I have used eHarmony a few times. In some ways, I like it, and in some other ways, I don't care for it. I kind of like the idea of them matching you with people, so that my profile isn't viewable to anyone and everyone who lurks onto the site (like Yahoo did the last time I looked at it). That kind of gives me a feeling of safety. However, I think that their "29 dimensions of compatibility" are overrated.

For example, I have gone on a couple of dates, and from what I gather from them and from reading the profiles of the others I have been matched with, it seems that eHarmony deems me compatible with women who are very talkative. Now, I tend to be a pretty quiet, reserved guy. That doesn't mean that I'm a recluse or that I go to social events and spend the evening cowering in the corner. I just tend to be quiet, introverted, and stand-offish. It's just my nature. Evidently, eHarmony thinks I need a Chatty Cathy to "bring me out of my shell." On both of the dates I went on, I literally had to work just to get some input of my own into the conversations. Though to be fair, the second girl I went out with wasn't near as bad as the first one. In fact, I actually hoped things would work out with the second one. However, she decided she wanted to keep looking. Nonetheless, I think eHarmony may be a little off in regards to what type of person is compatible with me. They should probably stop pushing that "29 dimensions" stuff.

Another strange thing I noticed about the site: Many of the matches I got were law students. I never was able to figure that one out. Oh well. Maybe I should have went to law school to find a good soulmate.

All in all, I think I should probably just give up on this online dating stuff. It may work for other people, but evidently it just isn't going to work for me. The only times I've ever had any luck with anyone has been in the old fashioned "real life" situations. I think people may just need time to get used to me instead of meeting me once in person and wondering whether or not they want to proceed with me.

Also, I sometimes think that with online dating, people often feel pressured, and that may be why it often doesn't work. For instance, they spend time emailing back and forth, and then they meet once in person and feel pressured into moving forward. Likewise, many people probably make snap decisions about people based merely on viewing their picture on the profile, and subsequently end up passing up a lot of people with whom they could have had a lot of potential.