I have to chime in and agree that eharmony is a rip off. I didn't ever recieve any matches who valued those same things I put into the qualifying process. I am a huge reader, and I put that this was important to me, yet over half the matches I was sent had answered "I don't like to read", "nothing lately", or "The DaVinci Code" to the last book they had read--not that there's anything wrong with the last, but it came out 6 years ago ... they probably have some catching up to do. I also put political accord as one of my top priorities and this was entirely disregarded as I was sent many matches that made thier opposite political persuasions clear merely in the profile reading stage. When I kept getting people who listed "My kids" on thier "Can't live without" list (2/3 of the matches I was sent) I was frustrated because I thought I had chosen that I did not want a match with children, but I went back to the profile establishment area of the site and checked; it seems the question was actually a dodge on eharm's part: "Would you want children under 18 living in your house?" Very tricky, and it really angered me. FYI eharmony, the kids alone may not be a problem for some of us, it's the entanglement with thier other parent, or "baby mama drama" that we're seeking to avoid. I haven't had a kid with the wrong person, so why on earth would I want to put up with someone else's wrong person for 18 years? I am also not at all religious--no qualifiers, I'm not spiritual either--but I was sent tons and tons of devout Christians whose "Can't live without" lists included "God" or "My Savior" etc. When I complained about the various failures to match what was important to me (and not what eharmony thought should be important to me) I was told that I should expand my search area. Since I live in one of the largest cities in the USA, I didn't think my search area--50 miles, or the greater metro area--was the problem, but I did expand to 100 and that made things even worse. Another glut of religious Republican non-readers with kids. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with any of these type of folks, they need love too, and good luck to them in thier search, but they were the exact people that I specified I am not compatible with! I got plenty of requests to communicate and icebreakers and all of that as I am moderatley attractive and trim figured, but the pool I was given to choose from never actually met up with what I asked for, and in a city of 4,000,000 ppl the odds are that it's not just me being too picky. I even communicated with a dozen of these guys despite our differences. Mostly they were nice enough, and we had some pleasant conversation and laughs, but even a few of them were bemused as to why I had been put into thier match pool. I think overall that eharmony is just geared towards religious conservative types and doesn't much care about anyone else.