I have been using this site for nearly 6 months and have received nothing except bills. I was very reluctant to use internet sites, but living in a very small town with virtually no one to even share a cup of coffee with, I joined. The ONE wink/flirt/whatever that I received was simply that, and I couldn't find a way to respond with anything that wasn't automated. I have voiced my concerns, which were brushed off. I don't have a solution, but I wouldn't recommend eHarmony to anyone.