Match.com is horrible. I completely agree with another poster here who called the site superficial, as well as the people who use it. I was on match for about 6 months, and after an initial "feeding frenzy" which lasted about two days, I no longer received very many winks or emails.
The emails I DID receive were frequently from scam artists who claimed they were widowed and traveled frequently. A lot of them did business in Nigeria! Can you believe it?? I fell for it once, but never again. I actually corresponded with one of them via Yahoo msgr after reading his beautiful, heart-felt profile. When we chatted, his English was broken in one sentence, then he would write a well-written paragraph! It was as if someone was taking the keyboard away from him in an effort to get me to buy into some scam. I'm sure it was. I was approached in this way many times, but fortunately I saw it for what it was. What a shame.
The rudeness of many men on that site astounded me. I would take the time to write a very personalized, well written email and not even receive a single automated "not interested". I was frequently ignored. If someone came up to you at a party and introduced themself, would you turn your back and walk away? Why, then, is it acceptable to do that on dating sites?
I'm a smart, attractive and confident woman who chose to go the online dating route because I have a full time job, a house and children to care for. Most of my friends are married. I am widowed, so it wasn't my choice to end my marriage, and all I really wanted was some companionship, and if it led somewhere, then great! I'm financially independent so I wasn't looking for a "sugar daddy', I have my head on straight and don't carry the infamous "baggage". I'm not an air-headed little princess and think highly of myself, but not in an arrogant way. I ask you, why couldn't men see that? My profile was well-written and no too long. Are men so shallow that all they do is click through the photos?? I, for one, read theirs, even if it was long.
There, I've had my say! I just don't know what men are looking for (well, in MOST cases...lol). Suffice it to say, it's their loss.