I am glad I read some of these reviews and haven't spent a lot of money on eharmony. I admit, I have some strong limitations in my matching, but have been matched with 11 men in 6 weeks, viewed by 5 so at least half of them are still active! Three do not have their photos posted. Not sure if everyone realizes it, but you actually have to chose to have your photo posted--I missed that and didn't figure it out until after 6 matches. That's when I decided the matches who did view me and didn't respond to my questions were shallow. I am average looking, but they "ain't all that" themselves. I would be willing to communicate to learn more about them, if they responded. There really isn't a guide on how to use eharmony and make sure you have everything "turned on". I think if you or they aren't paying you can't see pictures either...sooooo...can be a very confusing situation. Complaints are on the site as well about not knowing when someone is not paying or inactive.

Got a great match today and in his profile he wrote "No longer a member!!! NEVER found a match, after trying for 5 years." That was really discouraging, but at least he's nice enough to say he's not a member.

I sent questions to the first 8 matches, 2 I decided to let them start the communication--nothing yet, no views, etc. My first match and I did communicate on a free weekend, he responded to my questions the same day, I happened to log on and see he had, so I responded to his. Twenty-four hours later got an email from EH saying he had responded--that was for the first round of questions, so obviously, a free weekend is a killer if you don't log in and pay attention. It never went beyond that--though I could view his pic.

A gal at work had great success with the site a year ago, but from what I know about her, she probably didn't have much criteria so it was probably easy for her. They lived within 15 miles of each other, now live together, and are getting married later next year.

Been trying to figure out how to keep them from renewing when the time comes. Apparently you're supposed to be able to check a box to stop the auto renew process, but I can't find that either. Going to put in an old credit card number that doesn't work just in case.