If you are a man, you need to read F. Roger Devlin's articles, available on the Internet. Study in particular the piece entitled "Sexual Utopia in Power."

What most men don't realize when they go to sites like match.com is that they are only contributing to female hypergamy. This behavior is an evolutionary sexual strategy used by women, but in the current age, it's reached new levels of intensity as American civilization has become both more materialistic and more stratified economically and socially. There are fewer and fewer men able to pay their way owing to many years of disastrous economic and political policies; moreover, these men are also having to compete with women for jobs. This has led to a situation of women holding out til they are 40 for an unrealistic suitor to appear and save them from cubicle hell. At the same time, their assets and desirability are declining at an inverse ratio to that of men, who tend to become wealthier and more desirable with age. This means there's a growing proportion of men who will simply never be able to find a mate. The best way to improve your chances in dating is to become involved in activities with a high sociability factor. Internet dating does nothing besides temporarily boost the hypergamous impulses of females while leaving men poorer and depressed.

The female obsession with being discovered by a very wealthy, attractive and available man interested in serving her needs and wants for many years is only exacerbated by sites like match. You may be a good looking man with a good job and a modest but respectable list of accomplishments, but from the point of view the average American woman, she can always imagine a better deal waiting around the corner. You are just not good enough and the fact you pull in six figures and have a 30 inch waist isn't going to overcome her fantasies. These have been carefully implanted in her by nature and then jacked up by romance novels. (Devlin does a brilliant job of introducing men to the psycho-sexual orientation of females via romance literature.) Devlin goes a long way in helping men with good intentions and a genuine interest in a long term relationship leading to marriage and family understand why not only is modern dating so awful, but why Internet dating in particular is to be avoided.