I wish I had read these reviews before attempting to join. Since you can't see your matches picture before you join, I was truly amazed at the way people misrepresent themselves. Being 350 to 400 pounds is not a little overweight and trying to eat healthy. Even though everyone has some kind of body issue, come on, don't out and out lie and think you can get away with it. You will be eventually found out either by your picture or in person. Like it or not appearance is important to everyone because you have to have some kind of attraction to make a relationship. If you're willing to lie about your appearance what else would you be willing to lie about. That's pretty scary. I'm trying to cancel my membership and would never recommend eHarmony to anyone. It's just an appealing scam.