The only reason I'm rating this two stars and not one is because I never actually joined Jdate...but before you dismiss my review, let me tell you why. If you're not a member, people can still IM you. And every time I get online... and accept an IM... some slimeball starts trying to talk dirty three lines in. This has happened at least six times. There is no way to join for a month unless you send a check (who uses checks anymore, seriously?) And, given the repulsive creeps who do try to contact me every time I innocently go on there to peruse matches, update my profile or consider joining, I have serious trepidation about wasting the $40 bucks or whatever it is, only to be harassed by pervs. If I wanted that, I'd go to the local dive bar on the corner. I once heard a comedian liken Jdate to the site of the "Unchosen Chosen People" and IMO it's true -- even if I am among the "Unchosen." I am sure there are wonderful men on there... but how would I know with all the generic "I'm laid back and easygoing" BS profiles... not to mention the droves of people without pictures. I am sorry, a picture should be a prerequisite. Looks aren't everything, but come on. I've had better luck on Match... but not as many Jewish guys are on there. I agree with the previous poster who said real members should be able to tell if you're not a member. I've tried to put that in my profile, but Big Brother at Jdate removes it. I understand why, to a degree, but maybe if the site didn't suck so bad people wouldn't have to sneak off to Facebook for a rendezvous. Good luck everyone.