Location, location, location. When I lived in Wisconsin and tried e-harm I got one match every few weeks. Know I live in So-Cal and usually get 6-10 matches a day. It is a big time commitment and you have to be willing to work hard at it and spend lots of time writing. So far I have dated 3 women that I met on e-harm. Nope haven’t found the one yet but its and exciting process. You just need to stay positive. Also being 26 most of my matches are in there late 20’s. These women know what they are looking for and are very aggressive which I like.