I belonged to eHarmony for a year. I'm not sure how the compatibility matches worked because the men I met had nothing in common with me. I sent a request for eHarmony to add to their photo regulations the requirement that the photo be at least 6 months or newer. Several of the men I met were at least a few years older than what they looked like in their photo or had gained several pounds. Eharmony responded that they'll send my request to the suggestion department; but as of today, nothing has prevail. The men were also not fun, set in their ways, and misrepresented themselves in their profiles. I don't believe that's eHarmony's fault but men please do not write down things that are not "you". You just look like a bigger loser when attractive women meet you. My matches were with men that I normally would have never dated if I met under different circumstances. I do believe it does work for others but a certain stereotype, those who are extremely religious and a little socially challenged. Women, please also be aware of men who belong to several dating sites. I actually saw someone else on my friend's dating site and what he wrote was quite different than his eHarmony profile.