Honesty Not Required

If you are legally separated, don't be honest about it. That's the best advice I can give you about eHarmony.com. This site does not tell you up front that anyone who is not divorced will not be able to participate in the matching process, even if legally separated and completely independent. Let me quote their e-mail to me...

"Please let me inform you that Dr. Warren created eHarmony for single individuals looking to find long-term relationships leading to marriage. Prior to the launch of our service, many people were polled in regards to what they desire in a matching service. The vast majority of potential users indicated that they wanted their matches to be divorced, widowed, or never married at all.

As America’s #1 Trusted Relationship Service, members trust that their matches are free of relationship commitments and able to pursue a serious romantic involvement We hope you truly understand our stance on this. We really do look forward to welcoming you to our community once your divorce has become final, also you will need to provide us with the following information:

-The county and state of your divorce proceedings
-The name of the judge
-The date your divorce was finalized."

Wow, if you LIE and say you are single, you get to date and keep on lying about your status. If you tell the TRUTH, and say you are legally separated, they don't let you date, even though you are "free of relationship commitments and able to pursue a serious romantic involvement." They completely neglect that a divorce at this point is a matter of filing papers and paying a fee, and that there might be other considerations (such as respecting your former partner, or children and their feelings) that weigh in to these matters. OUCH, so as you can see, telling the truth can only hurt you!