I do not doubt that eHarmony works. However, you have to 'pay' to 'play'. I believe that as a member you are actually auditioning for eHarmony from the get-go.

Another poster here mentioned being patient with the process. This is completely true. To protect their paying serious clientle, eHarmony isn't going to introduce you to their core membership until they are certain that you are committed to the process.

Unfortunately for the internet dater, money speaks louder than actions. Not until you have made it through several of their hurdles will they begin to send you matches that are actually any good. This is true of most dating sites and services, even ones that are not internet based. Simply put, they are baiting you along. (the old carrot in front of the horse trick)

Let's face it, dating services are a flawed industry. Yes, you may ultimately find someone, but it's more or less like gambling or playing the lottery. You're better off not wasting your time and money.