Warning: if you have ANY self-esteem issues whatsoever, please steer clear of this site. It will leave you scrutinizing yourself in front of the mirror looking for flaws and maybe finding ones that aren't there.

Here are just some of the myriad problems with eHARMony:

1) I have very liberal matching preferences so I tend to get about 10 matches per day. Of those 10, 6 or 7 are NON-MEMBERS who are not able to communicate. Before I figured this out, I had been developing a complex as most of the women I reached out to simply ignored me. (I am above average and muscular in appearance, my profile is literate and funny, I have a good job...) But this is why. Of the remaining 3 or 4 matches I get in a particular day, maybe 2 or 3 are Amazonian in stature. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I'm 5'6" and I do not date women over 5'5" or so. Yet I regularly receive matches towering in at 5'10", 6', etc. This is a complete waste of time as I will never date anyone that tall and I'm sure that these women feel exactly the same way about dating someone of my height. That leaves maybe one match per day. And this surviving match usually bites the dust due to a lack of chemistry, attraction, etc. You get the feeling that many of these matches are eHarmony "plants" because they barely fill out any of the Introductory Information. I feel it's eHarmony's way of making you think that you are getting lots of viable matches.

2) For whatever reason, I've been subject to the following scenario: A match that I am interested in makes initial contact and sends me a communication. We go back and forth and get to the e-mail stage. They want to get to know me better and give me their home e-mail. I e-mail them at home and that's when the rug comes out from under you. Never hear from them again. I'm at the point where I would just appreciate one of these matches at least having the courtesy to let me know why they did a complete 180 on wanting to get to know me better within a matter of hours. I almost feel like the victim of some hyper-feminist, man-hating, Hillary inspired plot to teach me some sort of lesson.

3) I went through a phase in receiving new matches where almost all of them were fundamentalist Christians, or something like that. Almost every answer to their profile questions went something like this: Who was the most influential person in your life? Answer: Jesus; What are you most thankful for? Answer: Jesus. What are the 5 things you can't live without? Answer: God, my faith, church on Sunday, prayer, and, last but not least, JESUS. OK, I GET IT. I'm a Christian myself. But these women were one cool aid away from Jonestown.

4) I also went through another eHarmony-pad-the-number-of-matches phase when 70 - 80% of my matches were from OTHER STATES. And not states that abutted NY, where I live. But from South Carolina, Delaware, Maryland, Massachusettes, Toronto! Again, like dating a woman who is 5'11", dating a woman who lives 500 miles away or more is just not practical for me. Moreover, I still received these matches when I CLEARLY SPECIFIED in my account settings that I only wanted matches that lived within 50 miles or less from me.

5) I consistently found that the women I were interested in were not interested in me and vice versa. It is very difficult to find that happy medium.

I can go on but you get the idea.

Of course, there are some people who have met their spouses on this site. But what percentage are they of the total number of members - .01 perhaps? .001 maybe? Given the multitude of people who are or were members, statistically, a few people would have to hook up. But in general, you truly will need the luck of a lotto winner and a proper alignment of the stars to meet "the love of your life" on this duplicitous site. I would avoid it. But if you do join, prepare to be disappointed and to have your self-esteem checked at eHARMony's door.