eHarmony has got to be the worst dating site I've ever tried and the worst way to spend $120 (for a 3-month membership.)
I have been a member for over two months, and there has been one match sent to me who was at least REMOTELY interesting (he seems to be an inactive member.) Mind you, I happen to live in New York City, too, so one cannot say there aren't enough men around here.
Most people on here have already written about the unfortunate fact that eHarmony makes no obvious difference between paying and non-paying members whatsoever (they seemingly keep matching you with everyone and their momma,) the latter of which cannot communicate with you in any way and seem to be the vast majority as well.
I, too, was very honest when filling out their never-ending questionnaire, yet - judging from their profiles - I seem to have close to nothing in common with my "matches." However many dimensions they claim to use, it's definitely not working for me.
There's also something a few reviewers have touched upon: there's almost no way to set physical preferences. I hate to say this, and feel free to judge me all you want, but I've been matched with some of the most unattractive men on there. Some of them sounded all right - as much as you can even attempt to judge someone's personality based on mostly canned responses to general questions, - and I would probably have fun hanging out with them as part of a group, but I have enough friends and pals, and I need to be physically attracted to a man to date him.
I would have given less than one star to eHarmony if I could, and I believe you have much better a chance of accidentally running into The One on the street than on there.