I have tried eHarmony a few times, and I'll give it four stars. It's not that bad of a site, but it can be a little irritating sometimes. But then again, it's dating, which can be very irritating in and of itself.

It seems that a lot of the people on this site abhorr eHarmony. I can see where they are coming from, since eHarmony does play with people's feelings a little bit. It is very easy to see those ads and think that you can join and then voila, the first person you get matched with will be your life partner. That may very well happen, but chances are, you'll have to go through a few matches before you get to that person.

To me, the biggest problem with eHarmony seems to be that people are involved. I got matched with a lot of people who seemed more interested in "finding cool people to hang out with" as opposed to finding someone to build a life with. That was pretty disquieting for me, since my goal is to find someone with whom I can develop a meaningful relationship that will result in marriage. However, I really can't blame eHarmony for that. Also, I am not interesting in having children. I do want to get married, but I want for my partner and I to be a "two-person family." On eHarmony, I found myself matched with some people who wanted three or four kids. Again, this got on my nerves, but once again, I can't blame eHarmony for this, this was the result of the members not filling out their profiles correctly.

I do, however, wish that eHarmony would label the profiles of the people who aren't paying members. It would be nice if there was a notice on the profiles of the people who aren't currently active members.

I think I would recommend this site to other people, since I have known people who have had success with it. I think you just have to allow some time. However, it's not going to work for everyone. Also, I think people should try not to take it personally if their matches close them out or don't respond to them. Many people get VERY picky when they go on these sites. I'm sure the people closing us out are also getting rejected by their matches, too. I know it's hard, though. When I first joined, several of my matches closed me out and/or refused to communicate with me, and I did spend some time feeling like a total troll over it.