I have to laugh at some of the comments made here because it seems as though some are expecting to join match.com and find a pool of pre-qualified men and women just awaiting your email. It just isn't so, people! Just like the real world, match.com, or any online dating service, contains all types from very nice, stable individuals to complete whackos. Match seems to be about the best option out there because it has a large subscriber base and doesn't ask you a million useless questions like others do. The only gripe I have about the site is that is lists subscribers and non-subscribers along side each other. You have no idea whether the person you just sent a note to can reply. And if they are unable to reply, are you such a tremendous catch to motivate them to spend money on a subscription? (probably not)

I met my first wife on match and, while that ultimately didn't work out (no fault of the site), I was pleased enough to try it again.

BTW, I'm 42, 5'9", no kids, separated, decent shape and average to above average looking.

Some thoughts and observations for those who have had bad experiences:

- You get out of it what you put into it. If you don't take the time to write an engaging profile, don't complain when you don't get any correspondence. That goes for men and women. I've seen gorgeous women who couldn't put two thoughts together and moved right along.

- Yes, us guys have more competition. Despite there being more women on match than men, guys will send emails to every woman with a pulse while women are more selective and less likely to initiate contact in general. So, make sure you do everything to get the attention you deserve. See first point.

- If he/she would be out of your league in a bar, they are likely out of your league online. That is unless you can show them how engaging and interesting you are. (again, see first point)

- It's easier to become a serial dater with sites like this. It's like being in a mate cafeteria. 'I like this one but this looks like it could be better. I just can't decide.'

- If you get shot down, deal with it like an adult; don't complain and move on.

- Women - We don't care about your vacation pictures. I've seen profiles with 10 photos of which one was of owner of said profile. You like the beach at sunset, we get it.

- Women (sorry to pick on you) - Much as I hate to say it, put up multiple pics. Guys are genetically visual beings.

- Final point which is more of a pet peeve - Anyone who actually writes 'I love to laugh' deserves to be alone. Perhaps you should also mention you like to not have bamboo splints shoved under your fingernails as well.