I have tried eharmony and am currently a "member" although I have a free subscription for another month and will probably cancel afterwards....it's been difficult but I was half blaming myself since I am overweight and men don't have the tolerance and acceptance that women do in that area (look around or watch TV, always hot chick with fat sexist man...) anyway, I think that's part of the slow going I have experienced, but I did meet a great guy, went out a couple times and it was SO comfortable, it was as if we had always known each other, but there was no physical chemistry so I broke it off. Computers can't create chemistry.

The site does constantly send matches of guys that say they work out all the time and spend all their time at the gym (which I think is a load of crap from 98% of the men trying to sound athletic and attractive) so I have to weed these ego maniacs out and not waste my time, and there are very few matches that have the same interests and comments I do, but there are a few that I send the "get started questions" to but never receive an answer. What I have noticed is that the "closed" messages I receive from matches, are not any of the people I see on my end as a match.....can't figure that one out. Shouldn't the match be sent to both sides?

But I have a very close family friend that was totally open and honest with eharmony and he found his true soulmate. She's perfect and they will be married soon. It does work for people. Just can't work for everyone in the world.