I've never been a member of eHarmony although I have been a member of many other dating sites. The truth is that they're all just as bad as eHarmony. They all suggest matches for you that are not paying members or became inactive years ago. They all auto-renew you unless you go into your preferences and ask them not to do it. They all suggest matches for you that are completely inappropriate or not to your liking. So really, some of the complaints here are for stuff that happens on other sites.

However, the thing that makes eHarmony more offensive than other sites is that it charges top dollar and promises top results, when in fact you really don't get what you pay for. For the money they charge they SHOULD be weeding people out for you based on desired level of education, desired weight range (thin, average, overweight, obese), desired income, etc.

DeShawn has no room to talk as she has taken the high road here in shaming everyone for having preferences. It's not for her to judge people's preferences as shallow. They have a right to have those preferences respected and for a dating site to filter prospects for them based on those preferences - Especially a dating site that charges top dollar and promises top results like eHarmony. 'Nuff said!

BTW, a better dating site is OKCupid and better yet, it's free! They have a long list of questions you can take if you want that helps match you with other members but at least you get to choose for yourself which members meet your requirements. If there's no one you like at least the site didn't send them to you promising some hocus pocus method of matching you to your perfect soul mate!!