I felt I must add my tuppence worth having read some of the comments made by women. For a genuine single man the negative experiences are pretty much the same. I came across a few genuine people, as far as I can tell, a few scam artists, loads of winks from profiles that are either totally inappropriate (I'm in my 40s getting winks from 20 year olds the other side of the world etc) or the profile goes before I can reply, mentally unstable or desperately seeking anyone with a UK/US passport.

I to have been ignored and totally sympathize with the woman that said she found it hurtful when you write a well crafted email to someone only to be completely ignored. To the reviewer that said she never even sent a simple `no thanks' even to the well written, genuine sounding emails, please do not sign up again as it is this lack of courtesy that contributes to the negative atmosphere of the site. I do appreciate that women must get a lot of inappropriate `how about some sexy fun' emails and of course these should be deleted with the contempt that they deserve.

Also never get involved with immigrants from poorer nations than your own. They are invariably passport hunting. Also the ones from Africa quite often have AIDS. I personally shied away from contacts like this anyway (too many unknowns) but I have a black friend, originally from Zambia, who works as a nurse over here and she said she was shocked at the number of young black women she knew about who came over to the west looking for a husband to pay them and look after them when they were already married back home and were trying to get money for sick relatives.

A couple of final points are that this site has a slight feel of a meat market about it and you constantly feel that you are being scammed for more money (few few extra £s per month for email read notification for example). Also bearing in mind Google does a lot of work to rate sites and call up closely related matches, I found it interesting that one of the suggested alternatives was a sex site with the tag line of `The Facebook of sex'. Makes you think...