I joined Match a couple of years ago. I admit that I joined Match in order to meet one guy that I saw on the site. I was attracted to him, we really seemed to have a great deal in common, and I thought, "Hey, how lucky, we live not too far from one another. There, perhaps, wouldn't even be an cross-racial issues.

Let me say that, while I don't have a full body picture on the site, I note that I'm full-figured. The gentleman himself is certainly full-figured, but I didn't mind. He also stated that he loved women with an open mind.

I don't know what it is about me he didn't like. Despite the fact that I don't always agree, most people tell me I'm really attractive and I've got to have one of the most clear pictures of one's self on the whole site. But when I finally got enough nerve to even send him an email (OK, I'm a bit old school, but know I've got to grow out of that), he responded that we were not a match. I wouldn't jump all over the guy. I would just like to meet him for coffee and if there's no chemistry, then so be it.

I can't say that I'm interested in most of the guys I see. But I feel that I'm realistic about it. I don't want to date for the sake of dating when I know I'm not attracted to someone, as that is lying to him and wasting my time. I can't say, "just look at the inside, just look at the inside" and I don't believe I should, as my date wouldn't be saying that either.

I'm interested in anyone's opinion about this. How persistent are people usually on pursuing what they view is there match, particularly considering that you don't know if you've been blocked and may be wasting your time?

I'm not naive. I know it's possible that some people on the site, including him, may not be a real person. Perhaps his profile is there, like many might be, to make you pay your $$$. A shame though. He seems like a great match. Anyway, if you wish to post a follow-up, please go ahead.

Thx