Today at a street fest I had the misfortune of being engaged in a conversation with an annoying acquaintance who pathetically expound on the fact he can not get a date on match.com. I find this site and it is as if this guy has been writing every male review. Here is the kicker, unlike apparently every male on this particular website who is reviewing Match.com (wink wink), he is not good looking, he is not successful, he is not funny, he is not that intelligent etc, etc, etc.

Shocking said unkempt slob who is 30lbs overweight, pictures date back GWB's first term, writes at a 10th grade level and not so subtly denounces the integrity of the female gender in his rambling narrative does not find success..

Now my story. After a four year relationship ended in late 2006, I decided at the age of 30 my best shot at meeting a like minded woman would be on the internet. After going on many, many dates I met a nice professional woman who I ended up dating for over a year. It didn't work. Oh well, such is life.

In spring 2008, went back on Match.com. Met many great women. Happened to meet a girl at a concert and dated her for two years.

Spring 2010, went back on match. After about a month of dating I met a cute, articulate and well educated young woman. Though I stayed on the site a few more months, our relationship continued to progress. Four months in, August 2010, we went exclusive and have been together ever since. I now live with her.

Bottom line, Match.com is no different than any other venue. Sure, for many it provides the cover of relative anonymity. However, after the initial "great to meet you" traditional on site date greeting, the dating "game" is no different.

So people, if you are a disaster in dating before you started using match.com, you will be a disaster while using match.com. (And vice versa of course).

A few tips. Be honest, be a good writer and present a real assessment of what you bring to the table, not the persona of who you want to be (very common in the profiles I used to peruse). And for God's sake people, know your league.

Good luck everybody.