are busy --wonder why?
Medical conditions (such as a recent hear attack!!!) are not disclosed until you are at the bedroom door--can you imagine the guy dropping dead in the middle of sex?????
So, ask questions over the phone, dont expect too many e mails, get a firm date over the next five days or delete and start over.
It takes time and effort from both sides. If you are making all the effort then face it, "he is not into you".
Best of luck! I got one more month to go!!!!!!!

I would give Match.Com a ZERO. I was charged without notification from Match. As they say YOU MUST MEET THEIR CRITERIA TO EARN THE FREE 6 MONTHS.

I MUST SAY, I DID NOT SEND OUT THE 5 EMAILS. THIS IS MY FAULT I GUESS. BUT THEY WILL HIT YOUR ACCOUNT FOR CHARGE OF $107. I HAVE HAD MEDICAL PROBLEMS WITHIN MY FAMILY THAT I HAVE HAD TO TAKE CARE OF, ONE BEING MY NEPHEW WITH A BRAIN TUMOR AND TRANSPORTING HIM TO THE VA OUT OF STATE FOR SURGERY, THEN BACK FOR COMPLICATIONS.

IF YOU WAIT ON NOTFICATION OF RENEWAL, YOU WILL NOT GET IT. YOU ALSO WILL NOT GET THE 6 MONTHS FREE, YOU WILL GET A CHARGE ON YOUR ACCOUNT.

I MADE A MISTAKE IN TRUSTING, I WILL LEARN SOMEDAY. ONE GOOD THING HAPPENED THIS MORNING, I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO GET HELP FOR MY NEWPHEW WHO IS DISABLED NOW FROM ALL THE MEDICAL AND I DID GET A CALL FROM SOMEONE THAT CAN HELP.

GOD WILL HANDLE THIS FOR ME.

I JUST WANT OTHERS TO BE AWARE, READ ALL THE PRINT, AND FLAG YOURSELF TO REMEMBER. BET YET, DON'T JOIN....

I WILL NEVER TRUST THESE SITES AGAIN, AND I WILL WARN ALL THAT I KNOW TO NOT TRUST ESPECIALLY MATCH.COM.

Warning to all: Did you know that many of the profiles and photos
that you see when you search match.com, are useless?
By "useless" I mean that match.com accepts listings by people free of charge, and those listings are published, so that the regular match.
com members can e-mail them.
However, those free listers are not able to e-mail anyone, nor is it
possible for a regular, i.e. paid up, match.co member to e-mail them.
Yes, you see a menu which tells you that you can e-mail such a
person. But will this person ever see your e-mail? NO.
So, match.com fools their regular members into thinking that there
are all these people they can write to.
The truth is that only a small number of listers can receive, i.e. see,
your e-mail.
If that isn't a fraudulent practice by match.com, I wonder what it is.

The California attorney-general should get themselves involved in this,
because it is fraud and it amounts to theft by match.com. Mary.

I just read Jeff from Florida's review.....well written. However, my experience is very different. I took the initiative and winked and emailed to pictures/profiles that i thought may be a possibility....the response rate has been approx 1%. I am fairly attractive and my profile is well written. I have gone on four encounters consisting of three lunches and one Starbuck meeting. The first person I met for lunch was pleasant enough, however, no spark...no laughter, nothing....I thanked him for the lunch that lasted too long and let him know that I could only see friendship between us...he wanted more and offered to cook dinner at his house for our next meeting...when I let him know that I was not interested he threw a temper tantrum. The second lunch date had a toupe and was shorter than me...He was nice, however, again no personality connection. The third lunch date was short lived since he was quick to determine that we were not a good match. We quickly and politely said nice meeting you. The fourth was the nicest, however, again not the right match and lives in a different state.

I joined in Nov/09 and prepaid for six months. Thus far I am very disappointed with the experience. I am aware that the odds are not in the favor of the members. The house, Match.com, is more interested in having repeat members. I sometimes wonder if the e mails and winks sent go into a Match.com black whole. Many reviewers suspect that all is not up and up with the online dating services. I am keeping a bit of an open mind, will complete my six months and will not sign up again.....I will review again after my membership expires.

I have been with match.com for 2 months. I alternate between hating it and tolerating it. You get your hopes up, try to be a positive person and honorable, write a decent, sensible, grammatically correct/spelling correct/mechanically corrrect non-misleading and truthful profile but to what avail? I get maybe two emails per week and respond nominally to them (I have learned to be careful, not verbose, phrase words just so--as I am told this is what men expect--we cannot look or sound too eager) yet am congenial--because I am, but am tired of the (and girls, we all know the "He's just not that into you" verbage) vague responses and 'put off' till tomorrow crap. In fact, over half the time I think someone wrote their profile for them because the tone of the email (hurriedly expectant, curt...) is diametrically opposed to the tone of the profile. I usually have a "Holden Caulfield' moment: this guy is a phony. So, the site attracts a lot (3 out of 4) of phonies and I'm not and statistically I'm doomed. Guess I'll be checking out nunneries or the Peace Corps.