Many men on Match.com are scammers. Usually the same story, widowed with a child, travels for a living, etc. I met what I thought was a very nice man, very handsome, communicated for several months but I did do a background check on him. Needless to say it was less than desirable with prison in the background among some other things. Beware. Many of these men are not what they say they are. For $130 get a background check done and save yourself heartache. I am glad I did!!