I was reading some of these reviews for eHarmony and I don't understand the disappointment. Yeah, it requires more than a month’s worth of patience, wants you to be open minded about qualities in a person and encourages you to go beyond 50 miles of your area. The distance flexibility is understandable. You aren't having luck at the bar? Thinking you’re going to randomly walk into him or her at the grocery store, or the cute fairy tale story that seems unrealistic... but who said that he or she of your dreams is down your street? It wants you to be real and not settle, get to the point of it, the root of what you want in someone. Hence the questions. I'm defending EHarmony because I went through the process of communication a few times, didn’t get anywhere and discovered I had to give it some time (more than a month) and man! Did I luck up! I found the guy that challenges me, blows my mind every conversation, makes me be real with myself and will be my husband. I was the girl that dated a lot, and settled even more. It is different (online dating) and at times awkward to explain how you met when people ask, but when I see what came out of it, him, I want to encourage more people to join a site like eHarmony.
It might not be for everyone but it is a good place to try. Of course you should be careful! Meet where there are people, use common sense and go into it with caution. You should be doing that with any new fella or gal in a new environment and/or new relationship. Don’t assume that it’s going to let you down, because then you’re setting yourself out for failure. I hope the nay-sayers find what they’re looking for, but also look with open eyes.