I've tried eharmony twice. Once two years ago for a couple months and last Dec to now. The first time I met someone I only dated for a couple weeks. She told me she had been separated from her ex for months. Turned out she was still seeing the guy while seeing me and confessed she was only doing the online thing to make him jealous. Very dangerous for me. This last time I received a lot more matches, over 500 in just a few months. Regrettably, only a handful were ones that I even wanted to communicate with. I met someone after six weeks, started dating, we liked each others company and seemed to click rather well. A dream come true, right? Wrong. After 3 months of dating she moved in with me and her problems started to show (can't manage life, BPD disorder, told me she was separated from ex husband for a year when if fact it was less than two months and at that time attempted suicide and was committed for a short period) the list went on as time went by. The relationship ended last month with her assaulting me and she now has three DV charges to face. And to top it all off a half hour after she was arrested and on the way to jail she made the allegation that I raped her to try to get out of going to jail. What a nightmare. I guess they see this thing a lot and knew she was lying. I guess I joined thinking I would be matched with someone "normal".