I agree about the pervs. I rarely accept IMs and always read their profile and check to see if they've read mine before accepting. If you check before accepting to talk, you'll notice that the pervs haven't even read your profile -- they just saw your picture. As to pictures, both men and women lie more often than not, it seems, which ruins it for those of us who post recent pictures and reveal our actual ages. I happen to look young for my age, and men assume I've posted old pictures based on their experience, which limits the men who respond because they think I'm another liar. The ones who I do meet are always relieved to find out that I do look like my picture and tell me that, but the liars limit the prospects. So, we need to blame each other more than the site. And, yes, you get a lot of gross older men responding. Such is life.