I joined this site at 36, I've never been online before, since I believe there was a stigma for my age group. However, it feels like 'last resort' time and, based on all of the clever marketing & TV advertising, even my mom's coffee klatch said "join eharmony you'll get married". I pulled out my credit card, and did it so I wouldn't have any regrets. I have been on over a month, and no dates, lots of questions and emails though, that lead nowhere. Speaking of credit card; based on these reviews- (cancel or freeze it b/c they auto renew you, and there is no option to not auto-renew!? Couldn't find it!). I guess match.com has better success, but you need to weed out lots of people, which can be exhausting at this stage, when you are already exhausted :^) I feel like it is the same as dating in the real world, the men want some one young and pretty, women want the most successful. As soon as some one is interested, the other party thinks they can "do better", so, it is the same short circuiting (not connecting) as out there in the real world.