I'm an attractive, fit women in my mid-30's who just moved to a new city. I thought I'd give eHarmony a try after a friend found a great guy through the service. I'm about 3 weeks in and I hate it! First, the format of the profile section doesn't allow for a user's personality to come through, in my opinion. Everyone answers these overly-earnest questions, such as "name 3 things you are thankful for" pretty much the same way....health, friends, family, etc. The profiles all look alike to me, which forces me to weed through my matches based on photos, which brings me to my second gripe. I indicated that I'm happy with my looks and that my match's appearance is important to me, but eHarm matches me up with some pretty unattractive fellas. Not sure if they are exaggerating when answering the attractiveness question or if eHarm disregards this criterion. Last, I find the "guided communication" tool to be very corny. Is this a dating site for seriously shy people? If I seem interesting and you think I'm cute, just send me a note! When I first joined, I answered one guy's list of 5 questions, in the spirit of being open to the site's format. The guy responded by sending me another list of 57 questions! ugh....I closed the match.