Imani says: "Real men...strong, powerful accomplished men do not join eHarmony, except perhaps to purchase toys."

So is that type of cynicism the reason why I never joined despite all the deals they offered me and the barrage of women who were sent to my e-mail as potential "soul mates"... because I'm a strong, powerful, accomplished REAL man? Maybe... but it's much deeper than that. I'm also a discerning, rational man that's a good judge of character and potential... and frankly, I didn't see much of either in many of the women on E-Harmony no matter how "strong, independent, intelligent, well educated and physically attractive" they "appeared" to be. What seem to be predominate among those types of women with all their "perfections" was NARCISSISM... and that's a trait that I'm absolutely tired of encountering in my search for "the one".

"Self-acclaimed" strong, independent, intelligent and well educated, physically attractive women, let me let you in on a little secret: NO "REAL MAN" IS OR CAN BE "INTIMIDATED BY" YOU... BUT HE CAN GET QUITE "IRRITATED WITH" YOU. No real man with a deep sense of self who's humble enough to bear all for the sake of love wants to be with a woman who wears a constant chip on her shoulder just because she's accomplished some "stuff". What "we" want to know is are you capable of loving someone other yourself and too many "eligible" women fall short of that requirement in their search for a "real" man with their superficial checklists.

I found it quite humorous that in Imani's post that the men she described who have supreme qualities who are on E-Harmony ARE ALSO screwed up egomanical, toy chasin', "cyber-sadists" (???) at the same time. This is type of cynical, delusional double-talk I encounter when dating on regular basis and tells me ALL I need to know about THAT woman and her REAL opinion of men in general... and I appropriately exit stage left without shame or regret.

The Woman I'm seeking has a genuine heart, understanding and empathy for others, a sense of community, has some kind of artistic talent or hobby, is never too sophisticated to be romantic or laugh out loud in public, and is more comfortable walking in a park than she is walking through the mall. Simple enough right? But these days, trying to find THAT woman is like trying to find a straw of hay in a needle stack without getting "stuck".

And if you've noticed, I never mentioned that the woman I seek had to be , "strong, physically attractive, independent, or well-educated". WHY? Because the type of woman I seek ALWAYS has those qualities... it's a given, especially in the eyes of her beholder. She's not just another female clone produced from the "I'm all that" assembly line with a "chip" in their brains that causes them to talk incessantly about how fantastic they are to anyone who'll listen to or read it.

Women like that have NO idea how BORING and IRRITATING that is to a REAL man that may "hit it" as circumstances dictate... but will NEVER "love" her "unconditionally". There's a BIG difference between SELF-CONFIDENCE and NARCISSISTIC BABBLING... the former gets respect FROM "real" men... the latter gets "played" BY any man that has the time.