I am sorry I joined and find that eharmony is no better or worse than any matching service. They are all a shot in the dark.....it's like being in a bar....after you weed out the scammers, losers, drunks, married men, unstable, dirty, ignorant, you may get lucky and have 1 person worth talking with....and then what are the chances that this person is the one?

I didn't have great expectations. From the reviews I've read I see that many are from people who seem angry and have a poor understanding of the English language. I also read with interest that "looks" seem so important to many of the reviewers and eharmony members. One must stand before the mirror and ask, what do I have to offer....? I am fortunate to be attractive and I don't post my photo because I value what is inside much more than appearance. When looks fade, what's left....that is the question!

Keep your expectations realistic!

You will also find that what people write about themselves is generally not meant to deceive. It is more likely that they write about who they wish they were or aspire to be. I suppose it is similar to going out to meet someone, we put our best foot forward. The reality is in day to day life our best foot is rarely seen. We are just people and who has time to worry being perfect. I'd rather be happy!

I think I'll get back to the old fashioned way of doing things, get out there and mingle.

DON'T WASTE YOUR MONEY WITH EHARMONY - LONELY WOMEN BEWARE, THERE ARE MANY MEN ON THIS SITE TARGETING LONELY DESPERATE WOMEN AND USING THIS TO EXPLOIT THEM. DON'T BECOME A VICTIM.

People, remember being alone is not so bad, it's better than being stuck with the wrong person. I enjoy my own company too much to settle.

FYI: Married men live 10 years longer than single men, and single women live 10 years longer than married women.

Good luck to you....and remember what you send out is what you will get back!

Cheers!