E Harmony tries very hard to find people who are similar to you. They have a very detailed questionnaire. The problem is the people they choose are usually are not in your city . Also with this guided communication you go back and forth, ask and answer many questions, and still nothing happens. I am starting to wonder how anyone connects here. And it appears to me that the women are very, very,very, very, particular.. Its very expensive a $50 a month. E Harmony should give you a refund if people don't connect. Frankly, I feel I am a very nice person and I don't understand why anyone wouldn't give me a chance. If I ran a dating service I would ask that the members try to accommodate other members and not go out of their way to find reasons to not meet someone. You don't know if someone is right for you unless you meet them. And they are spending $50 a month so they are serious about meeting people. I rarely close out other women.