Hi there! I'm really disappointed to hear all of these awful stories that you folks have gone thru w/ eHarmony. I have to tell you though, it has worked for a lot of people, myself included! Ken & I were matched July 16th, 2007. I was just looking to get back into the dating scene, and really had no intention of getting married anytime soon, if ever. He is the most amazing guy I've ever met in my life & we were married in the US Virgin Islands on leap year day, 2/29/08 :D I'd had over 1200 matches (my criteria was set to anywhere in the world/adventurous Sagittarius that I am) between March-July. It had been the end of his 2nd 3 month membership w/in a year, and he'd had under 20 matches! It was based on his citeria that they hooked us up on the 'flexible matching'. There is someone out there for each of us, and the more people you come in contact with/'weed through', the closer it puts you to finding the one! Best of luck!