I'd like to start by warning anyone who does join eharmony, to make sure to remove the feature Auto Renewal right away - I can't remember clearly, but I think you get a discount if you check that box when signing up. Or perhaps it's automatic. Either way, I never freely choose to have an auto-renew on anything. I was done with eharmony early on, but it was useless to get a refund - their policies are really strict. Not a problem, I'll just let me 6 month subscription run out. Occasionally I would respond to an infrequent match request, but I was done with this "match system" they say is so excellent. More on that below.

I thought I would get an email saying my subscription was about to end - nope. I get an email the day the charge is going through for $140 bucks. No warning, which I should have realized is a great way to make money, because the lazy folks may just let it slide by. I immediately cancelled my account online. And continued to get emails from them - in fact, suddenly TONS of matches were coming into my inbox. Clever, huh? I waited a day, went through their cancellation process AGAIN, and still received emails, enticing my with potentially bunches of men looking just for me (ya, right). And, as many of us know, it's virtually impossible to find a phone number on eharmony's website. Then the charge went through on my card. The good part about this is the credit card company has their number. I am now waiting for the credit.

Their scientific matching process is crap - they pegged my personality as an extrovert. I'm not. I'm introverted, but can be outgoing sometimes. Their scientific process should filter this out. They would match me with guys who were so off my radar.

Eharmony is great for the photogenic. In fact, all online dating is great for people who take great pictures. I don't. Many of us don't. And most men look at your profile photo - and then move on. Just a reality, and I don't hold this against them. My guys friends are the first to admit it.

As a recap - any one I reached out to never responded to me. I replied to a few guys who requested contact. Then it just fizzled out during the emails. I would answer their questions, then nothing from them. I had my setting on Worldwide - but that's completely unrealistic. If I'd had my setting at a 200 mile radius, I might have had 12 matches in 6 months. I ended up talking to one really nice guy on the phone (only one in 6 months) but, bless him, he was looking for someone to listen to him. And listen. So, in the end, even though our emailing had a connection, on the phone - nope.

The only good aspect of eharmony is the privacy of your profile. I've tried online dating, and I am done with it. I just doesn't work for me, and eharmony has a lot of flaws. Good luck to the rest of you!