You happened to find someone whom you believe is a "great catch" for you, and as you stated "you lucked up;" The questions now are... would you still have been this big an eharmony defender, had you not met this person, and was still being swindled and deceived like the rest of us? Would you still have been this big eharmony defender, if you were to find out, that this person is not all that he appears to be? Good profession, goodlooks, good talk, good game and perhaps a narcissistic cyber-sadist, who seeks to prey upon seemingly simple minds like yours? The service known as eHarmony.com, is an obvious and deliberate game, aimed at targeting the desperation created through the formulation of vain and unrealistic sterotypes by society. No matter how long one stays with the service, the odds of finding campatablity are overwhelmingly small, in fact, too small to survive the gamble. This is reality and no amount of positive thinking, can conquer scientific reality. Sure, as with everything else, some freak occurances can materialize and a few people can actually find , or think they have found, what's right for them through the process, however, this happens no where close to the frequency that they present in their bold commercial claims. Strong, independent, intelligent and well educated women, no matter how pyhsically attractive, stand a minus zero chance of finding a compatible match via this site, since either the weak, controlling, ego-starved men who join this travesty, are too imtimidated by her power, or she herself would not think of wasting a moment out of her day on their pathetic stupidity. So if you are a slow, needy underachiever, who is "star-struck" by what some veiled, ego-maniac presents and who is willing to bow down to him and his accomplishments, because they so far surpass your own, and if you are willing to be controlled and used as a trophy, to feed his narcissistic inner-man, then by all means, go for it, you might "luck-up" and beat the odds. Real men...strong, powerful accomplished men do not join eHarmony, except perhaps to purchase toys. minus zero stars to this one!