I have only been on match.com since Memorial Day, but already it's been a disaster. I have never seen so many Nigerians running around - literally. They are easy to spot in their profiles - and each time I do they usually go down fairly fast. But STILL - it's Match's job to approve our profiles - they won't let me even state NO Nigerians or posers in my profile - so why can't they read the profiles and catch them? Why is it up to me? I feel like I am an unpaid moderator for that site - I see so many - from emails, winks, and even in daily matches. It's pathetic - and clear to me that the numbers that Match boasts are way too high as people keep rejoining each month or after their trial period ends - and these Nigerians keep coming back over and over and over again under new emails - and nothing is done and the idiot match screeners don't catch them. What are the real numbers? I know a guy who has been on Match for SIX years - he has met two women.
As for me - why I am I targeted? Well I suspect everyone is, but since I am slightly over 40 and these guys all seem to be looking in the 40-60 age range I am guessing my age has a lot to do with it.
Further, when it comes to the real guys - I am not sure what to think. I am very attractive, am extremely educated, an attorney with several top degrees and honors. My only downside is due to a medical problem - I am slightly overweight - with a beautiful face. In real life and on free sites, I am deluged with mail - and get hit on within an hour of entering every bar I go to..... by very good looking men - although the intentions of these men aren't always honorable. I am very busy so I came here. I do hear from very young men as I look young. But I do not get the volume of mail that I do on other sites. In fact, I would describe the sound coming from Match, other than from the spammers and guys with little more than high school degrees, to be almost a profound defeaning silence. I am greatly disappointed. I have a month. I doubt I will continue. All you guys that say this is a sausage fest must be talking about younger women. Maybe you will say that it is me - but seriously dudes, I am a former beauty queen, well toned, just have some weight to lose after I got fibro and my doctor put me on steroids. I am anything but an ogre, not obese or terribly big - and incredibly successful. Do the doctors, etc with advanced degrees want an equal? Or just a younger, skinnier beauty queen? Lastly - I will ad that I have also been contacted by a lot of much older men too that do look like grandpas. One was "separated" - and I told him I would not get involved with someone with any legal ties to a spouse - even if that spouse was soon to be former. After I sent him that email I found his profile changed to divorced. Goodness, even the elderly are lying! I am just shaking my head. Oh - I should also add that I have complained to Match about all the fake profiles and due to all my complaints - I was banned as a troublemaker and had to sort that out! Can you believe it - an attorney is giving them a free head's up to the scammers on that site - and it is the attorney who gets banned. Seriously - buyers beware. And women - especially beware, especially the older you are. If it's not a Nigerian, what is his problem. And if he doesn't answer - well a lot of these guys are divorced or never married for a reason and that is why they are here. Sorry guys - I know there are good ones out there and clearly ones that have posted here seem to be - but it can be hard to find the diamonds through the mounds of rubbish that exist on that site. One star only because you can do your own searches - unlike eharmony. But at least for the "cougars" - match and eharmony are highly overrated. I am more than willing to bet my life savings that even if I could cure cancer, most of these meathead sports loving single gym rats match dudes wouldn't even care, unless it somehow meant a lot of money - because a lot of intelligence doesn't seem to rate high at all on these men's scales. Thumbs down.