I've used eHarmony twice during the past 5 years. The first time I was with eH, I met someone who was a good match and we married within a year. She was actually my first literal match sent, but that I know is just a matter of chance. We have divorced after about 4 years together, but remain good friends, for which I am grateful. As most reviewers here have figured out, the compatibility system is smoke and mirrors. You will receive matches based on region and locality more than any other factor. You will receive more matches if you are in their database as Christian (as compared to other choices such as Agnostic or Athiest). You should expect that the majority of your matches will be inactive and unpaid members, who have no way to contact you -- unless, in one of the text fields you enter a timely message and type out your email address in some disguised manner, so that there is the chance that even invalid members who do view your profile can contact you. I have had this work several times and actually had pretty keen people emailing me, from my list of otherwise non-member matches. Example of such a phrase: "The Dems have just met in Denver and chosen Obama, and my email address is blahblah @ oohay with service provider spelled backwards." ... Such as me, dellforum001 @ liamg . moc ... It's frivolous to purchase a one-month subscription -- there won't be enough time to be able to communicate to enough people -- only jump in when you can get a package of not more than $23 per month. Lately they have packages for as little as $10 per month also. You can search for eH coupons, there are always many versions of coupons out there. I strongly suggest making a new profile and turning on matching, then just don't go back to the website (as in DO NOT LOG IN at all) for two or three weeks. They will send you loads of matches in the attempt to entice you to log in (and pay to join). By about the third week when you log in again for the second time, you will have a slew of matches to start with, and hopefully will have garnered a deal for between $20-$23 per month. They will send you better and better priced deals the longer you wait to go back and log in for that second time. Like anything else, it will be what you make of it. Try to make the initial questionnaire a 'middle of the road' psychological profile, and by all means I can't stress enough to list yourself as Christian as it is of course the dominate representation in the USA. Be creative and don't just hit radio buttons when you reply to people. Include their name when replying, even if it is a radio button response of 240 characters or less. You want to engender the feeling that you are engaged in the process and interested. For those individuals who are active members with whom are matched, take the time to read their whole profile and learn something about them. You won't come across as interesting if you ask questions such as what is their favorite movie, etc. It's what you make of it, like anything else in life. I had a great experience the first time and plan on having a great experience this time, too. One thing I like about eHarmony compared to other sites is that its pace actually gets people to focus on communicating. Of course eH knows this and its a part of their gag by design. One other match sites, I find that women are just bombarded with so many emails everyday that it's probably hard for them to decide how to go about good communication with any one person among the thousands. eHarmony avoids that by only sending you a few matches per day.