It's interesting to be reading some of these reviews I had to post one myself. I joined e-harmony on Sept. 1, 08. So it's been 4 months now. I can tell you I have only been on 1 date that was ok but we didn't go out again. I think when I first joined I thought I would be spending $ like crazy going out with a different girl every week. The process alone of guided communication makes that difficult. So I thought , ok, I'll just lower my expectations and see what happens. My big concern with the site (that I read from these reviews) is that they still post profiles of people who cancelled! That just isn't right! No wonder when I try to communicate with 10 girls maybe 1 will respond. Some will close (that's ok by the way cause it works both ways and at least they let you know where they stand) But others (and here's the problem) don't respond at all. They leave you in limbo. Granted, maybe they're dating someone else or on vacation or whatever. But if these people left e-harmony then they should not be sent to you as a match. After you whittle down your initial matches and communicate with some, close some, some close you and by chance you are left with no matches, you have to wait for e-harmony to send you more. This takes time. I have to say my sister did find someone who seems really great! She found him on the 2nd or 3rd try. I think sometimes I get frustrated and down but have to remember that giving up is not a good thing and that special girl could be right around the corner. I believe the personality profile is probably alot of hype but at least they base a match on something. I think it's a good starting point. I'm not about to give up on this site cause I believe that you probably get a higher quality person (generally) through this site cause people here are more serious about finding something real. I have not joined any other sites. I'm going to give this a try. I think you can get crazy people on any site (even this one) as I read from a review here from a guy out on the west coast. (keying his car and all) But that's the chance you take when you meet anyone you don't know well. I feel sorry for that guy and we all hope not to meet that one (insanely special) person. As far as this site wanting your money. Well, it is more expensive than other sites but you don't have to get the rely id or the premium personality profile. I'll hang in there with it knowing that finding someone who really fits you is just a matter of meeting the right person. And let's face it. Some people get lucky.