eHarmony. Their site should be called DisHarmony or something more appropriate. Around 2003 while home on medical leave I decided to try this site and see if it was - as advertised - "a step above the other dating sites".

What baloney. What a scam. It dating site is a scam of some sort and definitely run by a very ideological religious group. I spent hours (and I do mean hours) filling in their online forms. The site itself and the form - kept bombing and I kept losing data. I have 29 years systems experience - and keyboard experience (my whole life) - so it was not me.

After a lot of tea and frustration I finally got this lengthy questionnaire completed, and successfully submitted. I got a response back that the "questionnaire was incomplete" and had to be redone and resubmitted. yurg

I decided to plow into the form one last time. Hours and hours later I completed the form - this time trying to second guess what the psychology was behind their questions. I was drawing the conclusion that they were culling out - those who did not fit into, some profile...most especially, I concluded that this did have something to do with - one having to have, strong and very religious, convictions. (that is anyone applying to join their site)

A few days passed after this supposed "successful" submission of their maze like form - and I finally received a REJECTION!!! I was not suitable for their dating site - no explanation given. A year or two ago I saw an evening new "magazine" show (say 20/20 or 60 Minutes) which did a "special" on eHarmony. The female interviewer (can't remember which one it was) - also - waded into their questionnaire and completed it - saying also how long, involved and complex that questionnaire was. SHE TOO, WAS REJECTED by eHarmony - no reason given. When she attempted to ask the founder - on the show - about this rejection - he was vague and gave no answer.

Subsequent to this show I looked up the founding organization and it's founder... and their ties. Just as I suspected - an ideological religious group. So therein lies an answer for many people. Besides which - in thirty some years of trying newspaper, magazine, and online dating - I have yet to meet one person that I could even form a friendship with. And I am just an average, neither ugly nor gorgeous, regular middle-class woman.